I dumped my girlfriend for her bad behaviour. She's seen with someone else 3 days after.

[TheTigerV1]

Man, it stings. I dumped her because she gave me no other choice, she treated me hot and cold for the past 3 weeks, then she lied about her whereabouts one night. She was supposed to be at a flat party but she lied on who was hosting the party. According to her "I would question her for no reason, since I don't like the guy". And yes I did, I questioned her. And have no issue with the guy, I don't like HER shady behaviour. I don't like people who slowly kill a relationship by the constant use of white lies, in order to "not make their partner angry". It erodes trust, It makes me doubt myself and it offends my intelligence.

I enjoyed watching her lying to my face without breaking a sweat, I understood that, after almost 2 years, the girl had absolutely no respect for me. It was not the first time she lied and my trust for her was very fragile at that point.
So I smiled, I f*cked her, sent her a goodbye text, ghosted her and blocked her.
And I grieved, because I wasted 2 years after someone I loved but that did not love me the same way...and I really wished she was different and this relationship could work.

Then a friend of mine sees her with another guy, 3 days after. 3 goddamn days. The guy she was with is part of her new friends group that she met a month ago.
So now I find myself wondering if during the last month I've been played, if the guy was already there and how did I not see it? Two weeks ago she rejected sex a couple of times, which is pretty uncommon. But the way she fu*ked me on the last day together clouded my perception of things. She definitely felt I was about to end it and she wanted to keep me on the leash with good sex.

I feel and I KNOW that I dodged a massive bullet, and I shouldn't be too sad since I was the dumper.
But then why do I feel so hurt? Why dp I want to call her and ask her to tell me the truth, to tell me if she played me (?).. To explain me how she could send me a 4 pages long apology for lying to me and then hang out with someone else 3 days after (?).

 

[DonJuanjr]

So now I find myself wondering if during the last month I've been played, if the guy was already there and how did I not see it?

Probably... Are you sure you didn't see it? Were you ignoring your gut?

 

[HaleyBaron]

But then why do I feel so hurt?

Cause you're a man and she's a woman. We men are the most emotional of the two genders. We just happen to hold it all in better. Women are the least. Why? Cause they can easily fake it. It's a survival instinct. Imagine if a village gets invaded. The women will easily submit to survive. All the women that did not died.

 

[Striker_93]

It is what is brotha, and yes you dodged a bullet and good job on having the balls to dump her for her poor behavior, that takes strength so pat yourself on the back......

And yes most likely the other guy was already in the picture.

It happens, be strong, be positive and try to ignore negative thinking, perception is everything.

As time goes on, you will slowly but surely get over the situation.

Good luck and keep ya head up brotha
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[Toddz]

You're a human being with feelings and emotions, it hurts.

Accept it, process it, and move on without looking back.

She's simply a low quality person and there's nothing else to say about her.

Good for you dumping her, blocking her, and now moving on with your life.

Find someone better and she will soon be a long distant memory. Life is too short

 

[Zimbabwe]

Stop worrying about it, hit the gym and start approaching new women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Man, it stings. I dumped her because she gave me no other choice, she treated me hot and cold for the past 3 weeks, then she lied about her whereabouts one night. She was supposed to be at a flat party but she lied on who was hosting the party. According to her "I would question her for no reason, since I don't like the guy". And yes I did, I questioned her. And have no issue with the guy, I don't like HER shady behaviour. I don't like people who slowly kill a relationship by the constant use of white lies, in order to "not make their partner angry". It erodes trust, It makes me doubt myself and it offends my intelligence.

I enjoyed watching her lying to my face without breaking a sweat, I understood that, after almost 2 years, the girl had absolutely no respect for me. It was not the first time she lied and my trust for her was very fragile at that point.
So I smiled, I f*cked her, sent her a goodbye text, ghosted her and blocked her.
And I grieved, because I wasted 2 years after someone I loved but that did not love me the same way...and I really wished she was different and this relationship could work.

