Talking about yourself is not a bad way to make women into you

[FlexpertHamilton]

I had always heard that when talking to women, you just need to ask them questions and get them talking about themselves. Well, this is quite simply bad advice. Asking people questions over and over again is boring, and that's not how conversations is supposed to work. It just ends up sounding like an interview.

I have found it much better to let the conversation flow, and comment on the things they say, disagree with them, or amplify them and relate them to yourself. Don't be afraid to talk about yourself a lot. I used to think this would be a turn off for them, but it's not. Men are quite simply more interesting than women. It took me a long time to realize the strategy to "get women talking about themselves" is some simp **** used by guys who are too nervous to have a normal conversation with a woman.

Of course, if you're going to talk a lot, make sure it's interesting things, instead of just rambling out of nervousness. Women will do the same thing. You need to not be afraid to interrupt, either.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I tend to shoot for older broads being a mature man 35> this means they’re more experienced and more skeptical, unfortunately.

I’ve found that women rarely enter an interaction looking for the good, they are looking to disqualify. As a result they over analyze a lot and if you speak of yourself more than you engage her in conversation and ask questions they often think you’re too into yourself- the new jargon women love is “narcissist”.

Also, do not forget that YOU, yes YOU sir are looking to disqualify HER. In order to do it you need to ask questions and gauge reactions- don’t blow your wad in conversations. Remember your attention and participation is valuable and you don’t give it to just anyone: she must earn it.

Not sure if you’re going for the lay and nexting, but if you are looking for a relationship you will need to jealously hand feed her here and there to keep her interested and challenged, your life is gold, do not spend it all in one place or all at once, titrate.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I get your points. I mostly talk about things I find interesting. I certainly know it's easy for them to lose interest in you if you talk about your personal life. Though, I also do select for women by saying deliberately offensive things to see if they have a sense of humor, and if they get scared off, it ends up being my own filter in the end since I don't want a SJW type anyway.

I wasn't saying you should talk 90% of the time, more that you shouldn't be afraid to. I can disqualify a woman easily without her needing to talk much. After all, what women say doesn't matter, it's what they do.



Also

I tend to shoot for older broads

Why?

 

[SexManiac]

It depends what you are talking. Only good if it DHV, bad if it is LDV

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Why? (do you shoot for older broads)

I'm in my 50's - gals younger than 35 typically are either looking for a baby daddy or will not be stable plates. I did date women in their 20's when I was in my mid-40's, that was a phase.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I'm in my 50's - gals younger than 35 typically are either looking for a baby daddy or will not be stable plates. I did date women in their 20's when I was in my mid-40's, that was a phase.

Oh, i thought maybe you were only 40 or something.

 

[Dr.Suave]

At one point I just said f0ck this and stop worrying if the conversations were doing well and instead focused on enjoying whatever the date was about (food, movie, whatever).