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Based on @Jesse Pinkman's write ups of New York City, Miami, and large state universities, I thought it would be worthwhile to write up Dallas, the city I call home.
The Dallas-Fort Worth metropolitan area (DFW) is the 4th most populated metropolitan area in the United States. Dallas and Fort Worth's downtown areas are separated by 32 miles. There is urban/suburban sprawl that connects the two cities. Each of the two cities have suburbs in all directions.
Dallas and Fort Worth are different scenes.
Even though they are only separated by 32 miles, the mating environment in Dallas only slightly resembles the mating environment in Fort Worth. Fort Worth is friendlier, slower paced, has a more classicly Western/cowboy vibe, and is less pretentious than Dallas. It's also a smaller city so there are fewer options. More transplants who relocate from other US states to DFW tend to go to Dallas instead of Fort Worth. I'd say that's also true about those who come to DFW from other parts of Texas as well.
Because there are so many transplants, social circles here are weaker. That has consequences.
It's true there are a lot of transplants coming to DFW. A good portion of the transplants are married couples with families who settle in the suburbs. That won't affect most singles unless you feel like hunting for bored married women, which isn't easy to do.
Because social circles tend to be weaker, people aren't closed off here. Stranger approaches are usually at least cordial and there isn't any hostility to outsiders, unlike some other areas of the USA. The rootless nature of a lot of transplanted to Dallas adults leads to a lot of app-based dating, which puts men in a more difficult position. The better play is to approach strangers and join in on whatever in-person events that you can attend.
The weak social circles do contribute to Dallas' pretentious reputation. Because a lot of people are meeting strangers, there are no consequences for bad behavior. When there's no attachment, women can be as superficial as they please. Dallas has also had some fashion industry influence historically (Neiman-Marcus started here as an example) and fashion can be superficial. Southern California transplants have also added to the pretentiousness and superficiality.
Getting into one of the social circles with Dallas natives with strong roots isn't that easy to do. It's a lot like getting into a top fraternity at a university. Most transplanted adults to Dallas won't get into those or they will be on the fringes of them. Additionally, a lot of the Dallas natives who go to local high schools, then possibly go to some unversity within Texas (maybe even Southern Methodist or Texan Christian locally) and then settle in Dallas as adults tend to get married earlier in life, settle into the suburbs, and have children. Some of those people might be your co-workers but you won't be spending your leisure time with them.
There are a lot of apartments in Dallas with transplants in their 20s and 30s so that'll help with finding friends. They probably won't help you with finding dates though if you're pleasant to women in your building/complex, they might introduce you to their friends/acquaintances who don't live in the same building/complex. You generally don't want to get romantically/sexually involved with a woman in your own building/complex because that's shiiting in your own backyard. You could do it with a woman in a complex that's within walking distance and that's acceptable and maybe even beneficial given the point I'm about to make.
Distance matters. A lot.
Traffic stinks in DFW. With women having so many options here (there is a male surplus here like most US cities), they aren't inclined to sit in traffic to see men. Even you will dislike dealing with Dallas traffic to see them. If you want to position yourself for success, try to interact with women who live nearby. 10-12 miles was the max that I set up when I used swipe apps. Additionally, direction matters too. Doing this will make your life easier, especially if you have a longer commute for work if you still have to do some in-person work.
There is a decent amount of social segregation
In Dallas, White people tend to spend more times in whiter areas with other White people. The same is true with the Black and Hispanic populations. If you want to date interracially/interethnically, it's going to take some more effort. You are likely to see people of other races/ethnicities on apps and you might swipe on them depending on your preferences. You might have to spend time finding that particular race/ethnic group and where they spend time in-person in the area.
Nightlife has changed a lot in recent years
From the mid-2000s to the mid-2010s, the hot spot for yuppie type nightlife in Dallas was Uptown. In that time, in your 20s/30s, you went to Uptown bars to find other yuppie types, who were mainly white, with a bachelor's degree or higher, working some white collar job. Starting in the mid to late 2010s, Uptown's nightlife started going downhill and lower quality people started frequenting Uptown's bars. Crime increased in the area. Uptown is now on the avoid list for a lot of the yuppie type crowd.
