Should i be envious of those who served in the military?

eli77

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 7, 2013
Messages
2,249
Reaction score
449
Location
Miami fl
Have some friends who went in no officers but have mixed emotions about their time in.Anyone want to chime in?
 

Billtx49

Moderator
Joined
May 23, 2013
Messages
6,078
Reaction score
5,483
Location
DFW
Veteran status has many after service benefits including free burial, schooling, and health options, but the main things to gain from the military are discipline and laser focused job commitment…
They’re in the business of building Men.
 

forcerecon01

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 14, 2019
Messages
854
Reaction score
484
Age
45
Veteran status has many after service benefits including free burial, schooling, and health options, but the main things to gain from the military are discipline and laser focused job commitment…
They’re in the business of building Men.
I'm a U.S. Vet from the Corps. Much respect to anyone who wore the uniform and served.
 
Last edited:

EyeBRollin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 18, 2015
Messages
10,688
Reaction score
8,630
Age
35
No, you should not be envious of those who join the military. Ever wonder why the well-off don’t send their children into the military?

The military does positive things for our country and builds character. We are grateful for those who serve. However, in modern times it is basically a Federal jobs program.
 

Bokanovsky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2012
Messages
4,834
Reaction score
4,533
Veteran status has many after service benefits including free burial, schooling, and health options, but the main things to gain from the military are discipline and laser focused job commitment…
They’re in the business of building Men.
Actually, they are in the business of building machines who will obey without questioning orders. That is the number one purpose of military training. Take a person who thinks for himself, break him down, and turn him into someone who does what he’s told. That’s the one aspect of military service that has always seemed like a major turn-off. The military does not seem to be a good fit for someone who is individualistic and independently-minded. Having said that, I have great respect for people who volunteer to serve.
 
Last edited:

Pierce Manhammer

Moderator
Joined
Jun 2, 2021
Messages
5,026
Reaction score
6,030
Location
PRC
don’t forget financial services USAA.

Veteran status has many after service benefits including free burial, schooling, and health options, but the main things to gain from the military are discipline and laser focused job commitment…
They’re in the business of building Men.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

Pierce Manhammer

Moderator
Joined
Jun 2, 2021
Messages
5,026
Reaction score
6,030
Location
PRC
I understand how someone who has not served in the US armed forces may feel that way.

The service in the US teaches leadership, how to lead other men in combat arms (mostly). This requires thought synthesis and on the spot judgement, hardly the realm of the mindless automatons most “free thinkers” believe members to be.

Actually, they are in the business of building machines who will obey without questioning orders. That is the number one purpose of military training. Take a person who thinks for himself, break him down, and turn him into someone who does what he’s told. That’s the one aspect of military service that has always seemed like a major turn-off. The military does not seem to be a good fit for someone who is individualistic and independently-minded. Having said that, I have great respect for people who volunteer to serve.
 

oc16

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 1, 2016
Messages
1,540
Reaction score
1,065
I understand how someone who has not served in the US armed forces may feel that way.

The service in the US teaches leadership, how to lead other men in combat arms (mostly). This requires thought synthesis and on the spot judgement, hardly the realm of the mindless automatons most “free thinkers” believe members to be.
I have thought about this myself. I never served, but neither did 90-95% of my peers. (I'm Gen X). While I admire those that served, don't feel guilty that you didn't or envious of those that have.

Now, if you were part of the Greatest Generation (WW2) and didn't serve, than I would see a problem there.

How did guys like Sinatra (who claimed 4F) and John Wayne go through life and not feel ashamed or guilty for NOT serving when just about every Tom, **** and Harry went in.

Heck, my Italian-American Grandfather was 33 when the war broke out. He served in the Navy when he was 36 in 1944-45, despite having an infant at home. He was older and didn't have to serve, but he did anyway and I respect that.
 

forcerecon01

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 14, 2019
Messages
854
Reaction score
484
Age
45
I have thought about this myself. I never served, but neither did 90-95% of my peers. (I'm Gen X). While I admire those that served, don't feel guilty that you didn't or envious of those that have.

Now, if you were part of the Greatest Generation (WW2) and didn't serve, than I would see a problem there.

