Does anyone here still want to Find a Wife?

[EyeBRollin]

@EyeBRollin, if you marry Bubble Butt Betty and she changes her mind, she can wipe you clean for no reason. If this gamble, hey go for it. I prefer to go in with protection. These days, the pre-nup and IRT are the only things that keeps the other party in check. Pre-nups and IRTs are like bazookas.. It's nice to have, and you hope you never have to use it. Don't be stupid and believe that love will get you through everything. Especially with a NYC female.

We know you are profoundly jaded, irrational, and bitter on this topic. Carry on.

 

[Zimbabwe]

We know you are profoundly jaded, irrational, and bitter on this topic. Carry on.

We live in a very boring dystopia, it's no surprise why most men would be Jaded. The only reason i have optimism is because i have my parents culture to fall back on.

 

[Plinco]

We live in a very boring dystopia, it's no surprise why most men would be Jaded. The only reason i have optimism is because i have my parents culture to fall back on.

That's nice but I'd advise you on not depending on other people.

 

[kavi]

You see, you think it is noble and right to want to get married, probably to have children. But this is how it is...

The children, whether they are biologically yours or not, they are never truly 'yours'. Children belong to the state, or the society they will live in. You are mostly having and raising children for the government/society because there is no doubt that will influence them more than you. Also, after a few generations your own genetic and cultural influence on you children will mean nothing after they have married and had children themselves, after a 100s of years your impact really will amount to very little.

The nuclear family system is never about the man, it is always about the system, religion, state that it is happens within, the nuclear family is simply there to propogate that system.

Now, if you join a cult, a commune, a different religion, and then promote that system, and help to grow that system, then you are actually more likely to leave something behind that can propogate and continue.

What I'm saying is, if any mans really wants to leave a legacy, affect the world etc it is not about having a nuclear family but really changing the system, affecting politics, being part of a community etc cos those things can grow over generations and actually affect how future generations behave.

I mean its cool to get married, Im not saying dont do it, Im just saying its not really the best way to have meaning in your life, to have a legacy, or to be good and noble. At the end of the day, whats the point having children if you cant even give them anything other than to place them at the mercy of this system and these values. In that case it maybe better to try and change the system for the benefit of future children whether yours or those of others.

 

[corrector]

If i don't have a rotation with other women, i will get oneitis. Most of my hobbies are pretty solitary and I don't have any real interest in making male friends unless I'm getting some benefit out of it. I enjoy spending time with new women.

If I'm not out sleeping with other girls i would be home all day with my future wife or at the gym.

Why not just get a job? That is what most people do during the day to occupy themselves. But a mindset like that defeats any religious component behind getting married. If you are some pagan earth worshipper and have some wierd arrangement where your adult children are still breastfeedings then I cant say anything to that. But for someone touting the dating market is degenerate and social morals have gone down gave me the impression you were at least raised a Christian. A reprobate degenerate marriage vs not getting married is the same thing since without a religious component to it (ie this honors God), I cant see the point, especially for the likes of you.

 

[RickTheToad]

We know you are profoundly jaded, irrational, and bitter on this topic. Carry on.

Casanova, before you do something stupid, please, at least see a divorce lawyer prior to signing the contract. You need at least 3 months prior to the wedding act in order to not be considered duress or force upon the other spouse.

 

[RickTheToad]

Pre nups don't even hold up in Australian courts, they are almost always overtuned because the women claim they were "forced" into signing it.

We need something like this Church in modern day society to fix the divorce problem

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They hold up in the US; even California. Consider moving.

 

[Barrister]

Pre nups don't even hold up in Australian courts, they are almost always overtuned because the women claim they were "forced" into signing it.

We need something like this Church in modern day society to fix the divorce problem

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Not sure about Australia since I am from the US - but this is precisely why you have your soon to be wifey have her OWN attorney review the prenup with her before she signs. If you both sign without attorneys or only you are represented during the process, it is a sure-fire way the prenup will not be upheld in a divorce court. Assuming she has her own legal counsel for the review process - it is VERY difficult to argue duress in signing.

 

[zekko]

I thought of modifying it actually, I will still Game other women to keep my skills sharp but I won't sleep with them.

That's a difficult route to take. I'm not married, but I am faithful to my (longtime) girlfriend. I will flirt with girls on occasion, but there's a line I don't cross. I find it isn't really Game if you can't/won't take it all the way.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Casanova, before you do something stupid, please, at least see a divorce lawyer prior to signing the contract. You need at least 3 months prior to the wedding act in order to not be considered duress or force upon the other spouse.

