Dating apps, can you suggest a low profile neutral job?

[Who Dares Win]

Straight to the point, women ask about my job early enough in any chat.

I don't wanna tell them anything personal wheter its family or work (which are the worst two topics to talk about in my case), I dont have anything to hide, I just dont wanna talk about personal stuff to people Im not even sure I wanna deal with.

Any suggestion for a random job to say that allows me to skip that part, something ordinary that gets a neutral feedback.

 

[Stoic]

Can't you just keep it general and vague?

Say something to the effect of " I do some contract work for a larger company in xyz industry"

And then change the subject and ask about their work...or themselves...people, especially women love to talk about themselves.

 

[Black Widow Void]

This type of question also happens in real life encounters as well. I'd rather someone enjoy my company without wondering if they are there because my job title sounds expensive.

I usually respond with with a smirk and grin .. "I'm a pole dancer at ______ (insert local retirement home community). And then I change the subject.

If they are persistent, I'll say (and I actually mean it) ... "I don't define someone in terms of their labor because it seems so cliche and superficial. I'm sure you'd agree."

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Freelance hamster trainer

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I never put my job or education on my Tinder profile. Never an issue. I haven’t used other apps. I usually don’t get into job/education right away with a girl. And I’ll make it vague.

 

[biggoal]

This type of question also happens in real life encounters as well. I'd rather someone enjoy my company without wondering if they are there because my job title sounds expensive.

I usually respond with with a smirk and grin .. "I'm a pole dancer at ______ (insert local retirement home community). And then I change the subject.

If they are persistent, I'll say (and I actually mean it) ... "I don't define someone in terms of their labor because it seems so cliche and superficial. I'm sure you'd agree."

Why are women such gold diggers? It seems it's the older women who care about your job.

 

[Barrister]

Let's be honest, in this day in age a woman is going to be able to find out where you work if she really wants to delve into your information. It doesn't take much. It would be impossible for me to hide where I work just by a quick google search, so I am not even going to go down this road.

I understand why you wouldn't want them to know, but I think it is pretty unrealistic to think you will be able to hide it for long if the woman or anyone else wants to find the information. I suppose if you are just looking to smash and nothing else on these apps, just provide your first name or a fake name then play it off as @Black Widow Void suggests.

 

[Stoic]

It doesn't make a woman a gold digger if she asks about your work. It's a fair question by a woman or the guy you sit next to on a plane. You are spending half of your waking hours working.

A lot of men get their identity from their work. I am a Lawyer. I am a Dentist. I am a garbage man. I am . I am...

 

[Stoic]

Let's be honest, in this day in age a woman is going to be able to find out where you work if she really wants to delve into your information. It doesn't take much. It would be impossible for me to hide where I work just by a quick google search, so I am not even going to go down this road.

I understand why you wouldn't want them to know, but I think it is pretty unrealistic to think you will be able to hide it for long if the woman or anyone else wants to find the information. I suppose if you are just looking to smash and nothing else on these apps, just provide your first name or a fake name then play it off as @Black Widow Void suggests.

Exactly, it seems silly to duck or evade such a softball question from a woman.

If you don't want to discuss work or don't want her to get a sense that you have a high income job, just be vague about it.

 

[SW15]

Most men hate this question, whether it is asked in text messaging from app interactions or in-person. I certainly do. I have experimented with answers to it.

I try to steer conversations away from workplace topics. I don't define myself by what I do to earn a paycheck. I define myself by my leisure time activities and personal traits.

My approach to this is similar to what @Black Widow Void does.

 

[2Rocky]

Women are going to want to know if you are tops in your field regardless. If you meet her on a plane and you are headed to a National Conference she knows you take your career seriously. If you are headed there to speak at a National Conference she knows you are top 10%.

Sorry guys, your line of work is gonna be a point of commonality or interest. You spend at least a Quarter of your time each week doing your job or career so it IS a big part of who you are. If you evade this question you probably have something to hide.

Besides if you can't BS your job title and position description you aren't very creative...

 

[Zimbabwe]

Tell them you are Unemployed and living with your parents, like in Seinfeld

 

[B80]

Let's be honest, in this day in age a woman is going to be able to find out where you work if she really wants to delve into your information. It doesn't take much. It would be impossible for me to hide where I work just by a quick google search, so I am not even going to go down this road.

I understand why you wouldn't want them to know, but I think it is pretty unrealistic to think you will be able to hide it for long if the woman or anyone else wants to find the information. I suppose if you are just looking to smash and nothing else on these apps, just provide your first name or a fake name then play it off as @Black Widow Void suggests.

It's possible to hide it for a fair amount of time though, so not every person on tinder or you meet knows where you work right away.

 

[lgbs2004]

Any suggestion for a random job to say that allows me to skip that part, something ordinary that gets a neutral feedback.

Zippo repairman

 

[MissouriMark]

I remember one time on a dating site, I messaged a woman who was a school teacher and told her that I also work for a school district. I kept it vague just to see if she would respond to us both working for a school. She did enthusiastically and asked what I did. When I told her I was a custodian, I never heard from her again!!! I guess I needed to be a principal or superintendent in order to continue talking to her hahaha!!

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I just say finance

 

[biggoal]

I remember one time on a dating site, I messaged a woman who was a school teacher and told her that I also work for a school district. I kept it vague just to see if she would respond to us both working for a school. She did enthusiastically and asked what I did. When I told her I was a custodian, I never heard from her again!!! I guess I needed to be a principal or superintendent in order to continue talking to her hahaha!!

I had a date with a solid hb 8.5 from old. She drove 55 miles to have dinner. She was a teacher. Date was going very well until i told her the small business I own. Soon as i told her the date changed. She rolled her eyes a lot, quit smiling and became quite timid and in a hurry to leave. Texted her the next day but nothing but crickets. Gold digger. Why else would she drive 55 miles to me? Lots of teachers on old. All of them i went on dates with were headcases.

 

[2Rocky]

I had a date with a solid hb 8.5 from old. She drove 55 miles to have dinner. She was a teacher. Date was going very well until i told her the small business I own. Soon as i told her the date changed. She rolled her eyes a lot, quit smiling and became quite timid and in a hurry to leave. Texted her the next day but nothing but crickets. Gold digger. Why else would she drive 55 miles to me? Lots of teachers on old. All of them i went on dates with were headcases.

Just how many dates have you had in the last 6 months? You keep recycling the same story over and over....

 

[biggoal]

Just how many dates have you had in the last 6 months? You keep recycling the same story over and over....

Havent been on old much the last 6 months.

 

[Who Dares Win]

First of all thanks to anyone for the feedback, this is something really annoying for a guy in his mid 30s to deal with.

When I'm talking with a woman and she comes up talking about work, it already pisses me off, even more if the keeps asking...wasnt happening while dealing with girls in their 20s while its the norm with women in their early 30s...guess they need a security/utility service provider.

This really annoys me cause I want the attraction to be raw and natural, Im not negotiating unless we talk about rate per hour and agreed performance in advance.

I tried to give random vague answers but b1tches keep asking, even the ridicule answer to move the topic doesnt work as good.

I'm not poor and I basically dont need to count what I spend as long as I dont plan to live like a celebrity yet I dont wanna F talk about it, its personal especially since I struggled in past just like I had countless problems from my family and surelly dont wanna talk about it.

I mean I also would like to know if a girl swallows, gives ass or her body count but I have the decency not to insist...thats basically how we evaluate potential partners.