Seducing single mom for fwb

[Redwolf]

She's attractive and fit. An old acquaintance from high school, divorced a dead beat husband 3 years ago. Has two kids at home. We started talking and she's interested. Met up briefly one evening just to talk and ended up making out in the parking lot. She knows I don't want anything serious just fun and she's seems open to that. She's knows I'm in an open relationship and is ok with that.

I'd like to have her as a fwb.

What are some pitfalls here? Do's and don'ts with a single mom?

Her schedule if pretty tight with kids and her work.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She's attractive and fit. An old acquaintance from high school, divorced a dead beat husband 3 years ago. Has two kids at home. We started talking and she's interested. Met up briefly one evening just to talk and ended up making out in the parking lot. She knows I don't want anything serious just fun and she's seems open to that. She's knows I'm in an open relationship and is ok with that.

I'd like to have her as a fwb.

What are some pitfalls here? Do's and don'ts with a single mom?

Her schedule if pretty tight with kids and her work.

They can try and lock you down depending on the type of woman but overall things aren't as bad as most would have you believe. They also usually fvck like champs since they have their kids a lot and many times forego sex for long periods of time to focus on that and their careers.

 

[SW15]

Do's and don'ts with a single mom

DO: Escalate quickly. Single moms are always short on time.

DO: Fucck her good and use protection. She's a single mom. Clearly, she's not good at birth control. She's also not good at choosing longer term partners, since she's divorced. I would be inclined to cut widows some slack on their relationship history but I've never interacted with one. Most women who are single moms are single moms due to a divorce or a failed non-marital relationship. Finding a widow under 45 is rare.

DON'T: Have a lot of expectations. Due to single moms lacking time, they can't be depended upon for anything. Since this would be a plate and not a primary relationship, you are more likely to be ok there. But don't be surprised if she ends up flaking a lot due to kid stuff.

DON'T: Get locked down. If you fucck her good, she might want an LTR out of you. In the case of @Redwolf, that's less applicable since he's upfront about plate status, but for men in a different place, what I just said is more applicable. Single moms tend to like the beta provider vibe.

 

[Redwolf]

They can try and lock you down depending on the type of woman but overall things aren't as bad as most would have you believe. They also usually fvck like champs since they have their kids a lot and many times forego sex for long periods of time to focus on that and their careers.

The only issue I've had so far is she doesn't have much time. Not necessarily a bad thing, I don't want to see her all the time anyway. Just hard to plan a meet up and logistics for getting it on since she always has kids in the house.

 

[SW15]

The only issue I've had so far is she doesn't have much time. Not necessarily a bad thing, I don't want to see her all the time anyway. Just hard to plan a meet up and logistics for getting it on since she always has kids in the house.

That's normal for a single mom. I can imagine the frustration of dealing with planning and logistics with her. Childless women can be a big advantage in terms of planning and logistics.

 

[derby1]

Due to single moms lacking time, they can't be depended upon for anything.

I have the opposite experience, most have a complete support system set in place of doting grand parents(surrogate parents who interfere)

and most are out every weekend on the sniff and drink

 

[Hal9000]

Don't talk about her kids or anything else that isn't relevant to the next time you are hooking up.

 

[Glassguy]

Just have fun with it. Obviously she has kids but they arent around when you see her, so who cares.

Too much emphasis on this forum about staying away from single moms. There are a lot of high value and attractive women out there who are single moms. If you want to follow the masses on this forum and eliminate the MILFs, go ahead and eliminate 30-70% of your dating options.

But I wouldnt recommend doing that.

 

[Redwolf]

She might say shes ok with it. But...If shes fertile. Cap it.
Its temporary so enjoy it. Dodge the snares along the way. There will be a few.
Redwolf what is her background? You call her ex deadbeat? She work? How independent?
A lot of variables with plates. Age economic etc etc. Will determine if she is looking for transactional or a provider.
What makes her ex a dead beat? Careful with that save a hoee thing

I'm a pro vasectomy guy so no worries about playing. She's a quality chick and a hard worker. She has worked two jobs for a long time and owns her own home. She hasn't seen anyone since the divorce. She understands my relationship with my wife comes first. We did discuss that and she did seem alright with it. I believe she's down for some fun also.

 

[derby1]

She might say shes ok with it. But...If shes fertile. Cap it.

I know a couple and its absolutely insane how fertile they are, theyre always the scummiest as well, (even if they are hot looking)

 

[EyeBRollin]

Recreational use only. Please wrap it up.

