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Do not call your mate your "partner"

HaleyBaron

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Currently there's a big trend of couples referring to each other as partners rather than lovers, mates, girlfriend/ boyfriend. It's part of the current progressive lingo talk to equalize the role of both people in a relationship. Aka, neither owns the other. If you are forced to do this, you are being used and emasculated. If she's not your gf, don't even call her a partner. Call her a fwb or a booty call. Do not reduce yourself to a "partner." And keep her from calling you that. It is a big sh*ttest and all the weak men right now are falling for it.
 

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Its over for ProgressiveLingoCels

My gf is still saved as "Bumble girl" on my phone. When she (playfully) complains about it, I just say Im gonna change it to "Main Plate" and she gets even more "angry" haha.
 

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Partner is being used as its more fluid to line up more with female mating strategies.
Monkey branching is less harsh. When "ooops" Tyrones ****k accidentally fell into my ***** she feels better because your the cuck partner while she is now Tyrones Bytch. Haha
You're not wrong as I'm seeing this use most prevalent in open relationships.
 

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Whenever a woman says "my partner" I assume they're either trying to obscure the gender (whether because they're LGBT or because they're a leftist)

or I assume they're trying to obscure the exact nature of the relationship (maybe they're ashamed their boyfriend won't propose yet. Or they're referring to a FWB that has them as a side piece)

I would assume that it comes off the same way to women if a man says it. Because I'd assume the same thing if a guy said something like "my partner" or "my other half" in a sentence
 
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I think it is more the trend to use when people have been together long-term but are not married. I personally read very little into it one way or another. I wouldn't say it means anything more than calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend. When I hear it I just automatically assume they have been together for quite some time but want a more meaningful term than boyfriend/girlfriend - but are not married and therefore husband/wife is out.

I agree it is a product of our times - but I don't think it minimizes the man in any way.
 

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I think it is more the trend to use when people have been together long-term but are not married. I personally read very little into it one way or another. I wouldn't say it means anything more than calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend. When I hear it I just automatically assume they have been together for quite some time but want a more meaningful term than boyfriend/girlfriend - but are not married and therefore husband/wife is out.

I agree it is a product of our times - but I don't think it minimizes the man in any way.
It's a very big detriment to the men. It's equivalent to calling him a tool.
 

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It's a very big detriment to the men. It's equivalent to calling him a tool.
I am not seeing that. I get being annoyed by it because it is new "trendy" language. But - I don't see any "emasculation" or making a man out to be a "tool" from it if it is used in the context of a man and woman who have been together for quite some time. I don't think it means anything.
 

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I am not seeing that. I get being annoyed by it because it is new "trendy" language. But - I don't see any "emasculation" or making a man out to be a "tool" from it if it is used in the context of a man and woman who have been together for quite some time. I don't think it means anything.
The emasculation comes from the use of the word partner. Partner signifies equal relationship. To her, calling her man a partner means "he has no control over me. We both have equal power in this relationship, except I likely have more because I got him to submit to using this as a word."
 

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Glad you made this thread. This has bothered me for years. It's extremely common in simp congregations like Reddit, but it's increasingly more common in general.

It's insulting to refer to an LTR as your "partner". You're lovers, not business associates. I always assume any couple who refers to their BF/GF as a "partner" is in a loveless/passionless relationship and the guy is ***** whipped into the woman's frame.
 

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Glad you made this thread. This has bothered me for years. It's extremely common in simp congregations like Reddit, but it's increasingly more common in general.

It's insulting to refer to an LTR as your "partner". You're lovers, not business associates. I always assume any couple who refers to their BF/GF as a "partner" is in a loveless/passionless relationship and the guy is ***** whipped into the woman's frame.
I saw it again the day I made this thread and I said enough is enough. I hear it irl around certain types of people and it just feels so disrespectful. I don't do relationships at all, but if I did, I wouldn't allow her to call me partner.
 

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I dunno. I see it the same way @Barrister does. Partner does NOT signify equal, by the way. It means whatever role has been negotiated by the parties involved (which is nobody else’s business). While that is a legalistic way to view it, I’m a lawyer’s daughter. There are many unequal partnerships in business and in life. My father used to say frequently that getting married is very much a partnership in a legal sense. And he would always explain: The reason you negotiate a partnership agreement at the outset when everyone is getting along, however unpleasant that may seem at the time, is that such an agreement sets in place the tenets and conditions of dissolution IF dissolution is ever necessary when the partners are NO LONGER getting along. It defines dissolution as a primary objective when all parties are positive about the future and in an agreeable and reasonable frame of mind.

To make someone a partner in whatever capacity denotes a privileged and special relationship between people in their endeavors, whether the endeavors are business or personal. You only partner with people who are worthy of trust (unless you are an idiot) and you negotiate whatever agreement best suits the needs of the partners.

How that impugns men I fail to see. If anything it calls for prenuptial agreements if there are assets in question at the time of marriage, for example. I am going to either insist on a prenup, or put everything I own in an irrevocable trust, or both. Best to marry poor, at least on paper.

Partner to me is interchangeable and denotes a special, privileged status in my life. So does fiancé and so does husband, which are the terms I use the vast majority of the time in my own affairs, but this is seriously word salad hulabaloo.
 

