Guys,how can I work on abundance mindset?

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I know there is abundance women on the earth and there is no ONE, oneitis is fuking illusion but I still have attachment to a certain women from time to time.My mind try trick me that the girl that I crush on was the prettiest girl on the earth.Does abundance mentality will come from a mindset shift or I need to get touch with more women so that I can proof to my mind that women was abundance?
 

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I have High school crush She was a fatty before and she was really into me before,then she lose weight and became pretty,I lost my entitlement now.She was a 7or 8 now?But my mind was always want to trick me that she is a 9 or 10.
 

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What worked for me recently was doing dates I actually enjoyed (going to restaurant I was actually craving or going to a movie I actually wanted to see). This way, your focus is more on the date than the girl, so you dont give off scarcity mentality, girls pick up on this and believe you have abundance.

Also, not only was I doing dates I actually enojyed but I was triple booking with girls at the same time/place/date. If none cancels, go out with thew hottest one and flake on the other girls
 

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I know there is abundance women on the earth and there is no ONE, oneitis is fuking illusion but I still have attachment to a certain women from time to time.My mind try trick me that the girl that I crush on was the prettiest girl on the earth.Does abundance mentality will come from a mindset shift or I need to get touch with more women so that I can proof to my mind that women was abundance?
Here:


It's an old article that I plan to rewrite and republish but the concept is there.

Hope it helps.

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Date a lot of women. The more women you date, the more women you will sleep with. After your lay count gets high enough you look at women differently (they are no longer special).
 

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Watch how your word your thought process. Also being successful in other areas of your life matters. Watch the people you spend your time with.
 

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Have something in your life greater than women. Pour passion into your career and hobbies. Learn something new and become good at it.
broaden your social circle with other people as passionate about career or hobby as you are. This naturally puts you around women who are into the same thing. now you have a point of commonality to build upon.
 

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The only way to have an abundance mindset is ... to have abundance. :rolleyes:

Is the ethnicity of your avatar indicative of yourself? If so, you're already in the hole.
 

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Go to the Philippines, you will experience true abundance and then you can use that as a frame of reference

 

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The only way to have an abundance mindset is ... to have abundance. :rolleyes:

Is the ethnicity of your avatar indicative of yourself? If so, you're already in the hole.
Not really, actual physical abundance is not a requirement for having the mindset, but it sure makes it temporarily easier. Getting burnt some times also does the trick, getting to that point where you've "had enough". You can have enough by literally having enough or you can feel like you've had enough without any immediately available options, it's practically indistinguishable to women.

Regarding his ethnicity. Judging from the broken English and the way it's broken it doesn't seem like he's from a western country, so chances are almost everyone around him are the same ethnicity.
 

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See an escort if you want guaranteed results. Works best if you go on actual dates with regular girls at the same time - you will be more outcome independent, and you will be able to notice changes in your attitude and demeanor.

Quick results an no complete overhaul of your life is needed :)
 
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Find satisfaction in everything you do. Too many men compartmentalize chicks: then everything else. Dating lots of women works, but just don't think getting a chick is the be all/end all of everything. The people in your life should compliment your life, including women. You have to be okay with your life the way it is before anything else. It's a holistic approach.

Think of it this way... what do you have to give up if you are in a relationship with a woman? If you don't know I will tell you. A FVCK TON OF STUFF. I will never get into an exclusive relationship with another woman unless something totally unexpected happens and I find a woman that fits in my life like a glove... and that is HIGHLY unlikely.

I like my freedom too much. I like living a life where a buddy of mine calls and says "Hey, let's hop on a plane and go see the Saints play in New York!" I can do that because I'm not poring money into a chick and can afford it... I don't have to check in with a chick to see if it's okay. If I just want to go deep sea fishing... done. I want to take sailing lessons done. I don't have to worry about trying to figure out how I MUST fit some chick into anything I do.

If I'm planning something and want female company... GREAT I call one up and invite her... there is no obligation.

It's just takes too fvcking much emotional energy to be in a relationship if I've had a hard day at work, and just want to pop on ESPN and vegetate watching a basketball game, I do it. I don't have to worry about massaging the ego of some emotional woman as I try to figure out 'what's wrong' to keep her from getting ticked off. Women can be energy/emotional/money/time vampires.... if you let them.

Remember this... oft said and bears repeating. No matter how hot a chick is, there is one or many men that are sick of her sh!t.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Regarding his ethnicity. Judging from the broken English and the way it's broken it doesn't seem like he's from a western country, so chances are almost everyone around him are the same ethnicity.
His broken English is refreshing. And I understood all of it. MUCH better than the lazy posters that speak perfect English, butcher the language, with zero proofreading so readers have to decipher wtf they're saying. Bravo op.
 
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Not really, actual physical abundance is not a requirement for having the mindset, but it sure makes it temporarily easier. Getting burnt some times also does the trick, getting to that point where you've "had enough". You can have enough by literally having enough or you can feel like you've had enough without any immediately available options, it's practically indistinguishable to women.

Regarding his ethnicity. Judging from the broken English and the way it's broken it doesn't seem like he's from a western country, so chances are almost everyone around him are the same ethnicity.
I actually from China, but I will go to US for college soon.
 

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His broken English is refreshing. And I understood all of it. MUCH better than the lazy posters that speak perfect English, butcher the language, with zero proofreading so readers have to decipher wtf they're saying. Bravo op.
Thanks dude.
 

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