Ex messaged me 1 month after NC, need opinions

Stuffnu

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i appreciated her for reaching out,
OP Why?
What you said is “Thanks for dumping me and I’m still bitter.”
The context of your response is irrelevant.
ANY RESPONSE will refill her validation meter and let the spinning hamster out of her cage.
Learn from this and remember going NC is for you - not for her.
It’s allows you to move on but more importantly it’s also the last power play in your arsenal. That is… The ability to walk away and never look back.
 

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OP Why?
What you said is “Thanks for dumping me and I’m still bitter.”
The context of your response is irrelevant.
ANY RESPONSE will refill her validation meter and you let the spinning hamster out of her cage.
Learn from this and remember going NC is for you - not for her.
It’s allows you to move on but more importantly it’s also the last power play in your arsenal. That is… The ability to walk away and never look back.
Exactly right 100%.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Hey guys,

So basicly my ex dumped me 1 month ago. Saying we were not compatible anymore, she wants space and needs time. We were in LTR of 2 years with almost no problems. Very supportive, great sex. Just "suddenly" she fell out of love. All good with me, i have been here before. I didnt beg, didnt plead at all. Just said well okay if thats how u feel all good. She said she was not gonna contact me in any form. I said okay all good. Left it at at that and went NC. This is day 25 of NC. Was pretty proud of myself how i handled the situation. Mind you i was with her since she was 19, I was 27 at the time and would consider my self "redpilled".

I have been focussing on my carreer, hobbies, fitness and meeting new people. Even though i felt like utter ****, i realised that i didn't need her and i can get better. So suddenly, she texted me this morning:

"Hi, how are you?"

So here is the deal. I am still very much attached too this girl, and I rather just be in NC, and she knows this. There is no reason for her too contact me, everything has been settled. Actually i dont want her too contact me at all. She is currently on holiday with her mum in Europe.

So my question is, how do i handle this? What is my response, since i dont feel like engaging in her breadcrumbing. Since the breakup she suddenly went active on social media (before she posted 1x per year), I didnt open any of her stories at all, but noticed she is suddenly very active. Any help would be appreciated since my mind is clouded due too attachment. No i dont really want her back, but if she wants too talk, I am willing too listen, just listen that is. I just dont want too get my beta hopes up and get hurt again too be honest.... Any help is appreciated.
What advice do you need?

She was in a BBC train and now wants to play house? Captain cuck is who she called.
 
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