Feeling bad when rejecting women that I do not feel attracted to

[Bigpapa]

Did you guys ever feel bad when rejecting girls that you do not feel attracted to ?

I can never directly reject such girls ,and just responding to them as girls respond to guys they are not attracted to . It just makes them even crazier …

what would be the way to reject such girls without hurting them too much ?

 

[CoandaEffect]

There is nothing to feel bad about, do you think they feel bad about rejecting you? Just be completely honest and say that you are not attracted to them. My standard rejection is “I’m flattered that you are interested in me but I’m just not attracted to you”.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Did you guys ever feel bad when rejecting girls that you do not feel attracted to ?

I can never directly reject such girls ,and just responding to them as girls respond to guys they are not attracted to . It just makes them even crazier …

what would be the way to reject such girls without hurting them too much ?

Don't.

Women sure don't feel bad when they reject men. If anything most of them would feel validated and proud, effectively caressing their ego. Some even say the meaner they are the more power they feel.

On NYE a girl approached me while I was doing my thing at the event and tried to pick me up, and she wasn't trying too subtle, let's just say that. I, however, respectfully rejected her. For one I wasn't attracted to her, second I wasn't there to meet women, I was enjoying myself for my own entertainment and spending time with the group I was with.

Per your question, and this is just me, I am still a gentleman. I still interacted with her and asked her for her name and shook her hand. But it was obvious by my body language and the very dry answers/sentences that I wasn't interested. Feel free to thank them and tell them you're flattered but respectfully say you are not interested. I advise against being rude or making up excuses/lies, leave that to women that often do that.

Be a gentleman, kind, and a decent human being. Simple. Not hard. If she still gets salty, that's on her. I have said this multiple times here, but I am not here to caress egos and cater to people's emotions.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Robert28]

Just use one of their standards lines on them that they use on us “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”.

 

[derby1]

Women are mercenaries, they cant even remember what you look like within 20 seconds of them rejecting.

The guy who messes them about is King

 

[Bigpapa]

Yeah , more or less In line with my thoughts what you guys say .

I guess that I am not that direct , because my life was quite hard , basically coming from nothing and wanting all the joys of life .

and people would just reject me in a rude way , mainly I am talking about the business side of things . Which kinda made me promise myself that I will never behave like they do .

Rejection of a woman is silly and cute , when compared to those when trying to make a name for themselves in this hyper competitive world . It is actually something that people brag about , being as cruel as possible . And people are quite inventive when it comes to being a jerk

But yeah , you guys are right . Implying directly that you are not interested , while expressing it in aN empathic way

 

[derby1]

and people would just reject me in a rude way ,

ironically they cant handle rejection, ABC News, ITV and Channel 4 do a 1 hour long special when woman is rejected.

They literally need mass validation in a TIk Tok video to sooth their ego, so pathetic

 

[Hal9000]

And now you know why women flake on or ghost guys. Its easier to disappear than tell them you find them repulsive.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Did you guys ever feel bad when rejecting girls that you do not feel attracted to ?

I can never directly reject such girls ,and just responding to them as girls respond to guys they are not attracted to . It just makes them even crazier …

what would be the way to reject such girls without hurting them too much ?

Yes. Sad.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Gotta love the mentality of some of the forum members... ie; women don't feel bad about this so why should we.
I'm sure that measuring your self-worth upon the actions of women is going to work out for you all real good.

Seriously though. Yeah, I'd rather get rejected than do the rejecting.
Here's my go to (paraphrasing)

"I just got a call from my ex. I really thought that I was ready to move on, but I felt a pang when she and I spoke. I'm sure that my friends would look at you as far above her, and think I'm crazy (this sweetens it up and leaves her feeling better) . I now realize that I still have some feelings for her. I respect you too much to lead you on. I hope that you might understand. "

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Gotta love the mentality of some of the forum members... ie; women don't feel bad about this so why should we.
I'm sure that measuring your self-worth upon the actions of women is going to work out for you all real good.

Seriously though. Yeah, I'd rather get rejected than do the rejecting.

100% agree!!!

 

[derby1]

Dont agree to the pandering of women, its why theyre on dating apps pregnant, The literally think nothing of men, imagine the solipsism knowing another mans orgasm is in there, and some good beta should raise it

its also why theyre 10x more verbally abusive than men, behind the steering wheel of their car at other road users.

 

[SW15]

I never feel bad about rejecting women. They don't feel bad at all when they reject us.

On the rare occasions that you might get approached by a woman you're not attracted to in public, all you need to say is "I'm not interested". I'm 38 and I've fielded less than 5 approaches by women lifetime. Now, there are more times than that when an attractive woman has likely signaled me with body language and I didn't approach. That wasn't exactly me rejecting her since there was no approach and no offer.

Additionally, there are times where I make approaches and don't end up offering a date/get together. That might be considered a rejection. One recent time was when I approached a tall, skinny woman who happened to be a single mom of two.

 

[Scars]

I used to.

I sometimes would be friendly with all types of women, even if I had zero interest in them. Sometimes they would mistake my friendliness for attraction, which made things even worse later on down the road when I had to tell them I wasn't into them. A lot of them felt like they were "lead on".

Nowadays I just use the same friendzone tactics that women use on them. "We could never date. You're like a sister to me." / "I value our friendship too much and I don't want to ruin it." etc..

9 times out 10 a women isn't gonna feel bad about rejecting you, so I see no point in showing the same sympathy.

 

[Focal core]

i reject dozens of girl last year alone, they even plotting on smearing on me after that. i would just resume like nothing had happened and keep on the grind. while banging their friend. that just me.

 

[Stuffnu]

“It’s not you, it me…”

 

[EyeBRollin]

“It’s not you, it me…”

This.

I used to feel bad. Fvck with enough women and that guilt goes away completely. Women are so fvcking ruthless. It’s hard to feel empathetic once you see them in action.

… she could run her ex boyfriend over in her car and be 100% convinced it is his fault.

 

[Robert28]

I mean you COULD Friendzone them and use them for attention and favors and money. Women are famous for doing that to dudes. Do it to them.

 

[Bigpapa]

This.

I used to feel bad. Fvck with enough women and that guilt goes away completely. Women are so fvcking ruthless. It’s hard to feel empathetic once you see them in action.

… she could run her ex boyfriend over in her car and be 100% convinced it is his fault.

this also comes from the sexual harassment training that you have to go through to have a job or go to school

just did one now with Boston university . It is crazy the amount of crazy things that are there