Social Media vs Phone Number Closes

[nicksaiz65]

Happy Easter fellas.

I’ve heard lots of different opinions on this, so wanted to see what you all are doing in this social media age.

So when you all Cold Approach, are you taking phone numbers, or social medias(I.e. Instagram and Snapchat)?

I’m wondering how viable these social media closes are. On one hand, I’ve heard that it’s not good to just take a girls’ social media: that she is just using you for validation and it’s essentially a rejection. On the other hand, I have successfully pulled girls while only having their Snapchat (or in some very rare cases Instagram.)

And what about the cases where you ask for their phone number, and they respond with “Why don’t you take my Instagram/Snapchat instead?” I’m assuming that that is basically a dressed up rejection lol. And what’s the correct response to that: do you just roll with it?

Wanted to get opinions on where you all stand with this. I need to have a solid stance/plan involving this situation because it is pretty common.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Last time I was single I wasnt really feeling the cold approach. I just went with OLD. I didnt went for the number unless she agreed to a date.

 

[bat soup]

Happy Easter fellas.

I’ve heard lots of different opinions on this, so wanted to see what you all are doing in this social media age.

So when you all Cold Approach, are you taking phone numbers, or social medias(I.e. Instagram and Snapchat)?

I’m wondering how viable these social media closes are. On one hand, I’ve heard that it’s not good to just take a girls’ social media: that she is just using you for validation and it’s essentially a rejection. On the other hand, I have successfully pulled girls while only having their Snapchat (or in some very rare cases Instagram.)

And what about the cases where you ask for their phone number, and they respond with “Why don’t you take my Instagram/Snapchat instead?” I’m assuming that that is basically a dressed up rejection lol. And what’s the correct response to that: do you just roll with it?

Wanted to get opinions on where you all stand with this. I need to have a solid stance/plan involving this situation because it is pretty common.

I'd say in general, if a woman is not cooperating and giving you valid contact details when you ask then she's not interested. I'd say a telephone number or whatsapp is better than facebook, which is better than instagram or any of the other attention whoaring apps.

You could take what she offers (even if its garbage) and see if she's responsive, which is what really matters. But in that case I'd quickly block or delete her if she's not responsive. On the other hand, if she offers you some garbage then you could just say "no, I don't use Instagram/Snapchat/Twitter etc" and save yourself some wasted time.

 

[devilkingx2]

And what about the cases where you ask for their phone number, and they respond with “Why don’t you take my Instagram/Snapchat instead?” I’m assuming that that is basically a dressed up rejection lol. And what’s the correct response to that: do you just roll with it?

It depends on the girl. I know I spend more time messaging on Instagram and Snapchat than texting people and they have much better features so it doesn't have to be a rejection.

However if she doesn't follow you back/add you as a friend, doesn't like your posts or view your stories, has tons of followers and relatively few following, etc. Then that's a sign she's just rejecting you and collecting followers.

Obviously the most important thing is whether she responds to your DMs or immediately deletes/blocks you but that goes without saying.

I think Snapchat is more conversation oriented than Instagram so there's less of a chance she's just collecting followers.

So when you all Cold Approach, are you taking phone numbers, or social medias(I.e. Instagram and Snapchat)?

My recommendation is to go by the level of interest.

If her interest is high and you plan to be setting up a date ASAP then definitely go for the number, but take anything you can get.

If interest is medium then go for the social media since more followers/social connections and the ability for her to see your posts can benefit you, but being ghosted over text cannot.

If interest is low, then go for social media only if you think she posts a bunch of sexy bikini pics or something.

 

[SW15]

Perhaps I'm old fashioned but no social media closes. Always get the phone number. There is no substitute. It's a clearer signal.

 

[Young OG]

If she won't give out her number then it's low interest to me. When they offer me social media then I tell her that I want her number. Sometimes they will give it out and sometimes they won't. I'm not afraid to walk away with nothing if I can't get the number. Do you think a girl would offer Channing Tatum her Snapchat or IG?

 

[Chuck Taylor]

If she won't give out her number then it's low interest to me. When they offer me social media then I tell her that I want her number. Sometimes they will give it out and sometimes they don't. I'm not afraid to walk away with nothing if I can't get the number. Do you think a girl would offer Channing Tatum her Snapchat or IG?

Perfect mindset to have. Our self-esteem increases exponentially when we walk away.

 

[Grounded eagle]

Always get the phone number.It’s really phone number or bust.If she offers you social media she’s just looking to swell her follower count and for the validation that comes with.