I identify with this as an introvert. Since I am an introvert and I also don't like staying up late (never have liked that), I eventually concluded my preferences were better suited for day game. In college and in the years after 21, I was doing almost all night game, between big college parties at apartments (hardly social circle game) and bars/nightclubs once I turned 21. It wasn't until my late 20s when I fully realized that I was better suited for non-bar approaching. I wish I had figured that out at 18 instead of 28.As an introvert, I was never the guy who could enter the club at midnight when it’s packed, deafening and in full swing and expect to immediately get down to business. I couldn’t instantly just go 0 to 100 like that.
That's the best way to do it. I'm not sure if that method would be as effective now. A lot of women would be texting and some might even be swiping.I used to arrive early when the music was low, and the club was still in chill “ultra lounge” mode. That made for easy warmup, and the women were bored and open to chat (pre-smartphones). If things got busier and louder later, that was fine because I had time to adjust.
I know what you mean. It seems almost overwhelming. The loud noise and the absurdity of it all.I used to arrive early when the music was low, and the club was still in chill “ultra lounge” mode. That made for easy warmup, and the women were bored and open to chat (pre-smartphones). If things got busier and louder later, that was fine because I had time to adjust.
As an introvert, I was never the guy who could enter the club at midnight when it’s packed, deafening and in full swing and expect to immediately get down to business. I couldn’t instantly just go 0 to 100 like that.
Find clubs that have outdoor areas. The one that I frequent has an outdoor area in back with a bar. I approach out there because the music isn't loud. I also occasionally will approach inside and tell the girl to come out back so I can hear her better.So after a meetup me and the group went to a nightclub, it was super loud music with people dancing but not much interaction outside of established groups
How do you guys pickup at clubs and bars
I've experienced many times and read about that women if they're attracted to you will stand next to you facing their back. I find it odd, but they do it. I have never acted on it, because I haven't figured out any good way to do it. Tricky at a restaurant for instance. Tap on their shoulder? Position in front of them and convo? Anything particular to this?They pick you up brother. You don't have to do anything. I hope you are going to the club with friends. Hang around...what invariably happens is as a group they'll position themselves around you, waiting for you to talk to them and/or they start looking at you and stuff, making it obvious.
This is what I did in the mid to late 2000s
Grab her by the waist and turn her towards you trust me even if she isn't interested most women love this because it allows them to naturally submit to their submissive instinctsI've experienced many times and read about that women if they're attracted to you will stand next to you facing their back. I find it odd, but they do it. I have never acted on it, because I haven't figured out any good way to do it. Tricky at a restaurant for instance. Tap on their shoulder? Position in front of them and convo? Anything particular to this?
Anything innocuous. I know people talk about the right pick up line --- the best pick up line will fail if there is no interest will fail while "hi" will work when there is interest.I've experienced many times and read about that women if they're attracted to you will stand next to you facing their back. I find it odd, but they do it. I have never acted on it, because I haven't figured out any good way to do it. Tricky at a restaurant for instance. Tap on their shoulder? Position in front of them and convo? Anything particular to this?
Tell me about it. I approached two girls, they said they were lesbians which they demonstrated -- but then made out with some chad-ish guy too. I should have moved faster, there was an opportunity for moving in for a kiss with one of the girls. That chad looked at me and laughed in a mocking manner for his "victory" over me. But with a laugh at me like that, that surely downgraded it...Club game is the harshest mistress of them all if you have a fragile ego forget about it
You didn't need to tell us you haven't been at a club in 15 years.They pick you up brother. You don't have to do anything. I hope you are going to the club with friends. Hang around...what invariably happens is as a group they'll position themselves around you, waiting for you to talk to them and/or they start looking at you and stuff, making it obvious.
This is what I did in the mid to late 2000s
It is no longer my scene, but it still holds true now. I'm sorry you must be one of the unlucky onesYou didn't need to tell us you haven't been at a club in 15 years.
Saying: "They pick you up brother. You don't have to do anything." was sufficient.
No longer my scene = zero relevant infield experience = keyboard jockeyIt is no longer my scene, but it still holds true now. I'm sorry you must be one of the unlucky ones
Of course you were the promoter. I wouldn't expect you to claim anything less here on sosuave trollNo longer my scene = zero relevant infield experience = keyboard jockey
I went out 30 nights in Miami and was a club promoter there over the last three months.
Girls do not pick up guys in cold approach scenarios like they used to. The game has changed, especially post-pandemic. I don't blame you for your ignorance, but I encourage you to dedicate two more weeks to trying to go out to free venues and seeing how the game is played now in 2022.
I really don't think or see the point in guys coming to a community like this to make people feel bad, but I also do wonder why some of you guys are threatened by and challenge the obvious. If a guy looks good and has success and status as you said, yes, he will have a very easy time. We have all seen this in our own lives when it comes to regular people, nevermind those of a certain status or class.Reality.
There are dudes here like @Striker_93 who claim that women cold approach and throw themselves at hot dudes in clubs en masse. It's just stupid. We gotta call out these liars. I think their sole purpose is to come into the manosphere to make other guys feel like sh1t.
Being a hot guy means very little to women in 2022 - you need to combine it with game and status. And even then she's not going to throw herself at you. Women with any calibration don't "throw themselves at" or even cold approach guys they've just met.
You do raise a good point, we should be doing what we can to uplift other guys here. The thing is the bar keeps getting higher and higher for men, the average guy now is a fitness junkie. A couple of decades ago most men were skinny and had a terrible fashion sense.I really don't think or see the point in guys coming to a community like this to make people feel bad, but I also do wonder why some of you guys are threatened by and challenge the obvious. If a guy looks good and has success and status as you said, yes, he will have a very easy time. We have all seen this in our own lives when it comes to regular people, nevermind those of a certain status or class.