I failed to have sex with her..

[Baibars]

I already posted a thread a few days ago about that girl. We had our second date yesterday and when we were making out, i fingered her and she was really wet. I knew she wanted it but i just couldn't get hard. I have a grower too so i felt ashamed when she was giving me a BJ and i just couldn't get fully erect.
Just like 50 percent. Still had sex with an half erect **** but it was awful.
We spent the rest of the day together and in the morning she was horny af again. Wet like a waterfall but i couldn't fck her again. Few hours after we split she texted me '' i miss your kisses '' cause we kissed a lot. She's a nice girl with empathy but i feel really bad about my failure. What can i do?

 

[SW15]

i fingered her and she was really wet. I knew she wanted it but i just couldn't get hard. I have a grower too so i felt ashamed when she was giving me a BJ and i just couldn't get fully erect.

Just like 50 percent. Still had sex with an half erect **** but it was awful.

That's not good at all. Having a grower style penis makes this even worse.

We spent the rest of the day together and in the morning she was horny af again. Wet like a waterfall but i couldn't fck her again. Few hours after we split she texted me '' i miss your kisses '' cause we kissed a lot. She's a nice girl with empathy but i feel really bad about my failure. What can i do?

Stop watching porn, stop mbating, and get a Sildenafil/Tadafil (generic Viagra/Cialis) prescription. You might be able to salvage this. In general, women don't have much tolerance for this given that they have hundreds of options at a time.

Erectile difficulties at your age are usually a consequence of too much mbate/porn and more psychological (including dopamine) than physiological.

 

[Striker_93]

Been there done that and still happens from time to time, matter fact, it's happened to me a few times with the girl I'm currently dating lol so don't feel bad, you're not alone.

Stop masturbating/porn

Practice! Practice! Practice!(with real women)

Get some viagra(I've done it)

Drink lots of water/exercise

Pray to whoever you pray to lol


The more time you spend with her and the more sexual encounters you have with her you will become more comfortable and it will get better.

Don't make a big deal of it, easier said than done but the worse thing you can do is worry about it, just don't give sh!t and keep trying.

P.S. in my experience, if she really likes you she will keep trying and trying and trying lol trust me, like I said, been there done that.

Good luck OP.......

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. Just relax and you'll be fine next time

 

[AureliusMaximus]

What can i do?

You cannot force genuine desire.
If your d|ck tells you if doesn't want to you should prolly listen because it has a reason to do so.
You're prolly not really into her as you might think you are; I.E. your brain/ego wants to, but not your heart (translate that to your c0ck saying no... ).

 

[Baibars]

You cannot force genuine desire.
If your d|ck tells you if doesn't want to you should prolly listen because it has a reason to do so.
You're prolly not really into her I.E. your brain/ego wants to, but not your heart (translate that to your c0ck saying no... ).

but for the past few weeks my **** says no to everything. I really have almost no desire and no boners. Because she is hot and I would normally be crazy about her. It’s just that I don’t feel like it..

 

[AureliusMaximus]

but for the past few weeks my **** says no to everything. I really have almost no desire and no boners. Because she is hot and I would normally be crazy about her. It’s just that I don’t feel like it..

Sometimes "hot" isn't enough...
I had that myself cuz her personality somehow (could not explain it/see it, right at the time it was happening and honestly I just wanted to smash that hot babe), was off somehow.
Some people you just do not click with one some level and in my case that is where my willy wonka has stopped me lol

It has always been on some unconscious level for me, so I was sort of not aware of myself, but my second brain was and "warned" me...

 

[Robert28]

It's not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. Just relax and you'll be fine next time

Or until the woman ghosts you over it. Then it becomes a big deal. A lot of men have had that happen to them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Or until the woman ghosts you over it. Then it becomes a big deal. A lot of men have had that happen to them.

Probably because they tried to apologize and acted like it was a huge deal. I've had it happen a few times, not a big deal of you handle yourself properly.

 

[Striker_93]

Or until the woman ghosts you over it. Then it becomes a big deal. A lot of men have had that happen to them.