Then a friend of mine sees her with another guy, 3 days after. 3 goddamn days. The guy she was with is part of her new friends group that she met a month ago.
So now I find myself wondering if during the last month I've been played, if the guy was already there and how did I not see it? Two weeks ago she rejected sex a couple of times, which is pretty uncommon. But the way she fu*ked me on the last day together clouded my perception of things. She definitely felt I was about to end it and she wanted to keep me on the leash with good sex.

I feel and I KNOW that I dodged a massive bullet, and I shouldn't be too sad since I was the dumper.
But then why do I feel so hurt? Why dp I want to call her and ask her to tell me the truth, to tell me if she played me (?).. To explain me how she could send me a 4 pages long apology for lying to me and then hang out with someone else 3 days after (?).

Bro you don't get it...the reason she was doing all of this in the first place is because she had already been starting things with that guy well before you broke up with her.

Women usually already have a safe landing spot picked out prior to acting that way.

 

[Black Widow Void]

These types do not deserve to get under our skin, but for some reason they still do. And it’s even more frustrating just knowing that they have the ability to get under our skin to begin with.

One thing you can feel good about is that you walked away with your dignity.

If you run into mutual friends, never bring up her name. They will tell your ex that they ran into you and she will likely say “what did he say about me?” Imagine that lump in her throat when her friends say “actually he didn’t bring up your name at all.”

Tip of the hat to you sir. You handled it quite well.

 

[DonJuanjr]

If you run into mutual friends, never bring up her name. They will tell your ex that they ran into you and she will likely say “what did he say about me?” Imagine that lump in her throat when her friends say “actually he didn’t bring up your name at all.”

I would have figured that more times than not, the mutual friend would bring the ex up.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I would have figured that more times than not, the mutual friend would bring the ex up.

I agree. This is also a factor as well.
Best response is… “It ran its course and I’m sure that we’re both happier now.” Then change the subject.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Bro I feel your pain. Truly I do. My recent ex (the one who led me to redpill and discovering sosuave) literally monkey-branched, immediately downloaded Tinder and (probably) f'cked a Tinder guy the day we broke up after a 2 year relationship. At the time I had access to her Instagram so I saw everything. My idea of love was totally blown out of the water. Literally for weeks, she would be meeting up with guys almost every night, dates and sh't. Total BS that shattered my romantic view of the world. Because I was grieving about the break-up, and felt my heart ripped out. But it is what it is. The fact she moved on so quickly is just shocking to me even today but it has led me to believe that women are less emotional/romantic than man despite what mainstream media might say otherwise.

Even as I typed this I have literal chills down my back. Red-pill is the key to our salvation for real.

 

[MatureDJ]

if she was behaving badly, then she technically orchestrated you dumping her. Women know how to behave. She was acting out on purpose.

Some women do this to get out of a relationship. They act out, cause a fight, the guy gets angry and rage-quits the relationship and she peaces out with plausible deniability. Some women prefer you to dump them because it’s way easier, and they don’t have to be the bad person who does the dumping.

it’s highly manipulative stuff

Yes, I now presume that any change in behavior will be a prelude to a dump; it's like walking on eggshells, but that's the way it is. This is a reason why I EscortMax.

 

[dude99]

Man, it stings. I dumped her because she gave me no other choice, she treated me hot and cold for the past 3 weeks, then she lied about her whereabouts one night. She was supposed to be at a flat party but she lied on who was hosting the party. According to her "I would question her for no reason, since I don't like the guy". And yes I did, I questioned her. And have no issue with the guy, I don't like HER shady behaviour. I don't like people who slowly kill a relationship by the constant use of white lies, in order to "not make their partner angry". It erodes trust, It makes me doubt myself and it offends my intelligence.

I enjoyed watching her lying to my face without breaking a sweat, I understood that, after almost 2 years, the girl had absolutely no respect for me. It was not the first time she lied and my trust for her was very fragile at that point.
So I smiled, I f*cked her, sent her a goodbye text, ghosted her and blocked her.
And I grieved, because I wasted 2 years after someone I loved but that did not love me the same way...and I really wished she was different and this relationship could work.

