How to deal with girls disqualifying themselves because of their own looks/weight/age?

[SargeMaximus]

Hey guys, this is a thing I’ve encountered a few times and I don’t know how you deal with it. Since it isn’t in my style at all I’m very open to trying suggestions here.

basically lately women been saying “oh my age/weight/looks don’t bother you?” And they keep trying endlessly (I assume) to get me to reassure and compliment them like a beta but I also feel like if I go for them they will see me as lesser than the men who wouldn’t tolerate them for whatever issue they have.

So it seems like a losing scenario, and while I’m sure you all will say “stop going after fatties/older women, etc”, the current girl I’m talking to isn’t fat, she’s got some meat but far from fat.

so yeah, what do you do here? Or do
Never get this since you are all only fvcking supermodels? I’m joking of course.

Anyhow I truly am open to suggestions on this, thanks.

 

[SoSuave666]

You can start by not dating old ugly fatties. That should help

 

[spred]

Hey guys, this is a thing I’ve encountered a few times and I don’t know how you deal with it. Since it isn’t in my style at all I’m very open to trying suggestions here.

basically lately women been saying “oh my age/weight/looks don’t bother you?” And they keep trying endlessly (I assume) to get me to reassure and compliment them like a beta but I also feel like if I go for them they will see me as lesser than the men who wouldn’t tolerate them for whatever issue they have.

So it seems like a losing scenario, and while I’m sure you all will say “stop going after fatties/older women, etc”, the current girl I’m talking to isn’t fat, she’s got some meat but far from fat.

so yeah, what do you do here? Or do
Never get this since you are all only fvcking supermodels? I’m joking of course.

Anyhow I truly am open to suggestions on this, thanks.

Happened to me recently, the woman I was dating for months kept telling me bad things about her body parts and health issues. She did this constantly because I would not compliment her. I only supported her a bit with her problems, nudging her to look for professional care.
In the end I did other things that made her pull back, so I don’t think me not complimenting her when she was disqualified herself made any impact.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Happened to me recently, the woman I was dating for months kept telling me bad things about her body parts and health issues. She did this constantly because I would not compliment her. I only supported her a bit with her problems, nudging her to look for professional care.
In the end I did other things that made her pull back, so I don’t think me not complimenting her when she was disqualified herself made any impact.

Fair. I notice some girls are very insecure.

 

[Von]

Why dont you tell her To stop Bothering you about it, she's on a date with you cause you find Her attractive. End of story.

You gotta frame her To stop, close the boxe.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Why dont you tell her To stop Bothering you about it, she's on a date with you cause you find Her attractive. End of story.

You gotta frame her To stop, close the boxe.

Ok, I just didn’t want to compliment her looks as that’s a beta move

 

[MatureDJ]

Why dont you tell her To stop Bothering you about it, she's on a date with you cause you find Her attractive. End of story.

You gotta frame her To stop, close the boxe.

I think a lot of men go on dates with women they don't find attractive simply because they are out of options for women they find attractive.

 

[MatureDJ]

Happened to me recently, the woman I was dating for months kept telling me bad things about her body parts and health issues. She did this constantly because I would not compliment her. I only supported her a bit with her problems, nudging her to look for professional care.
In the end I did other things that made her pull back, so I don’t think me not complimenting her when she was disqualified herself made any impact.

I would run JudgmentOfParisGame and ask to see the body parts in the flesh to make a proper determination.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judge...of_Paris_(Larger_version)_by_William_Etty.jpg

 

[Von]

I think a lot of men go on dates with women they don't find attractive simply because they are out of options for women they find attractive.

Agreed, and it's an issue although it can be a good practice to elevate your game so when the ''hot'' one comes you are READY!

In all cases. FRAME must be set and hold by the man, and it must come from habits. Also, you need to learn to deal with these female test and moods.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Agree and amplify

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I have run into this, especially when I’m in top shape and cut - I normally say “you’re not supposed to be hard, you’re supposed to be soft and sexy” or the “why would I be here if I didn’t find you attractive?” It stops short of a compliment. Never mind that they’re not unattractive they’re just not in peak shape. It’s always body related.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

oh my age/weight/looks don’t bother you?

No. (if the answer is no).

Does it bother you?

If that doesn't end it then next.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Agree and amplify

I will try that, thank you

 

[SargeMaximus]

I have run into this, especially when I’m in top shape and cut - I normally say “you’re not supposed to be hard, you’re supposed to be soft and sexy” or the “why would I be here if I didn’t find you attractive?” It stops short of a compliment. Never mind that they’re not unattractive they’re just not in peak shape. It’s always body related.

Do you have sex with the girls you compliment in this way? I’m asking because that’s what’s holding me back from saying that

 

[IKO69]

In my experience this happened when the woman in question had low interest. Just an easy out for her.
If what she is saying is TRUE and she means it then they are insecurities that may be a problem later on. We all have insecurities, but you are not a therapist - she should be actively trying to resolve her own issues, not complain about them nonstop.

 

[SargeMaximus]

In my experience this happened when the woman in question had low interest. Just an easy out for her.
If what she is saying is TRUE and she means it then they are insecurities that may be a problem later on. We all have insecurities, but you are not a therapist - she should be actively trying to resolve her own issues, not complain about them nonstop.

That seems like the most likely, thanks

 

[EyeBRollin]

You are shooting too far below your SMV. She wants you to be beta because she feels internally that is the only reason a man on your level would be talking to her.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You are shooting too far below your SMV. She wants you to be beta because she feels internally that is the only reason a man on your level would be talking to her.

I’ve considered that but as we’ve seen, I am unable to game the hotties so I’m stuck in limbo

 

[Dr.Suave]

I just tell them the truth: I wouldnt be here if it bothered me.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I will not engage with a woman that does not pass the bone R test. At least initially i’m not in it for the content of their souls, it’s sex first relationship second if the first test is passed.

I certainly do “hold back” when prey is shopping for compliments - they are handed out sparingly but when I do deliver compliments they mean something. I won’t lie to get laid.

So yes in most cases I end up having sex.

p.s. Of course we all handling varying quality, however, I do have enough women in my rotation that I can set a standard for myself, and do not need to deviate from it in order to deal with a dry spell.

Do you have sex with the girls you compliment in this way? I’m asking because that’s what’s holding me back from saying that