Girl said I’m too dominant and she’ll lose herself in me (breaks up)

[SargeMaximus]

So yeah wtf happened here? Things were going good. No sex but after our first date and we were setting things up to meet again we start sexting and she gets super horny like beyond horny.
Then she messages me the next day when we were supposed to meet and says she knows herself and knows she’d get consumed in me and says she needs to be more dominant otherwise it’s not good for her. Wtf

 

[Zimbabwe]

Either her friends talked her out of the relationship or she was already with another guy.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Possible that she's saying the truth. A chick hit me with something like this once because she tends to get clingy in relationships, but we just took it slow, still together and with good boundaries, no clinginess. She never ended up feeling the negative things she thought she would feel.

Not giving you the benefit of the doubt shows something, maybe lack of interest, maybe just not ready for what you're offering.Maybe your dominance comes off as domineering.

 

[Robert28]

She’s a loon that’s what happened

 

[SargeMaximus]

Thanks guys

 

[Masculinity]

Give it a month and follow up. Biology overcomes sociology.

 

[spred]

Some people will say that this is a sign of high interest. It could be also blabbering. Just continue to ask her out in a neutral tone and you will find out the reason behind. Good luck!

 

[Striker_93]

Why try to figure it out ? Why waist the mental energy ?

It is what it is, don't beg or chase,
Meet other women.....

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

So yeah wtf happened here? Things were going good. No sex but after our first date and we were setting things up to meet again we start sexting and she gets super horny like beyond horny.
Then she messages me the next day when we were supposed to meet and says she knows herself and knows she’d get consumed in me and says she needs to be more dominant otherwise it’s not good for her. Wtf

You went too hard too fast for this particular girl. Or maybe she had low interest and made some weird horny jail drama to have an excuse to cut you off.

In my experience it's better to treat things extremely casually until we're in the bedroom, and only then being blatantly dominant, talking dirty, and testing limits. Any obvious dirty talk through text beforehand is giving it up too easily and should be downplayed if she tries.

Sometimes being aggressive works, but it's always better if you can draw out their sexual aggression without showing your own.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You went too hard too fast for this particular girl. Or maybe she had low interest and made some weird horny jail drama to have an excuse to cut you off.

In my experience it's better to treat things extremely casually until we're in the bedroom, and only then being blatantly dominant, talking dirty, and testing limits. Any obvious dirty talk through text beforehand is giving it up too easily and should be downplayed if she tries.

Sometimes being aggressive works, but it's always better if you can draw out their sexual aggression without showing your own.

Hmmm, in my experience if I don’t get sexual off the bat they lose interest

 

[Dr.Suave]

Next time you plan on going out certain day, triple book. If one of them cancels u dont even worry about these stuff.

 

[Plinco]

So yeah wtf happened here? Things were going good. No sex but after our first date and we were setting things up to meet again we start sexting and she gets super horny like beyond horny.
Then she messages me the next day when we were supposed to meet and says she knows herself and knows she’d get consumed in me and says she needs to be more dominant otherwise it’s not good for her. Wtf

Either her friends talked her out of the relationship or she was already with another guy.

Or she had a 'bad' experience before, or she's looking for a beta male she can control, or she's actually wants to think independently (doubtful). Probably a combination or reasons.