Then a friend of mine sees her with another guy, 3 days after. 3 goddamn days. The guy she was with is part of her new friends group that she met a month ago.
So now I find myself wondering if during the last month I've been played, if the guy was already there and how did I not see it? Two weeks ago she rejected sex a couple of times, which is pretty uncommon. But the way she fu*ked me on the last day together clouded my perception of things. She definitely felt I was about to end it and she wanted to keep me on the leash with good sex.

I feel and I KNOW that I dodged a massive bullet, and I shouldn't be too sad since I was the dumper.
But then why do I feel so hurt? Why dp I want to call her and ask her to tell me the truth, to tell me if she played me (?).. To explain me how she could send me a 4 pages long apology for lying to me and then hang out with someone else 3 days after (?).

Sounds like she was setting up the branch swing and you unknowingly cut the branch.

You did the right thing. Keep your head high. It will take time but you will heal

 

[RickTheToad]

Man, it stings. I dumped her because she gave me no other choice, she treated me hot and cold for the past 3 weeks, then she lied about her whereabouts one night. She was supposed to be at a flat party but she lied on who was hosting the party. According to her "I would question her for no reason, since I don't like the guy". And yes I did, I questioned her. And have no issue with the guy, I don't like HER shady behaviour. I don't like people who slowly kill a relationship by the constant use of white lies, in order to "not make their partner angry". It erodes trust, It makes me doubt myself and it offends my intelligence.

I enjoyed watching her lying to my face without breaking a sweat, I understood that, after almost 2 years, the girl had absolutely no respect for me. It was not the first time she lied and my trust for her was very fragile at that point.
So I smiled, I f*cked her, sent her a goodbye text, ghosted her and blocked her.
And I grieved, because I wasted 2 years after someone I loved but that did not love me the same way...and I really wished she was different and this relationship could work.

Then a friend of mine sees her with another guy, 3 days after. 3 goddamn days. The guy she was with is part of her new friends group that she met a month ago.
So now I find myself wondering if during the last month I've been played, if the guy was already there and how did I not see it? Two weeks ago she rejected sex a couple of times, which is pretty uncommon. But the way she fu*ked me on the last day together clouded my perception of things. She definitely felt I was about to end it and she wanted to keep me on the leash with good sex.

I feel and I KNOW that I dodged a massive bullet, and I shouldn't be too sad since I was the dumper.
But then why do I feel so hurt? Why dp I want to call her and ask her to tell me the truth, to tell me if she played me (?).. To explain me how she could send me a 4 pages long apology for lying to me and then hang out with someone else 3 days after (?).

Take time for yourself. Stay away from her and any where she hangs. If you run into her again, just act cool. As always, it's best to start fvcking around with other b!tches and making sure they are as hot or hotter than her and she and her friends see you with them. Shows you couldn't care less about her and you've moved on. Fake it before you make it dude.

 

[Dr.Suave]

U did the right thing. Its gonna hurt for a while, but eventually you will find a girl who is younger, or hotter, or both.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Ah, yes 'plausible deniability' where have I heard this before?

Oh wait, I remember now, stormrider aka da dynamically used this phrase A LOT!

Remember him @Pan87?

In any event, you are correct, it was a forced dump and doesn't make one feel much better just because they were the dumper.

In fact maybe worse cause you realize you got played at the end versus had they just been straight up as soon as they realized they wanted out, the former of which reflects a complete lack of respect.

Sorry OP, time heals.

Yup the girl did things that she expected a man with self respect to dump her for...which at least you did. Don't want to be in the situation where she dumps you after you continuously put up with her disrespect over and over again until she has to dump you because she has lost all respect for you.

 

[2Rocky]

Buddy, snap out of it....you had the best possible outcome. She's not:
Stalking you and leaving nasty notes
scaring off potential new women
Going to the police saying you abused her
sticking you for alimony and child support.