Not sure about Australia since I am from the US - but this is precisely why you have your soon to be wifey have her OWN attorney review the prenup with her before she signs. If you both sign without attorneys or only you are represented during the process, it is a sure-fire way the prenup will not be upheld in a divorce court. Assuming she has her own legal counsel for the review process - it is VERY difficult to argue duress in signing.

If your attitude is that war-like towards your would-be spouse just don’t get married. Simple.

 

[EyeBRollin]

"Find a wife?" That implies signing a contract with her and the government. So it's up to you whether that works to your advantage or not.

As for marriage being the best setup for raising children, I see that repeated a lot around here, but I question the validity of this assertion. So many marriages end in divorce, that doesn't help kids. Neither does staying in an expired marriage for the kids' sake. This trope is repeated ad nauseum but it doesn't hold up to scrutiny. You won't love your kids more just because the government or church approved your relationship.

The only situation that's ideal for kids is having two parents who continue to love each other and their kids - and you don't need a contract or third party approval to do that. So ask yourself, why do you truly want to get married? Societal approval? Leftover blue pill fantasy? New passport?

There’s truth to what you’re saying but it doesn’t hold up to reality. In many US states, living with a partner is still a common law marriage. And you really are splitting hairs at that point sharing a domicile with your baby momma. Also, good luck finding a healthy woman that will accept just being a baby momma playing house.

 

[RickTheToad]

If your attitude is that war-like towards your would-be spouse just don’t get married. Simple.

How very blue pill of you to say. When you need a divorce lawyer, which you will, Call James Sexton, Esq. He's pricey, but worth it. You'll at least retain something.

 

[EyeBRollin]

How very blue pill of you to say. When you need a divorce lawyer, which you will, Call James Sexton, Esq. He's pricey, but worth it. You'll at least retain something.

It’s hilarious how jaded you are. It’s a binary choice; either get married and accept what comes with it or don’t get married at all. No one is forcing any of us to go either way.

 

[RickTheToad]

It’s hilarious how jaded you are. It’s a binary choice; either get married and accept what comes with it or don’t get married at all. No one is forcing any of us to go either way.

Perhaps to the unfamiliar. Just remember, should something go wrong, it's you vs the spouse AND the State. 2 vs. 1. You like those odds? Cool, go for it. At a minimum, see a divorce attorney 1st to learn all the possible scenerios which can happen. You are not a stupid dude, I hope you at least heed this advice from someone who went through this. If not, that's cool, and I honestly wish you the best with your new wife. However, should it fall short or sour, do not say you were not encouraged to speak to a lawyer. Sexton, does not provide free consultations though... Some do.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Perhaps to the unfamiliar. Just remember, should something go wrong, it's you vs the spouse AND the State. 2 vs. 1. You like those odds? Cool, go for it. At a minimum, see a divorce attorney 1st to learn all the possible scenerios which can happen. You are not a stupid dude, I hope you at least heed this advice from someone who went through this. If not, that's cool, and I honestly wish you the best with your new wife. However, should it fall short or sour, do not say you were not encouraged to speak to a lawyer. Sexton, does not provide free consultations though... Some do.

If I have to take such an aggressive posture going into such union, I should re-think the union itself. I don’t think you realize just how bitter you sound.

 

[RickTheToad]

If I have to take such an aggressive posture going into such union, I should re-think the union itself. I don’t think you realize just how bitter you sound.

It's your (financial) funeral dude. Wouldn't be surprised to see you over at Dad's Divorce in the coming years.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It's your (financial) funeral dude. Wouldn't be surprised to see you over at Dad's Divorce in the coming years.

It is bvtch made for a man who desires a family to not expect his resources to go towards it.

 

[RickTheToad]

It is bvtch made for a man who desires a family to not expect his resources to go towards it.

Whatever you say dude. You are living on cloud 9 if you think is how it is in divorce in the real world. Go for it!

 

[EyeBRollin]

Whatever you say dude. You are living on cloud 9 if you think is how it is in divorce in the real world. Go for it!

Go hide under the bed.

 

[Barrister]

If your attitude is that war-like towards your would-be spouse just don’t get married. Simple.

It’s not about being “war-like.” Just prudent. You are making a commitment to this person on the basis of a relationship. This doesn’t mean you should have to financially bankrupt yourself (figuratively speaking) to her benefit if it doesn’t work out. You shouldn’t be penalized for your financial success. The prenup essentially levels the playing field legally.