jamesfromhouston
Senior Don Juan
Hello gents.
New year. New me. I wanted to pick up cold approaching. (Prior to this, I've largely been doing OLD and social media game. Had alright success with it but incredibly tiring and boring to game like this. Time to learn and get good at cold approaching.)
So last night I was at a night club, it was really happening, super packed. For some context, I'm 5'10. Lean build. Was dressed fashionably. Probably one of the best dressed at the joint. Received many compliments about my style. I had 3 situations, would like some specific thoughts/advice:
1)Girl at the dance floor.
I saw a cute girl rock up at the joint. She was with a bunch of friends. Almost from the get go, she was approached a couple of times. But seemed bored. I wanted to make my move but there were constantly guys talking to her. She looked bored and eventually she was standing/bobbing by herself at the dance floor. Her friends had left her. I make my move, smile and get up next to her. First thing I said was 'you look new to the place, enjoying yourself?'. She was sort of mellow, like one worded replies to our initial chat. I push through and ask her where she's from and she more or less started to ignore me before her female friend swooped in and took her dancing. She almost looked passed or cbf I approached her.
Might sound like a stupid question but was it a lose lose situation from the get go? Could I have done it better?
2)Wild girl.
So I was chatting with my buddy and eventually this gay guy comes up to me and tells me I'm good looking. He tells me he wants to introduce me to his friend, this wild tight dressed cute girl, and immediately drags her over to me. I start chatting with her but her other girl friend starts dragging her away. The wild girl holds my hand and tries to pull me away but I didn't want leave my buddy alone. So I anyway, later on, I see her dancing and I go dance with her. Again her girlfriend eventually swoops in and tries to drag her away.
I'm wondering wtf is going with her girl friend. Why does she keep coming in and interrupting. How do you guys deal with this scenario? (FYI, after last night, the wild girl did eventually hit me up social media, she wanted to go home with me and has high IL).
3)Girl across the table.
I was with my buddy drinking at the bar, laughing loads. I noticed these 2 girls across us at the far side. I had a vibe one of them kept tried to make small eye contact with me but she would look away and was not smiling. I wanted to approach her but she was far away. It would be a very deliberate move so I wanted to confirm IL first before I did. Anyway whole night she would do the same, look over occasionally, stoic face, look away. Eventually she left.
How would you guys read IL in a situation like this. What are the signs?
My buddy suggested we buy and send drinks over but being red pilled, I felt it was beta. What situations would you guys buy drinks for girls?
What is your approach to bar table game?
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Thanks bros for reading. Would appreciate your insights, thoughts and advice about the above.
- James
New year. New me. I wanted to pick up cold approaching. (Prior to this, I've largely been doing OLD and social media game. Had alright success with it but incredibly tiring and boring to game like this. Time to learn and get good at cold approaching.)
So last night I was at a night club, it was really happening, super packed. For some context, I'm 5'10. Lean build. Was dressed fashionably. Probably one of the best dressed at the joint. Received many compliments about my style. I had 3 situations, would like some specific thoughts/advice:
1)Girl at the dance floor.
I saw a cute girl rock up at the joint. She was with a bunch of friends. Almost from the get go, she was approached a couple of times. But seemed bored. I wanted to make my move but there were constantly guys talking to her. She looked bored and eventually she was standing/bobbing by herself at the dance floor. Her friends had left her. I make my move, smile and get up next to her. First thing I said was 'you look new to the place, enjoying yourself?'. She was sort of mellow, like one worded replies to our initial chat. I push through and ask her where she's from and she more or less started to ignore me before her female friend swooped in and took her dancing. She almost looked passed or cbf I approached her.
Might sound like a stupid question but was it a lose lose situation from the get go? Could I have done it better?
2)Wild girl.
So I was chatting with my buddy and eventually this gay guy comes up to me and tells me I'm good looking. He tells me he wants to introduce me to his friend, this wild tight dressed cute girl, and immediately drags her over to me. I start chatting with her but her other girl friend starts dragging her away. The wild girl holds my hand and tries to pull me away but I didn't want leave my buddy alone. So I anyway, later on, I see her dancing and I go dance with her. Again her girlfriend eventually swoops in and tries to drag her away.
I'm wondering wtf is going with her girl friend. Why does she keep coming in and interrupting. How do you guys deal with this scenario? (FYI, after last night, the wild girl did eventually hit me up social media, she wanted to go home with me and has high IL).
3)Girl across the table.
I was with my buddy drinking at the bar, laughing loads. I noticed these 2 girls across us at the far side. I had a vibe one of them kept tried to make small eye contact with me but she would look away and was not smiling. I wanted to approach her but she was far away. It would be a very deliberate move so I wanted to confirm IL first before I did. Anyway whole night she would do the same, look over occasionally, stoic face, look away. Eventually she left.
How would you guys read IL in a situation like this. What are the signs?
My buddy suggested we buy and send drinks over but being red pilled, I felt it was beta. What situations would you guys buy drinks for girls?
What is your approach to bar table game?
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Thanks bros for reading. Would appreciate your insights, thoughts and advice about the above.
- James