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I dunno. I see it the same way @Barrister does. Partner does NOT signify equal, by the way. It means whatever role has been negotiated by the parties involved (which is nobody else’s business). While that is a legalistic way to view it, I’m a lawyer’s daughter. There are many unequal partnerships in business and in life. My father used to say frequently that getting married is very much a partnership in a legal sense. And he would always explain: The reason you negotiate a partnership agreement at the outset when everyone is getting along, however unpleasant that may seem at the time, is that such an agreement sets in place the tenets and conditions of dissolution IF dissolution is ever necessary when the partners are NO LONGER getting along. It defines dissolution as a primary objective when all parties are positive about the future and in an agreeable and reasonable frame of mind.

To make someone a partner in whatever capacity denotes a privileged and special relationship between people in their endeavors, whether the endeavors are business or personal. You only partner with people who are worthy of trust (unless you are an idiot) and you negotiate whatever agreement best suits the needs of the partners.

How that impugns men I fail to see. If anything it calls for prenuptial agreements if there are assets in question at the time of marriage, for example. I am going to either insist on a prenup, or put everything I own in an irrevocable trust, or both. Best to marry poor, at least on paper.

Partner to me is interchangeable and denotes a special, privileged status in my life. So does fiancé and so does husband, which are the terms I use the vast majority of the time in my own affairs, but this is seriously word salad hulabaloo.
People get too hung up on words. And not just with relationships. Kind of funny that SS preaches "judge her by her actions - not words" as well, but then we have a post here deploring the use of a word to describe a relationship and acting like it is some major deal if a woman uses it. Even going so far as to call it a sh1t test. So which is it?

Personally, I don't understand the fuss. Who gives a fu*k if she calls you her partner? Will still be pounding her later and making her feel that I am the leader in all ways.
 
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lol yeah either the guy is completely whipped or the passion died a long time ago. Not a position you want to be in.
 

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People get too hung up on words. And not just with relationships. Kind of funny that SS preaches "judge her by her actions - not words" as well, but then we have a post here deploring the use of a word to describe a relationship and acting like it is some major deal if a woman uses it. Even going so far as to call it a sh1t test. So which is it?

Personally, I don't understand the fuss. Who gives a fu*k if she calls you her partner? Will still be pounding her later and making her feel that I am the leader in all ways.
Context. Words have power socially. I can care less for a woman's words, but if they are aimed at me, it becomes a different matter entirely. If a woman starts calling me demeaning stuff like partners, it means she has no respect for me and she is projecting that energy to those around me. At that point, it's absolutely up to you to put her in check. None of us will sit by and let a woman badmouth us in front of company.
 

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Context. Words have power socially. I can care less for a woman's words, but if they are aimed at me, it becomes a different matter entirely. If a woman starts calling me demeaning stuff like partners, it means she has no respect for me and she is projecting that energy to those around me. At that point, it's absolutely up to you to put her in check. None of us will sit by and let a woman badmouth us in front of company.
They don't have any power if we choose not to give them power. I realize that communication is important, but most of the time it isn't worth any type of emotional reaction.

Girl is fwb and/or plate and calls me "partner" ---> I look at her like she's crazy and laugh it off. We aren't anything let alone "partners." Sounds like she is trying to lock me down.

Girl is girlfriend/LTR and calls me "partner" ---> I don't see really some insult if she does this. It doesn't denote anything more or less than if she calls me "boyfriend." It implies an intimate relationship and where we function as a unit in many ways including romantically.

Girl is my wife and calls me "partner" ---> This would be the only setting where I would feel somewhat insulted and immediately would set a boundary and tell her not to call me "partner" again. Because I am her husband, not just a "partner." To me, a woman who have I committed to to the point of making her my wife owes me more respect specifically in this situation. "Partner" does not convey my dedication to the woman in this situation.

My 2 cents.
 

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They don't have any power if we choose not to give them power. I realize that communication is important, but most of the time it isn't worth any type of emotional reaction.

Girl is fwb and/or plate and calls me "partner" ---> I look at her like she's crazy and laugh it off. We aren't anything let alone "partners." Sounds like she is trying to lock me down.

Girl is girlfriend/LTR and calls me "partner" ---> I don't see really some insult if she does this. It doesn't denote anything more or less than if she calls me "boyfriend." It implies an intimate relationship and where we function as a unit in many ways including romantically.

Girl is my wife and calls me "partner" ---> This would be the only setting where I would feel somewhat insulted and immediately would set a boundary and tell her not to call me "partner" again. Because I am her husband, not just a "partner." To me, a woman who have I committed to to the point of making her my wife owes me more respect specifically in this situation. "Partner" does not convey my dedication to the woman in this situation.

My 2 cents.
Saying partner is not some banter between two sexual people. It's definitely not being used as such publicly. It is used currently as a way for women to say "this man has no hold over me." That is it's intention and its form. Like it was said earlier, it originated from gay couples, and is just one of the many things that is coming from the LGBT community to muddle the waters of hetereosexual relations between man and woman. Looking it psychologically, this is a bad thing since a lot of hate comes from that side of the community to begin with.
 
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