Why do girls play hard to get?

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Simple question....
Obviously i know she like me.
Her family likes me....
So why pretend she is hard to get,?
 

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To convey a higher value. It’s easy to do, any girl can do it, and most of them do.
Two examples from my experience: high school girl who liked me, calling me all the time, made my homework, helped me. At the first sign I liked her, she started playing hard to get. I ignored her. After high school she became gf of my close friend just to be in my social circle. My buddy complained for a year she didn’t let him even kiss her. She married a guy and moved in the states. 20 years now she keeps calling me.
Second example: girl 10 years my junior, work colleague, used to slip cut out paper hearts in my daily planner, came every day into my office. After I left the company she called me after one year. After another 2 years we met by chance, took her out for a coffee. From that moment she started playing hard to get. Ignored her, after another 3 years we met by chance and she said when I take her out again.
So not all the time she is not interested.
 

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Because they don't want to look easy.
 

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Just a tactic they use to demonstrate their value. They want you to know they have options. As long as you know she's playing hard to get because she likes you and not for any other reason - there's nothing to worry about. Just go along with it. My current girlfriend did this. I knew her for a while - she was a friend of a friend. Nothing happened for the longest time but at a certain point I could tell she was starting to catch feelings so I sent her a text. Just asked her when she was around so we could talk. She said she would call me at x time and didn't. I called her the following day, no answer. I figured it was some kind of hard to get game. I waited about a week and called her again, it was early in the week. I made some small talk and then told her after work I was going to go to such and such a place to eat and have a drink and I expected her to be there. I said it in a joking playful way. She laughed and said didn't want to disappoint.

That's all it takes man. If there's genuine interest, all you have to do is go along with it and persist for a little while. Hard to get does not mean many weeks or months on end however, that's just low interest and she likes to play head games for the sake of it.
 

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Its part of the game.
 

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It's simple really.
She currently has a boyfriend and is keeping you as a backup option just in case things go sour.

Playing hard to get either means she's unavailable or she's not attracted to you or she's weighing her options.

Some guys like to cough this up as game.
But honestly I don't have the patience for this nonsense.
 

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It's simple really.
She currently has a boyfriend and is keeping you as a backup option just in case things go sour.

Playing hard to get either means she's unavailable or she's not attracted to you or she's weighing her options.

Some guys like to cough this up as game.
But honestly I don't have the patience for this nonsense.
 

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Who cares why women do what they do.

Just keep meeting new ones, constantly, and maintain some abundance. I don't really bother trying to understand what any one woman is doing since it just plays into their game. 95% of the time, the best solution is forget about them; only high-interest women are worth your time.

If your gut is telling you something, listen to it. It should be very obvious if a girl is into you, and there is zero reason you should have a hard time in any relationship. If you do have a hard time, like in your example, ghost her.

Withdrawing attention has two benefits: it saves you effort to pursue other women, and it brings about the possibility of increasing her attraction, without you needing to do anything (but if not, who cares).
 
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Simple question....
Obviously i know she like me.
Her family likes me....
So why pretend she is hard to get,?
Girls that play hard to get aren't playing hard to get. It's simply your ego misreading things and justifying her actions because you think she is more interested than she is.

She isn't pretending. She is sending you a clear message, you just aren't willing to receive it.
 

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Girls that play hard to get aren't playing hard to get. It's simply your ego misreading things and justifying her actions because you think she is more interested than she is.

She isn't pretending. She is sending you a clear message, you just aren't willing to receive it.
Generally yes, but not always. See my reply above with some personal examples.
 

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Girls that play hard to get aren't playing hard to get. It's simply your ego misreading things and justifying her actions because you think she is more interested than she is.

She isn't pretending. She is sending you a clear message, you just aren't willing to receive it.
women do this , as a way to make themselves scarce and thus improve their value
 

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Generally yes, but not always. See my reply above with some personal examples.
some women play the hard to get game , in the sense of making themselves scarce and enigmatic even during relationships , as a way to force your hand

it is really frustrating for the guys , but it is really good for the women ( in the sense that usually they get what they wanted )
 

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Girls that play hard to get aren't playing hard to get. It's simply your ego misreading things and justifying her actions because you think she is more interested than she is.

She isn't pretending. She is sending you a clear message, you just aren't willing to receive it.
Plenty have gotten lays out of what they thought was hard to get. Man has to judge his effectiveness.
 
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