How to make a girl who doesn't like bjs blow me

[MatureDJ]

women are really good at PIV though.

I hadn't heard of this acronym before. I did an internet search on it, and I got "Particle image velocimetry", LOL.

 

[MatureDJ]

Best i've had were from GF's who were way into me. Pro's is ok, but it feels like "work" instead of passion.

I must have pretty good luck with picking out pros that seem to like it; of course, I like to CIM and put out more cash for it. I also do my research on John forums. I tend to consider good pros like a good dish at a restaurant - if I get serviced well, I go back again & again.

 

[MatureDJ]

I hadn't heard of this acronym before. I did an internet search on it, and I got "Particle image velocimetry", LOL.

OK, I got it . Yes, it is quite rare for a properly tight woman to not be as good with bareback PIV then with PIM - but then again, the latter doesn't have the problem of "babies & blisters".

 

[SargeMaximus]

Bj is the ultimate test of dominance. If she won't do it, it means she's not into you.

I disagree with this. I had a 7/10 girl last year I couldn’t get hard with invite me to have sex with her 6 different nights over the course of a few months, and she didn’t want to give bjs but she was obviously into me in some way otherwise she wouldn’t have kept inviting me back on her own accord.

 

[MatureDJ]

Thats basically admitting that you’ve never been with a woman who’s highly attracted to you.

In my experience, when a woman is highly attracted she wants you in every hole rawdog. Women give excellent Bjs when they are seeking your validation.

I've been with (girlfriend, not pro) women that have been attracted enough to me to open their legs for bareback coitus (if they were on The Pill); as that ... avenue ... was open, I didn't bother asking for a BJ, and it wasn't offered. Indeed, I would consider a woman that offered only a BJ and coitus (especially bareback) as not being as attracted to me.

That said, I have been with less-than-attractive women, and it seems that they like to start the BJ (or the HJ) without me asking. So what is better? Coitus with an attractive woman, or a BJ with a less-than-attractive woman? Heck, AFAIAC, a BJ with the attractive woman would be better than the coitus with a lesser.

BTW, a good HJ is very underrated.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Thats basically admitting that you’ve never been with a woman who’s highly attracted to you.

In my experience, when a woman is highly attracted she wants you in every hole rawdog. Women give excellent Bjs when they are seeking your validation.

Mmm. Ok.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Don't agree with that but I see where you are coming from

After I wrote that I said to myself it’s generally true, but it’s only because as women become more involved emotionally with a man they are more apt to be open to do more sexually and relax a bit.

I would apply the 80/20 rule.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Would you let her peg you if she asks?

Same scenario. Tell me how you feel about that if she pays you lip service that "I won't force you to do anything you don't want" and then she constantly brings up pegging.

I think the reverse would be eating her out, which is something i refuse to ever do as i feel it puts me in a submissive position.

 

[Striker_93]

Women give excellent Bjs when they are seeking your validation.

Yes Sir!!

 

[SoSuave666]

you leave her

Exactly what I said.
OP has a diminished amount of self respect. I guarantee she has slobbered all over another man’s ****. Probably spat on it, two handed it, choked on it, and most important: loved it.

 

[Young OG]

While there might be an ounce of truth in what she said, her interest level in you simply isn’t high enough.

This^

If he was Channing Tatum, then she would have been on her knees blowing him a long time ago

 

[Black Widow Void]

In my early 20's, I dated a girl that had been previously raped by an intruder. This was before I met her. She was sixteen, a virgin and was forced at knife-point to go down on him - while her mother was in the same room.

I met and dated her a few months before she turned eighteen. Like yourself, I never pressured her or anything (other than oral, she was pleasing in the bedroom and outside the bedroom). About nine months into the relationship, we were making out (clothes on) and her lips went below the waist (clothes on). A couple of weeks later, she did end up (though still no pressure from me) going down while we were unclothed. That's not to say that my situation is a 'template' on how things will or should unfold. Having been through something similar, I thought that I'd share my story.

You mentioned that her resistance might be due to "past trauma."
To be honest, I'm a bit surprised that after a year with her that you two haven't communicated enough for you to know the root of this problem. Perhaps a lack of communication/emotional energy ... might be one of the factors; as to why she doesn't feel as close, secure and intimate? I'm not saying that this would change things, but good communication and letting her feel secure, won't hurt.

First and foremost, you should overlook some of the bone-head advice given here. If it becomes a deal-breaker for you, at least make a departure with class.

Anyone that has followed my interaction with this forum-member is aware that I disagree with her a lot of times. Considering a lot of (in my opinion) unhealthy advice given, I'm tagging @BeExcellent ... in effort to offer an alternative perspective.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You don't. You either accept this or you find someone more sexually satisfying.

If you continue to try and push this, you will either get frustrated and angry over time or she will.

If this is truly something that's a non starter then you need to dump her and find a woman who will do it

 

[indiff]

While there might be an ounce of truth in what she said, her interest level in you simply isn’t high enough.

This is it. There’s only one girl who refuse to give me bjs even though we’ve slept together. Turns out, she liked me but not enough to wanna put my **** inside her mouth. No genuine burning desire.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

This is a clear sign of low interest

 

[darksprezzatura]

You dont need to make a woman do anything she doesn't want to do.

Don't change the woman, change the woman

 

[Hal9000]

A BJ you have to ask for is typically not a BJ worth receiving. Having said that, the key is to make it clear very early on that BJs are a must. You can help prove your point by giving her amazing oral. If she's a normal person with a sense of reciprocity she will feel guilty for not returning the favor. I find many women just aren't sure about how to do it so they refuse out of a fear of looking bad. You need to be willing to put in the time to train her to do it how you like. And be very supportive of her initial efforts no matter how much tooth is involved! Lol

 

[SW15]

This isn't a battle worth fighting. Plenty of women enjoy giving BJs or at least don't mind it in most cases.

 

[Konada]

Pu$$yfooting around this subject and trying to go indirect is manipulative, weak behavior. You are not being a leader here.

Have you had an actual chat with her outside of the bedroom why she doesn't give BJs? Does she thinks its gross? Or is it due to a past trauma? All these things will help you build a picture of the situation and your response to it.

Have the conversation in a neutral setting (e.g. hiking, roadtrip etc), so she won't feel that you are pressuring her into giving you BJs. Your job is to understand where she stands on this subject and what does this mean for you as her man.

Set your expectations clearly to her, and let her seduce you.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Be prepared for ypur attempts to fail. Girls, iver the yesrs, have tried to get me to munch. I never have. She may refuse as well.