A while back I had looked into co-ed activities, including some stuff on meetup, and it was kind of an awkward collection of individuals.
Meetup.com events are usually complete shiit. An awkward collection of individuals is a good way to describe most Meetup events. Most single men benefit from avoiding Meetup events.
Other co-ed activities is too vague for me to provide any insight. I posted a thread about co-ed sports leagues on here in September which received 0 responses. That to me was quite telling.
How many of you have participated in co-ed sports leagues? It can be any co-ed sports league. Did you get any results with women from it? One night stands, casual sex, extended relationships? I would call co-ed sports leagues a form of social circle game, though it is weak social circle...
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I would call co-ed sports leagues a form of social circle game, though it is weak social circle game. Better social circle game is meeting at a private residence party through mutual acquaintances or any other thing where mutual friends/acquaintances facilitate an introduction. In most co-ed sports leagues, I would call it "warm approaching". As a man you're going to need to walk up to a strange woman and start a conversation, which is an element of cold approaching. It's a hybrid of the cold approach and pure social circle. Below is something I've written about co-ed sports leagues in the past based on my own experiences.
In the 2000s/2010s, co-ed sports leagues were a common thing for 20s/30s people to do. Kickball had a meteoric surge in popularity around the late 2000s/early 2010s. Almost all co-ed team sports have young adults. A good percentage of the participating population in co-ed sports is doing it because they are single and looking to date. However, there are some established couples/established teams who do things. It can be a bit cliquey and social circle to do. You're generally going to have a better experience in a sports league if you establish your own team from your existing circle of friends rather than sign up as a free agent to join teams that are 1-2 players short of a full team or a random team comprised of all free agents. This is even more true when the sport requires actual skill, like volleyball or soccer. Kickball is complete bullshiit and doesn't require actual skill. Regardless of the sport, most of the socializing and finding romance occurs after the end of the game at some sponsor bar. The games are filler for the actual picking up.
I recommend co-ed sports leagues if you're passionate about the sport. If you're doing it just for the dating, you're likely to be sorely disappointed. It's effectiveness is questionable and it's definitely not efficient. For efficiency's sake, you're likely better off going to fitness classes and doing approaches before or after classes, especially if you're joining leagues as a free agent and don't have social ties within the league. You're more likely to build social ties if you do the leagues season after season. Co-ed sports leagues are difficult to swoop into and get dates from random approaching after games.
I genuinely believe that gym approaches could work really well in my favor. However, given the handful of experiences I have had it would tell me that this is NOT a good idea. I was running into a lot of attention *****s, flakes, etc. from this environment and because of these variables it's made me reluctant to approach. I don't know if that's reason enough to totally write off approaching in this environment though.
They could. The general gym floor is a difficult place to game. You have an advantage there being 6'4" and having big muscles. The general gym floor is more men than women. The women tend to be wearing earbuds/headphones and are less receptive to being approached.
I've never heard you mention doing fitness classes. At fitness classes, you avoid the headphones/earbuds problem. The women are more receptive to approaches than on the general gym ratio and fitness classes regardless of the format give you a ratio advantage since there are more women than men there. Despite the fact that fitness classes offer good ratios, they are not as advantageous as they might seem. You only have a 5 minute window before and after classes to do approaches. Some women aren't that social before and after classes. My hypothesis about those women is that they are already in relationships in most cases.
You could explore joining a different gym if you think you'd meet better quality women at a different gym than the one you could currently go to. Another option would be to use ClassPass to supplement your primary gym and make appearances at various places and hit on a variety of women that way.
You also have a great option available in hiking there. In the more temperate months, you can go out to some hiking trails and do pickup either at the bottom of the trails by lounging around for 30-60 minutes or actually doing hikes on trails where younger women are known to go. In the hotter months, you could do that same thing at sunrise before it gets hot.
OLD in my area is trash and I'd rather not go there at all.
You're wise to avoid the swipe apps and websites. You don't need to use them at all.
I'm not at all into the nightlife scene so that's not even something I'd consider. Outside of this I genuinely can't think of an environment I'd do well with that would give me access to a multitude of women that are actually single AND interested in me.
It's possible to enact a strategy where you don't use regular nights out at bars to meet women. It's more difficult to pull off though. If you do a few of the things I've suggested earlier, then there's a good chance you can avoid the bar scene and still have prospects.