 

[Bokanovsky]

She's attractive and fit. An old acquaintance from high school, divorced a dead beat husband 3 years ago. Has two kids at home. We started talking and she's interested. Met up briefly one evening just to talk and ended up making out in the parking lot. She knows I don't want anything serious just fun and she's seems open to that. She's knows I'm in an open relationship and is ok with that.

I'd like to have her as a fwb.

What are some pitfalls here? Do's and don'ts with a single mom?

Her schedule if pretty tight with kids and her work.

The pitfall is in your second sentence. Sounds like you may already be developing oneitis for her. How do you know that her husband was a deadbeat? From her words? And what does it matter anyway if you're only looking for FWB. Taking her BS seriously is the first step towards catching feels.

 

[Masculinity]

Dating single mothers is a way to defend your ego, because of the doubt that you cannot "make it" with desirable women. Stop it.

 

[Redwolf]

So here's an update on the single mom. She went quiet for a while (busy with family stuff).

Then out of the blue sends me a hot underwear selfie. We make plans to meet up that week one night when she gets off work early.

Well she ended up having to working late on short notice so we had to drop the plans.

She counter offered a day later to meet up over her lunch hour just so we could see each other. We meet, hangout, have a good little make out session before she had to go back to work.

She's fun but were both so busy and it's hard to get time alone. We let each other know when we have days off and free time but haven't been able to match time to get together.

I'm a bit frustrated by that and I feel like she is also. She's definitely interested however and does make an effort.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So here's an update on the single mom. She went quiet for a while (busy with family stuff).

Then out of the blue sends me a hot underwear selfie. We make plans to meet up that week one night when she gets off work early.

Well she ended up having to working late on short notice so we had to drop the plans.

She counter offered a day later to meet up over her lunch hour just so we could see each other. We meet, hangout, have a good little make out session before she had to go back to work.

She's fun but were both so busy and it's hard to get time alone. We let each other know when we have days off and free time but haven't been able to match time to get together.

I'm a bit frustrated by that and I feel like she is also. She's definitely interested however and does make an effort.

Seems like she is stringing you along, or there is someone else in the picture. Think about this. If someone REALLY wanted to do something do you honestly think they couldn't find time to have one day/night over a lengthy time period to do it?

So you actually believe that in two and a half months there wasn't one night she could come over? How naive are you OP? You don't think she met up with friends at all during that time? Pretty sure she has no issues finding time for that.

That lengthy delay wasn't family stuff most likely(I mean there could have been that too but that wasn't the real reason), it was her banging another guy and now that ended and she is back to you...until she finds someone else she likes more again...

I'm telling you bro, I've been in these situations before...when they want to see you they will make it a priority. When they are lukewarm or on the fence, they will have lots of reasons why they can't.

Actions >>>>Words. Stop buying into her being "so busy". Get creative. Invite her over for breakfast. Lunch. A late night glass of wine after the kids are in bed...more importantly bang her back out next time she is there.

Tick, tock, you better close this one soon because it's about to expire.

 

[SW15]

Actions >>>>Words. Stop buying into her being "so busy".

I think a lot of men give single moms a free pass on being busy because of kids. It is semi-warranted but there are women who take advantage of that. For me, as a childless man, I can't deal with the lifestyle of a single mom. Too different from my own.

 

[BadBoy89]

She's knows I'm in an open relationship and is ok with that.

I'd like to have her as a fwb.

What are some pitfalls here? Do's and don'ts with a single mom?

You should ask your current relationship what the pitfalls are, not us.

 

[corrector]

So here's an update on the single mom. She went quiet for a while (busy with family stuff).

Then out of the blue sends me a hot underwear selfie. We make plans to meet up that week one night when she gets off work early.

Well she ended up having to working late on short notice so we had to drop the plans.

She counter offered a day later to meet up over her lunch hour just so we could see each other. We meet, hangout, have a good little make out session before she had to go back to work.

She's fun but were both so busy and it's hard to get time alone. We let each other know when we have days off and free time but haven't been able to match time to get together.

I'm a bit frustrated by that and I feel like she is also. She's definitely interested however and does make an effort.

The thirst is real.

 

[Striker_93]

Listen OP, call her and set up a mee somewhere where sex can happen, anything else is a waste of time. When you do, make a move on her and if she does anything other than put you're d!ck in her mouth then disregard her and find another.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Listen OP, call her and set up a mee somewhere where sex can happen, anything else is a waste of time. When you do, make a move on her and if she does anything other than put you're d!ck in her mouth then disregard her and find another.

She was already at his house