Ghosted after girl says she’s “down”

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It happens. At least u made ur move.
 

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I agree with some of the perspectives above. I think you had her, validated her, then pushed a tad too hard, and most likely came across desperate/needy when you said "cool, invite me over" right away and worse when you said "Didn't you say you were horny?". And there is also a chance she was actually was down and another dude with better game "gamed" her right off of you while you guys were pushing for the invite.

She is somebody else's now. Move on.

Next time, play it cool, banter a little, sexualize a bit, and then make plans to hang. Not saying prolong the texting, but it is extremely rare for a woman to see sex (unless that's her profession) as a transaction.


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I agree with some of the perspectives above. I think you had her, validated her, then pushed a tad too hard, and most likely came across desperate/needy when you said "cool, invite me over" right away and worse when you said "Didn't you say you were horny?". And there is also a chance she was actually was down and another dude with better game "gamed" her right off of you while you guys were pushing for the invite.

She is somebody else's now. Move on.

Next time, play it cool, banter a little, sexualize a bit, and then make plans to hang. Not saying prolong the texting, but it is extremely rare for a woman to see sex (unless that's her profession) as a transaction.


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Hmm, that has never worked for me. If I don’t go direct and fast I lose them. I’ll post an example of playing it cool and losing her next time I try it
 

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Hmm, that has never worked for me. If I don’t go direct and fast I lose them. I’ll post an example of playing it cool and losing her next time I try it
Totally get it, it is often a toss of the coin, right? Meaning, since women are very moment-to-moment creatures and dating has become a numbers game, being too passive can easily get you ghosted/rejected.

I think that you were right about being direct, I am also the same way, I don't like to waste my time or anybody else's. But I do think that there is a balance of transparency and assertiveness and abundance that can be beneficial.

From what I've heard from female "dating coaches" nothing turns women off more than a guy that pushes for something right away. Pushing, in the women's world, often translates to scarcity and desperation.

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I think this is what frustrates me the most. The goldilocks zone for everything. Too fast = desperate, too slow = timid/lacking experience.
I agree but that is the reality of the dating world and how women operate. For me, the key to really being good at "game" is the ability to read each woman uniquely and read each moment and act accordingly.

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I think this is what frustrates me the most. The goldilocks zone for everything. Too fast = desperate, too slow = timid/lacking experience.
This is the problem with OLD, women have way too much more in the interaction. Irl as a man you have more control of the situation.
 

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Totally get it, it is often a toss of the coin, right? Meaning, since women are very moment-to-moment creatures and dating has become a numbers game, being too passive can easily get you ghosted/rejected.

I think that you were right about being direct, I am also the same way, I don't like to waste my time or anybody else's. But I do think that there is a balance of transparency and assertiveness and abundance that can be beneficial.

From what I've heard from female "dating coaches" nothing turns women off more than a guy that pushes for something right away. Pushing, in the women's world, often translates are scarcity and desperation.

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I didn’t think I was pushing. She said she was down so I assumed that meant she was down. She said she was h0rny so I assumed that meant “right now”.

This is the problem with OLD, women have way too much more in the interaction. Irl as a man you have more control of the situation.
that has not been my experience with approaching irl at all.
 

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....I'm really gonna have to be the one to ask where "NE" is in her "ok, I'm in NE, you?" text is? What was your follow up? In other words, where is the ghosting???
 

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....I'm really gonna have to be the one to ask where "NE" is in her "ok, I'm in NE, you?" text is? What was your follow up? In other words, where is the ghosting???
oh I said I was in NE too and then I asked for her address. She then said give me some time to get ready, I said “sounds good” and she ghosted for hours so I blocked her.
 

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oh I said I was in NE too and then I asked for her address. She then said give me some time to get ready, I said “sounds good” and she ghosted for hours so I blocked her.
sounds maybe a bit premature. yeah, perhaps not good sign, but seems a bit OTT to block. she may have come back later?

I've had women do that to me. had a few exchanges, then don;t respond to them for a few hours or next day and they;ve blocked me. doesn;t bother me, makes me laugh as comes across as fragile ego or something like that. and thats with no plans made to meet or anything like that.
 

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Yea she might hit you up late one night. Or even that same night had you gone off to do something else instead of being glued to your phone waiting for that text back. Blocking her makes that impossible now.
 
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Yea she might hit you up late one night. Or even that same night had you gone off to do something else instead of being glued to your phone waiting for that text back. Blocking her makes that impossible now.
yeah, to me its a case of if you have options doesn;t matter. can't recall ever blocking someone, even if I think they're a bit of an idiot, just let message naturally drop off my page over time.

if someone blocks me for next to no real good reason, I just think they've probably saved me the hassle of dealing with a bit of a d1ck/someone I'm unlikely to have gotten along with

'oohhh look at you, thats really shown me/put me in my place.' grow up.
 

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sounds maybe a bit premature. yeah, perhaps not good sign, but seems a bit OTT to block. she may have come back later?

I've had women do that to me. had a few exchanges, then don;t respond to them for a few hours or next day and they;ve blocked me. doesn;t bother me, makes me laugh as comes across as fragile ego or something like that. and thats with no plans made to meet or anything like that.
I block to keep my abundance mentality high.
Yea she might hit you up late one night. Or even that same night had you gone off to do something else instead of being glued to your phone waiting for that text back. Blocking her makes that impossible now.
See above.
yeah, to me its a case of if you have options doesn;t matter. can't recall ever blocking someone, even if I think they're a bit of an idiot, just let message naturally drop off my page over time.

if someone blocks me for next to no real good reason, I just think they've probably saved me the hassle of dealing with a bit of a d1ck/someone I'm unlikely to have gotten along with

'oohhh look at you, thats really shown me/put me in my place.' grow up.
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