Dude shut up, he was being positive

And here you go with the negative sh!t again, wassup with you bruh ?

Go get some pvssy man, seriously.

I heard misery loves company but damn bruh chill out with the negativity.

 

[Striker_93]

Probably because they tried to apologize and acted like it was a huge deal. I've had it happen a few times, not a big deal of you handle yourself properly.

Yep, I always act like I don't give a fvck, as if it's more her fault for not turning me on lol

 

[Robert28]

Dude shut up, he was being positive

And here you go with the negative sh!t again, wassup with you bruh ?

Go get some pvssy man, seriously.

I heard misery loves company but damn bruh chill out with the negativity.

Wasn’t being negative. I was stating a fact that’s even been discussed on here. If you have a problem with me you can PM me instead of following me around on every post I make trying to call me out.

 

[Striker_93]

following me around on every post I make trying to call me out.

This is the 2nd time I mentioned you lol
I'm not the only one either, we all see it.

Like I said before, I hope you get better, I'm not against you, just think you need to chill out a bit. No big deal

 

[Robert28]

This is the 2nd time I mentioned you lol
I'm not the only one either, we all see it.

Like I said before, I hope you get better, I'm not against you, just think you need to chill out a bit. No big deal

Second time? More like the 5th. Nothing is up with me. Just put me on ignore if you don’t want to see my comments, isn’t that hard.

 

[Striker_93]

Second time? More like the 5th. Nothing is up with me. Just put me on ignore if you don’t want to see my comments, isn’t that hard.

You will feel better when you find a girl who really likes you and you're getting pvssy consistently, not being funny.

I wish you the best.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Probably because they tried to apologize and acted like it was a huge deal. I've had it happen a few times, not a big deal of you handle yourself properly.

Exactly.
Its sort of always an awkward moment or at least it can be. But you can make the best of it or make it even worse.
Its down to how you handle it.

 

[corrector]

Imagine being with a woman just to feel less of a man. It defeats the purpose.

 

[Rainman4707]

It happens to us all . I think taking viagra is a weak move. Women are very clever, she might well realise what you have done.

Yes...you feel like ****. We all do when it happens. You have to remain confident. I've been reading "rational male" over the last week and the mentality rollo teaches is that there is "no one"...so yes maybe you really like this chick, but dont beat yourself up or put to much pressure on yourself to perform. If things dont work out you move on.

Just relax with her. You are the prize here. The key is to be relaxed. Take things easy. No pressure.

I have a grower too. I dont normally go for *******s. Especially if im not hard.
Buy "2 women teach sex" or "two girls teach sex" amongvotger things, it gives great advice on how to warm women up before sex. My sex game has improved after watching their program. Watch two women have sex. They do things slowly. Passionate kissing. Then lots of touching, petting up. I kiss a girl for two minutes, then put my hand on her boob, keep kissing her though, then you can rub her ***** whilst shes rubbing your ****.

 

[BuckledWheel]

but for the past few weeks my **** says no to everything. I really have almost no desire and no boners. Because she is hot and I would normally be crazy about her. It’s just that I don’t feel like it..

You may be suffering from stress & your body is telling you this. Try to relax more. If you’re working out, reduce this a little. This happened to me once & lasted for about a month. After frantically googling this, I realised I just needed to adjust my everyday habits. It may also be worth getting a check up if it prolongs.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sometimes "hot" isn't enough...
I had that myself cuz her personality somehow (could not explain it/see it, right at the time it was happening and honestly I just wanted to smash that hot babe), was off somehow.
Some people you just do not click with one some level and in my case that is where my willy wonka has stopped me lol

Yep same especially as you get older and have had more sexual encounters

when you are in your early 20's you will be able to fvck anything that moves because your sex drive and hormones will be wild

By 30 your **** is starting to say "hey ive had enough of smashing any poon that comes along i want something i actually connect with"

Dopamine overload is another big problem but i am sure we are all more than aware of that .....

Viagra is the only option for the first couple of times once you have fvcked her good then you can start to relax more with her