She's distracted now and you have to make the most of this time. GFTOW

 

[derby1]

Bro I feel your pain. Truly I do. My recent ex (the one who led me to redpill and discovering sosuave) literally monkey-branched, immediately downloaded Tinder and (probably) f'cked a Tinder guy the day we broke up after a 2 year relationship. At the time I had access to her Instagram so I saw everything. My idea of love was totally blown out of the water. Literally for weeks, she would be meeting up with guys almost every night, dates and sh't. Total BS that shattered my romantic view of the world. Because I was grieving about the break-up, and felt my heart ripped out. But it is what it is. The fact she moved on so quickly is just shocking to me even today but it has led me to believe that women are less emotional/romantic than man despite what mainstream media might say otherwise.

Even as I typed this I have literal chills down my back. Red-pill is the key to our salvation for real.

If you had told me 5 years ago, women have an insatiable thirst for non sexual attention, keep a host of orbiters (but pretend to be single), or a "hey miss you text" actually means they dont miss me.......

I would have thought you were lunatic

 

[2Rocky]

OP was dumped. She cleverly orchestrated it by putting him in a humiliating position where he feebly suggested they might breakup (hoping she would try to fix things), but to his horror she's like "cool cya!" and jumps on a new d1ck almost immediately.

OP isn't snapping out of it until he realises that she dumped him in a super manipulative way.

Only a women who you genuinely dump would behave like your description.

My gf before I met my wife of 20 years dumped me and started seeing my housemate and pledge brother second week of October on a Thursday. That Saturday I got drunk and nailed a fatty. Then met my lab partner out over Halloween and started dating her.
So I know how calculated some bitches are.
My advice still stands. I just didn’t gfenoughw

 

[IKO69]

Man, it stings. I dumped her because she gave me no other choice, she treated me hot and cold for the past 3 weeks, then she lied about her whereabouts one night. She was supposed to be at a flat party but she lied on who was hosting the party. According to her "I would question her for no reason, since I don't like the guy". And yes I did, I questioned her. And have no issue with the guy, I don't like HER shady behaviour. I don't like people who slowly kill a relationship by the constant use of white lies, in order to "not make their partner angry". It erodes trust, It makes me doubt myself and it offends my intelligence.

I enjoyed watching her lying to my face without breaking a sweat, I understood that, after almost 2 years, the girl had absolutely no respect for me. It was not the first time she lied and my trust for her was very fragile at that point.
So I smiled, I f*cked her, sent her a goodbye text, ghosted her and blocked her.
And I grieved, because I wasted 2 years after someone I loved but that did not love me the same way...and I really wished she was different and this relationship could work.

Then a friend of mine sees her with another guy, 3 days after. 3 goddamn days. The guy she was with is part of her new friends group that she met a month ago.
So now I find myself wondering if during the last month I've been played, if the guy was already there and how did I not see it? Two weeks ago she rejected sex a couple of times, which is pretty uncommon. But the way she fu*ked me on the last day together clouded my perception of things. She definitely felt I was about to end it and she wanted to keep me on the leash with good sex.

I feel and I KNOW that I dodged a massive bullet, and I shouldn't be too sad since I was the dumper.
But then why do I feel so hurt? Why dp I want to call her and ask her to tell me the truth, to tell me if she played me (?).. To explain me how she could send me a 4 pages long apology for lying to me and then hang out with someone else 3 days after (?).

You did the right thing. I know it is painful, but look at it this way: you kept your dignity. I have also been in this position and I am sure many other guys here have been as well. There is nothing you could've done to make her understand or have her "come around". It's not an accident that they were together right after - they did not suddenly "meet". There are some women who keep a few guys around that they slept with before and as soon as things go south, they go right to them. Some are very calculating like this and its funny when the tables turn on them. She's a liar, dishonest and low quality -- You will find someone better for sure - one day you'll realize how lucky you were.