Responding to "You're Mean"

[CollegeMan22]

Okay boys, I really enjoy teasing girls and giving them **** about little things. I try to keep them always laughing when I'm studying with them or just talking. I do this by qualifying them: by making them seem silly or childish. I once heard (I think from Pook) that you should treat girls like you treat your little sister: tease the crap out of them. And so I do. It is quite from and gets them in a contentious/flirty mood. I notice that, when I am in groups, the girls around me are much more flirty with me than with other guys because they are not joking around with them.

But sometimes when I am doing this, the girl will start to get pouty and say "you're mean" in a dejected way. My strategy is to usually just look at them with a slight smirk as if they are pouting like a child. Then I continue my ways and it generally goes well. I try not to qualify my own flirtatious remarks or make an excuse, but sometimes it happens out of habit. What is the best way to respond to "you're mean" and continue the conversation/keep escalating?

 

[TheManMasenko]

“Baby, accept me for me. I accept you for you” *Laugh, play it off* Then continue the convo.

 

[EyeBRollin]

That is woman speak for “your teasing went too far.”

I find negging to be a mistake altogether. She’s supposed to feel good around you.

 

[user252009]

I don't care if they say that, I just go "nah", but I am being genuine me. As soon as you try faking ANYTHING just to agree with her/get her, you are acting against your own nature and being.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Ignore and escalate.

 

[Striker_93]

Let me ask you a question, how many of these women have you actually ended up fvcking?

I'm not talking about flirting or getting phone numbers ect how many of these women let you fvck them ?

I remember them days as a youngin acting like that and I outgrew it as I got older and matured.
I thought that sh!t was cool and thats what women wanted, don't get me wrong, women do love a lil teasing if done right but straight mean or Ahole game won't get you anywhere.

I noticed women didn't respond well to me acting like that towards them, especially me being handsome it just came across as me being mean and arrogant and it slaughtered there self esteem. Sure I got some success but it was more me being attractive then them actually liking me as a person and it showed.....

I learned that nothing beats "CHARM"
having charm with slight indifference towards women is the holy grail when it comes to dealing with women, charm is way better then teasing them to the point they think your mean.

She's supposed to feel good, your suppose to be fun to be around ect......

This is why I asked you how many women are you fvcking because I doubt these women are actually letting you fvck them while acting this way unless your attractive but hey, if it's working for you keep it up I guess.....

Just take my advice youngin,

Work on ya charm.......
I'm naturally a low agreeable person so this is not my default persona, I had to learn it and implement it into my style......try it.

 

[CollegeMan22]

Let me ask you a question, how many of these women have you actually ended up fvcking?

I'm not talking about flirting or getting phone numbers ect how many of these women let you fvck them ?

I remember them days as a youngin acting like that and I outgrew it as I got older and matured.
I thought that sh!t was cool and thats what women wanted, don't get me wrong, women do love a lil teasing if done right but straight mean or Ahole game won't get you anywhere.

I noticed women didn't respond well to me acting like that towards them, especially me being handsome it just came across as me being mean and arrogant and it slaughtered there self esteem. Sure I got some success but it was more me being attractive then them actually liking me as a person and it showed.....

I learned that nothing beats "CHARM"
having charm with slight indifference towards women is the holy grail when it comes to dealing with women, charm is way better then teasing them to the point they think your mean.

She's supposed to feel good, your suppose to be fun to be around ect......

This is why I asked you how many women are you fvcking because I doubt these women are actually letting you fvck them while acting this way unless your attractive but hey, if it's working for you keep it up I guess.....

Just take my advice youngin,

Work on ya charm.......
I'm naturally a low agreeable person so this is not my default persona, I had to learn it and implement it into my style......try it.

Can you distinguish charm to me as opposed to light teasing? Give me examples of one as opposed to the other. I will give you an example of what I do. When I was studying for an exam with a cute girl, she told me that she had written down every single equation from the lectures on a piece of paper. The problem was that there were only 12 hours to the exam and there was no way in hell she could memorize all of the equations (nor would she need to). So I teased her about her intelligent move and how this would be sure to make her ace the exam. Then we playfully teased each other until we got done studying. We were laughing a lot and we stopped studying at 10 PM. She said she had to go and left, so I went back to my dorm.

Could I have done better in the above scenario?

 

[Striker_93]

Can you distinguish charm to me as opposed to light teasing? Give me examples of one as opposed to the other. I will give you an example of what I do. When I was studying for an exam with a cute girl, she told me that she had written down every single equation from the lectures on a piece of paper. The problem was that there were only 12 hours to the exam and there was no way in hell she could memorize all of the equations (nor would she need to). So I teased her about her intelligent move and how this would be sure to make her ace the exam. Then we playfully teased each other until we got done studying. We were laughing a lot and we stopped studying at 10 PM. She said she had to go and left, so I went back to my dorm.

Could I have done better in the above scenario?

The above example was fine.
That would be a example of light teasing.....

Charm is anything that would make someone feel good about themselves.
Asking a friend how his dog is doing 2 weeks after he mentioned his dog was sick

Making people feel good, building people up, compliments ect
Don't overdue it, too much of anything is bad.