Lower Greenville is the constant in Dallas' nightlife. It's not been the coolest but never uncool, even when Uptown was at its peak. Knox-Henderson was also good for meeting the 27-35 year old crowd and was less pretentious than Uptown in the 2010s but a lot of the buzz around Knox-Henderson has diminished. Deep Ellum has gotten a little bit cooler as Uptown declined but I have always found Deep Ellum to be a bit seedy and not all that pleasant. Some seem to like it though.
Even when Uptown was at its peak, I would meet better women in Lower Greenville or more relaxed spots. Better yet, I would meet women during the day, leading into my next point.
There isn't much unique about daygame here and it's not the ideal city for daygame. Nevertheless, it is a good option for meeting people.
Dallas is a Sun Belt city that grew more after the automobile and the end of World War II. It's not a very walkable city, save for certain pockets. There's not enough foot traffic to run the Torero-Krauser type street game that they ran in London (London Daygame Model). There's much less street activity than New York City, Boston, or Chicago. Downtown Dallas has a bit of a Manhattan feel with some skyscrapers but there's less foot traffic and less opportunities to stop women on the street there. Additionally, Downtown Dallas (next to Deep Ellum) can feel a bit gritty and unsafe. This happens less during the day. I wouldn't recommend walking in Downtown Dallas at night, though there are more dangerous areas than Downtown in Metro Dallas and in other cities.
There are two walking paths in Dallas proper that draw some audience. Those two areas have the most options for approaching. There's certainly sufficient foot traffic at both but getting attention can be challenging. Most women wear earbuds if alone on both of those paths. Parks in Dallas exist but are nothing special compared to any other Top 25 US city.
There are a few malls in Dallas but mall game was never my strong suit. Mall game has been affected by the pandemic, as has my next option.
There are lots of grocery stores in Dallas. There's one in particular that I've done better at for getting numbers and dates than others. Venue selection is critical here as you want to choose a grocery store where your target market woman tends to shop. There's nothing unique about grocery store game in Dallas other than the fact that most women are receptive due to weak social circles. Indoor masking has greatly affected this. In the 3-4 years prior to the pandemic, I also noticed more women wearing earbuds at the grocery store so I'm thinking there were enough guys doing spam approaches at grocery stores to lead women to do this in order to discourage approaches.
The Dallas-Fort Worth metropolitan area (DFW) is the 4th most populated metropolitan area in the United States. Dallas and Fort Worth's downtown areas are separated by 32 miles. There is urban/suburban sprawl that connects the two cities. Each of the two cities have suburbs in all directions.
Dallas and Fort Worth are different scenes.
Even though they are only separated by 32 miles, the mating environment in Dallas only slightly resembles the mating environment in Fort Worth. Fort Worth is friendlier, slower paced, has a more classicly Western/cowboy vibe, and is less pretentious than Dallas. It's also a smaller city so there are fewer options. More transplants who relocate from other US states to DFW tend to go to Dallas instead of Fort Worth. I'd say that's also true about those who come to DFW from other parts of Texas as well.
Because there are so many transplants, social circles here are weaker. That has consequences.
It's true there are a lot of transplants coming to DFW. A good portion of the transplants are married couples with families who settle in the suburbs. That won't affect most singles unless you feel like hunting for bored married women, which isn't easy to do.
Because social circles tend to be weaker, people aren't closed off here. Stranger approaches are usually at least cordial and there isn't any hostility to outsiders, unlike some other areas of the USA. The rootless nature of a lot of transplanted to Dallas adults leads to a lot of app-based dating, which puts men in a more difficult position. The better play is to approach strangers and join in on whatever in-person events that you can attend.
The weak social circles do contribute to Dallas' pretentious reputation. Because a lot of people are meeting strangers, there are no consequences for bad behavior. When there's no attachment, women can be as superficial as they please. Dallas has also had some fashion industry influence historically (Neiman-Marcus started here as an example) and fashion can be superficial. Southern California transplants have also added to the pretentiousness and superficiality.
Getting into one of the social circles with Dallas natives with strong roots isn't that easy to do. It's a lot like getting into a top fraternity at a university. Most transplanted adults to Dallas won't get into those or they will be on the fringes of them. Additionally, a lot of the Dallas natives who go to local high schools, then possibly go to some unversity within Texas (maybe even Southern Methodist or Texan Christian locally) and then settle in Dallas as adults tend to get married earlier in life, settle into the suburbs, and have children. Some of those people might be your co-workers but you won't be spending your leisure time with them.
