article: What Women in Their 40’s Really Want in a Man We’re not demanding. We just want what we want.

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Please Don’t Compare Us to Younger Women
Mature Women Do Want Romance
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Honestly, the prospect of great conversation with an intelligent man is exceptionally appealing to a woman in her 40’s. It’s a damned turn-on. There is a reason why the human brain is the most powerful sex organ — use it.
my opinion: Of course, the lunkhead Chad was exceptionally appealing to woman in their 20's [sic]. How blessed we are that we are now appealing to harridans. :mad:
 

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I'm 38 and not interested in women in their 40s yet.

I would look at an in-shape, childless 40 year old and look at an in-shape, childless 25 year old. I'd rather the 25 year old.

Many men will want sex from an in-shape, childless 40 something. They can usually find a beta willing to commit. I'm not sure what 40 something have to complain about in regard to romance.
 

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Many men will want sex from an in-shape, childless 40 something. They can usually find a beta willing to commit. I'm not sure what 40 something have to complain about in regard to romance.
Most women in their 40s will have had children though.
 

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Most women in their 40s will have had children though.
That's changing with the Millennials born in the 1980s. Millennial childlessness is high.
 

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I'm 47. Current woman 49. I can say this with experience. You cannot abandon Don Juan principles with the older women, but you can relax them some. First, you have to make sure she understands that in your core you are not a beta simp. Once you prove that to her, then you can relax a bit. And when she breaks your boundaries, swiftly show her you won't tolerate it. Search the forum, you will find many posts from me about women in their 30s. Women in their 30s are the worst human beings on the planet. But after 40, they DO get better. Yes, I know, they aren't always as attractive, but some are. My woman is 5'6 135 lbs. No Arby's roast beef either, it looks and tastes just as nice as any younger woman I have ever been with.. Good topic.
 

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Arby's roast beef lol. :eek:
 

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From a man's point of view this is simple: either she's making your life easier or she's making your life more difficult.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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I read that article. haha.

unattractive 40-year-old women want what is described in that article (safety). ready for beta bucks and simpy sam. but the selection is not as good as before for her albeit she still has choices, just not the same ones as before. more or less the description of the perfect man is close to what men want a woman to be. often the 40 years old unattractive woman becomes like a man and wants the respect and admiration of a woman (man...).

hot 40-year-old women usually date younger men and want the same things that a 30 or 25-year-old woman wants. she can and will get it all day long.
 

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hot 40-year-old women usually date younger men and want the same things that a 30 or 25-year-old woman wants. she can and will get it all day long.
I wouldn't say that a hot 40 year old woman usually dates a younger man, but an attractive and childless 40 year old woman will be able to attract a decent selection of men in their 40s and early 50s. I'll agree she'll want similar things to a 25 or 30 year old but even an attractive and childless 40 year old woman won't be able to compete as well with 25 and 30 year olds. An attractive and childless 40 year old woman will have a decent existence and one better than a large portion of men.

An attractive 40 year old woman with kids but won't have problems finding sex but she'll have more problems getting commitment, but there are enough 40 something beta males that she'd find a commitment.

unattractive 40-year-old women want what is described in that article (safety). ready for beta bucks and simpy sam. but the selection is not as good as before for her albeit she still has choices, just not the same ones as before. more or less the description of the perfect man is close to what men want a woman to be.
This is accurate.

Most women in their 40s will have had children though.
That's changing with the Millennials born in the 1980s. Millennial childlessness is high.
Technically, @zekko is correct and he'll still be correct throughout the 2020s as the Millennials enter their 40s. There's going to be an unprecedent wave of never married and childless women turning 40 throughout the 2020s but that will still make up a minority of the 40 something population. While there will be more 40 year olds never married and with no kids or divorced with no kids, these still won't be easy demographics to find if solely doing in person appraoching, but likely easier to find on swipe apps. Older, childless singles (both men and women) find themselves on the fringes of most couples dominated social circles but older, childless single men are more likely to be on the fringes than older, childless single women.
 

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I'm 47. Current woman 49. I can say this with experience. You cannot abandon Don Juan principles with the older women, but you can relax them some. First, you have to make sure she understands that in your core you are not a beta simp. Once you prove that to her, then you can relax a bit. And when she breaks your boundaries, swiftly show her you won't tolerate it. Search the forum, you will find many posts from me about women in their 30s. Women in their 30s are the worst human beings on the planet. But after 40, they DO get better. Yes, I know, they aren't always as attractive, but some are. My woman is 5'6 135 lbs. No Arby's roast beef either, it looks and tastes just as nice as any younger woman I have ever been with.. Good topic.
Agree with lefty. I currently date a 40 year old, no kids, in shape, independent.
I got a few tests in the last year or so, far in between, the lite version of the younger girls.
You cannot abandon principles and set her straight when it's the case.
These days I am in the third day of her pulling back shyt test :).
 

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All this article shows is that 40 y/o women see the world through the same filter as 10 y/o little girls see the world.

All in terms of what they want, and only a vague idea of what they have to offer. and ZERO idea that beyond childhood one is absolutely dependent on the other.
 

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I think the goods stay pretty much the same as long as a mother opts for a c-section. If not, I think it does stretch it a bit. I have experienced both types.

In either case you’re going to want a little bit of lubricant on hand…Takes a little longer to get the engine warmed up.

I find fit women in their forties to still be attractive. I often see them jogging or sunbathing. Though I am almost 50.

Maybe not my first pick, but definitely still in the game.
 

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I dont care what women in their 40s want or not. At 35, they are still sexually invisible to me. Maybe when Im in my 50s. Maybe
 
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