How did guys like Sinatra (who claimed 4F) and John Wayne go through life and not feel ashamed or guilty for NOT serving when just about every Tom, **** and Harry went in.

Heck, my Italian-American Grandfather was 33 when the war broke out. He served in the Navy when he was 36 in 1944-45, despite having an infant at home. He was older and didn't have to serve, but he did anyway and I respect that.
military servicemen and women deserve respect.
 

Black Widow Void

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2010
Messages
2,176
Reaction score
3,841
Have some friends who went in no officers but have mixed emotions about their time in.Anyone want to chime in?
Never served, but have great respect for those that voluntarily did.

It’s a culture and lifestyle that has absolutely no appeal to me, but I’d not have this freedom to choose… if not for their participation.

Any time at a bar and I meet someone that’s served, I always by them a drink. $5.00 is a small price to pay… for them enlisting in something that I’d rather avoid.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

Bokanovsky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2012
Messages
4,834
Reaction score
4,533
I understand how someone who has not served in the US armed forces may feel that way.

The service in the US teaches leadership, how to lead other men in combat arms (mostly). This requires thought synthesis and on the spot judgement, hardly the realm of the mindless automatons most “free thinkers” believe members to be.
If true, wouldn’t that create the problem of “too
many chiefs, not enough indians”? How can you have a hierarchical organization where everyone is a leader? Who’s going to be following those leaders?
And I’m not saying that soldiers on the battlefield are “mindless automatons”. Clearly, they have to make tactical decision based on situational analysis. I was talking about something broader, namely the culture of conformity that MUST exist in any functional military organization. You follow the orders of your superiors. You don’t substitute your judgment for theirs. If you do, you will be charged with insubordination.
 
Joined
Mar 9, 2021
Messages
3,477
Reaction score
2,755
Age
29
no, who cares, worry about what you can control right now to fix your life. There's people that benefited from the military and there's people that didn't.
 

Pierce Manhammer

Moderator
Joined
Jun 2, 2021
Messages
5,026
Reaction score
6,030
Location
PRC
You’re not getting it and I cannot explain it to you. All good bro.

If true, wouldn’t that create the problem of “too
many chiefs, not enough indians”? How can you have a hierarchical organization where everyone is a leader? Who’s going to be following those leaders?
And I’m not saying that soldiers on the battlefield are “mindless automatons”. Clearly, they have to make tactical decision based on situational analysis. I was talking about something broader, namely the culture of conformity that MUST exist in any functional military organization. You follow the orders of your superiors. You don’t substitute your judgment for theirs. If you do, you will be charged with insubordination.
 

Am Shaegar

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 28, 2021
Messages
52
Reaction score
50
Age
36
Have some friends who went in no officers but have mixed emotions about their time in.Anyone want to chime in?
The military in Western countries went down hill like the education systems. There is nothing to be envious about being stuck in it. There are ups and downs in being in an army depeing on your role in it, but the biggest up is the training and education they finance you when you get out. Of course the downside is that you are a cheap disposalbe meatbag that can be send off to war to get killed. And the propaganda you are subjected to.

Historically speaking, being a common soldier was seen as a dishonest profession until the world wars came. Being an officer(a real officer not an NCO) on the other hand was seen with prestige, because it meant you made it into upper class. I have some ancestors who joined the military to step up the social ladder.
 

T_Rex

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 16, 2022
Messages
43
Reaction score
18
Age
32
No, you should not be envious of those who join the military. Ever wonder why the well-off don’t send their children into the military?

The military does positive things for our country and builds character. We are grateful for those who serve. However, in modern times it is basically a Federal jobs program.
"well off" do send their children to the military. Not in the same numbers for obvious reasons but there are kids from all sorts of families in the military.

Actually, they are in the business of building machines who will obey without questioning orders. That is the number one purpose of military training. Take a person who thinks for himself, break him down, and turn him into someone who does what he’s told. That’s the one aspect of military service that has always seemed like a major turn-off. The military does not seem to be a good fit for someone who is individualistic and independently-minded. Having said that, I have great respect for people who volunteer to serve.
Everything you said before "having said that" is the opposite of reality. And that has been the case for at least the past 100 years or so. In fact, "individualistic and independently-minded" is the trait you can describe most servicemen.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Top