There are a lot of apartments in Dallas with transplants in their 20s and 30s so that'll help with finding friends. They probably won't help you with finding dates though if you're pleasant to women in your building/complex, they might introduce you to their friends/acquaintances who don't live in the same building/complex. You generally don't want to get romantically/sexually involved with a woman in your own building/complex because that's shiiting in your own backyard. You could do it with a woman in a complex that's within walking distance and that's acceptable and maybe even beneficial given the point I'm about to make.
Distance matters. A lot.
Traffic stinks in DFW. With women having so many options here (there is a male surplus here like most US cities), they aren't inclined to sit in traffic to see men. Even you will dislike dealing with Dallas traffic to see them. If you want to position yourself for success, try to interact with women who live nearby. 10-12 miles was the max that I set up when I used swipe apps. Additionally, direction matters too. Doing this will make your life easier, especially if you have a longer commute for work if you still have to do some in-person work.
There is a decent amount of social segregation
In Dallas, White people tend to spend more times in whiter areas with other White people. The same is true with the Black and Hispanic populations. If you want to date interracially/interethnically, it's going to take some more effort. You are likely to see people of other races/ethnicities on apps and you might swipe on them depending on your preferences. You might have to spend time finding that particular race/ethnic group and where they spend time in-person in the area.
Nightlife has changed a lot in recent years
From the mid-2000s to the mid-2010s, the hot spot for yuppie type nightlife in Dallas was Uptown. In that time, in your 20s/30s, you went to Uptown bars to find other yuppie types, who were mainly white, with a bachelor's degree or higher, working some white collar job. Starting in the mid to late 2010s, Uptown's nightlife started going downhill and lower quality people started frequenting Uptown's bars. Crime increased in the area. Uptown is now on the avoid list for a lot of the yuppie type crowd.
Lower Greenville is the constant in Dallas' nightlife. It's not been the coolest but never uncool, even when Uptown was at its peak. Knox-Henderson was also good for meeting the 27-35 year old crowd and was less pretentious than Uptown in the 2010s but a lot of the buzz around Knox-Henderson has diminished. Deep Ellum has gotten a little bit cooler as Uptown declined but I have always found Deep Ellum to be a bit seedy and not all that pleasant. Some seem to like it though.
Even when Uptown was at its peak, I would meet better women in Lower Greenville or more relaxed spots. Better yet, I would meet women during the day, leading into my next point.
There isn't much unique about daygame here and it's not the ideal city for daygame. Nevertheless, it is a good option for meeting people.
Dallas is a Sun Belt city that grew more after the automobile and the end of World War II. It's not a very walkable city, save for certain pockets. There's not enough foot traffic to run the Torero-Krauser type street game that they ran in London (London Daygame Model). There's much less street activity than New York City, Boston, or Chicago. Downtown Dallas has a bit of a Manhattan feel with some skyscrapers but there's less foot traffic and less opportunities to stop women on the street there. Additionally, Downtown Dallas (next to Deep Ellum) can feel a bit gritty and unsafe. This happens less during the day. I wouldn't recommend walking in Downtown Dallas at night, though there are more dangerous areas than Downtown in Metro Dallas and in other cities.
There are two walking paths in Dallas proper that draw some audience. Those two areas have the most options for approaching. There's certainly sufficient foot traffic at both but getting attention can be challenging. Most women wear earbuds if alone on both of those paths. Parks in Dallas exist but are nothing special compared to any other Top 25 US city.
There are a few malls in Dallas but mall game was never my strong suit. Mall game has been affected by the pandemic, as has my next option.
There are lots of grocery stores in Dallas. There's one in particular that I've done better at for getting numbers and dates than others. Venue selection is critical here as you want to choose a grocery store where your target market woman tends to shop. There's nothing unique about grocery store game in Dallas other than the fact that most women are receptive due to weak social circles. Indoor masking has greatly affected this. In the 3-4 years prior to the pandemic, I also noticed more women wearing earbuds at the grocery store so I'm thinking there were enough guys doing spam approaches at grocery stores to lead women to do this in order to discourage approaches.
