anonymous12345
Senior Don Juan
It’s absurd, but what me and one of my wing men have realised I need to work on the most right now is my text game. I mess it up more than my day game and cold approaches. In one way, that abstract phone brings out more a fear of rejection than otherwise — I typically rush, try to set up a date in the first message, I don’t dare delegate to the girl’s participation.
I don’t like texting. I think it’s a high likelihood of misunderstandings and that is my experience. Professionally I try to steer teams away from it, and solve or discuss important things in person. I still think this is good practice professionally, and gets confirmed over and over again. I’d say texting is good for practical, shallow details, that’s all.
But many younger are the exact opposite. A girl can prefer to text rather than to meet in person. Wtf. (Or maybe she just wanted to park me as an orbiter.)
I find that kind of youthful texting hard. A wing man looked at my texts, and said it was up tight that I ended sentences with periods. Wtf. I find that masculine, assertive, in control and ordered. But he said things should be more casual. He said texting is just something we have to accept these days.
One problem is that I don’t want to compete with the hundreds of messages/matches on Tinder/Instagram/etc., but I can do it. The main crux is that I find texting hard with girls you barely know, it’s too much uncertainty and risk of misunderstanding. Have burned myself on that. There are so many codes/conventions/etc. that I really don’t know how to interpret. A girl can send some meme and I can interpret it in so many different ways.
How do people do this? One answer is practice.
I don’t like texting. I think it’s a high likelihood of misunderstandings and that is my experience. Professionally I try to steer teams away from it, and solve or discuss important things in person. I still think this is good practice professionally, and gets confirmed over and over again. I’d say texting is good for practical, shallow details, that’s all.
But many younger are the exact opposite. A girl can prefer to text rather than to meet in person. Wtf. (Or maybe she just wanted to park me as an orbiter.)
I find that kind of youthful texting hard. A wing man looked at my texts, and said it was up tight that I ended sentences with periods. Wtf. I find that masculine, assertive, in control and ordered. But he said things should be more casual. He said texting is just something we have to accept these days.
One problem is that I don’t want to compete with the hundreds of messages/matches on Tinder/Instagram/etc., but I can do it. The main crux is that I find texting hard with girls you barely know, it’s too much uncertainty and risk of misunderstanding. Have burned myself on that. There are so many codes/conventions/etc. that I really don’t know how to interpret. A girl can send some meme and I can interpret it in so many different ways.
How do people do this? One answer is practice.