Don't be a kiss ass, just throw out some charm here and there......

Example: at the movie theater by my house where lots of attractive women work at,
While sitting down waiting for a friend, a female employee was near by and I randomly got her attention and told her, "hey I like your hair"
Then proceeded to ask a couple of questions about her hair, "you did it yourself"? "What made you do it that way"?

I told her it was nice to meet her and I just wanted to tell her I liked her hair and it grabbed my attention(that statement probably made her week lol) now she associates me with good positive feelings, I made her feel good about herself not bad.

Before leaving On my way out the door she ended up flagging me down and giving me her phone to put my number in it. That's Charm, it's its just 1 small example of charm, it's get way more complex than that.

I didn't actually care about her hair lol I just told her that because I knew it would make her feel good.

Sometimes I remember small things people tell me n then bring it up later because I know it will make them think "ohhh he remembered"
Sometimes I will ask people I'm cool with
"Hey how's your girlfriend doing"? or "how's your mother doing"?
Because I know it will make them think "oh he cares" "What a cool guy"

In these cases that would be "superficial charm"
Because it's not "genuine" in a sense but whatever......

Did this help?

 

[CollegeMan22]

The above example was fine.
That would be a example of light teasing.....

Charm is anything that would make someone feel good about themselves.
Asking a friend how his dog is doing 2 weeks after he mentioned his dog was sick

Making people feel good, building people up, compliments ect
Don't overdue it, too much of anything is bad.

Don't be a kiss ass, just throw out some charm here and there......

Example: at the movie theater by my house where lots of attractive women work at,
While sitting down waiting for a friend, a female employee was near by and I randomly got her attention and told her, "hey I like your hair"
Then proceeded to ask a couple of questions about her hair, "you did it yourself"? "What made you do it that way"?

I told her it was nice to meet her and I just wanted to tell her I liked her hair and it grabbed my attention(that statement probably made her week lol) now she associates me with good positive feelings, I made her feel good about herself not bad.

Before leaving On my way out the door she ended up flagging me down and giving me her phone to put my number in it. That's Charm, it's its just 1 small example of charm, it's get way more complex than that.

I didn't actually care about her hair lol I just told her that because I knew it would make her feel good.

Sometimes I remember small things people tell me n then bring it up later because I know it will make them think "ohhh he remembered"
Sometimes I will ask people I'm cool with
"Hey how's your girlfriend doing"? or "how's your mother doing"?
Because I know it will make them think "oh he cares" "What a cool guy"

In these cases that would be "superficial charm"
Because it's not "genuine" in a sense but whatever......

Did this help?

Yes, I understand the difference between charm and beta adoration. I've heard before that women like feeling emotional intensity with a man, which means swinging between positive and negative emotions. In other words, keep her guessing. I've sometimes been too harsh, too often, with women, which keeps them in that negative emotional zone. Charm, as you described it, will let them know that I am interested in them and swing them out of the negativity.

One thing to keep in mind is that you want to compliment attributes of them (like hair or a piece of clothing), as opposed to complimenting them as a whole. It is a subtler way of telling them that they are hot.

 

[Striker_93]

Yes, I understand the difference between charm and beta adoration. I've heard before that women like feeling emotional intensity with a man, which means swinging between positive and negative emotions. In other words, keep her guessing. I've sometimes been too harsh, too often, with women, which keeps them in that negative emotional zone. Charm, as you described it, will let them know that I am interested in them and swing them out of the negativity.

One thing to keep in mind is that you want to compliment attributes of them (like hair or a piece of clothing), as opposed to complimenting them as a whole. It is a subtler way of telling them that they are hot.

Exactly, I found that women love hearing about there hair, never got a bad reaction.....

What would you say is your level of attractiveness?

 

[HaleyBaron]

That is woman speak for “your teasing went too far.”

I find negging to be a mistake altogether. She’s supposed to feel good around you.

@CollegeMan22 Ignore Eyeb's post. It doesn't hit with reality. I've gotten this comment more than you ever know. It doesn't mean you went too far. It means you got her where you want her. I've ****ed many a girl who said this. It makes them more wet for some reason.

 

[CollegeMan22]

Exactly, I found that women love hearing about there hair, never got a bad reaction.....

What would you say is your level of attractiveness?

I'd say 6.5 or 7/10. I'm more confident than most men, though. I regularly approach new men and women and make friends often. My height is 5'10'' and my bodyweight is 155 lbs. I can bench 7x6 reps of 135 lbs.

 

[Striker_93]

I'd say 6.5 or 7/10. I'm more confident than most men, though. I regularly approach new men and women and make friends often. My height is 5'10'' and my bodyweight is 155 lbs. I can bench 7x6 reps of 135 lbs.

That's good, your decent looking, and very confident, add some charm and see if your results get better.

 

[Old Balls]

Yeah, a time or two of the "you're so mean" with a shoulder punch is good for business, but add in charm and DEEP eye contact (try to see her fallopian tubes through the colors of her eyes haha) and space out very light teasing to keep the draws damp. Too much of anything dries them up.