I didn't approach and now I feel like ****

Lindo

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So about 10 minutes ago I had a chance to approach a girl I would consider out of my league. Tall slim light skinned black with a nice ass. I was looking at her and was making up excuses like "oh, I've only got 10 minutes left of my tea break" and "I fapped too recently so I won't be a good version of myself, I should get a nofap streak running first". I allowed those excuses to stop me from approaching and now I'm regretting it. Even if I had approached her and she ignores me that would've been better because I would've taken action, which I'm planning on doing more of this year... "Rejection is always better than regret" I'll have to keep this is mind moving forward
 

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No matter what people say, approaching is always the hardest part. Learn from this, but don't torture yourself too much over it.
 

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A man's worst enemy is himself. You'll have to actively disregard the excuses as they come to mind and go ahead taking action anyways. Now that you know such excuses are bullsh!t you no longer have any excuse to listen to them.
 

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So about 10 minutes ago I had a chance to approach a girl I would consider out of my league. Tall slim light skinned black with a nice ass. I was looking at her and was making up excuses like "oh, I've only got 10 minutes left of my tea break" and "I fapped too recently so I won't be a good version of myself, I should get a nofap streak running first". I allowed those excuses to stop me from approaching and now I'm regretting it. Even if I had approached her and she ignores me that would've been better because I would've taken action, which I'm planning on doing more of this year... "Rejection is always better than regret" I'll have to keep this is mind moving forward


If you feel that way just approach the next one you see. Don't place too much value on any one girl you see or missed chance or mistake or whatever. Also....cold approach rarely leads to anything in this social media pandemic world but you should do it for yourself. Just go out and approach every pretty girl.

Start very simple to warm you up with an innocent question like excuse me do you know where the nearest coffee shop is? If she lights up and seems interested keep talking to her and number close....if she is cut and dry just answering the question thank her and walk off. This is simply to get your feet coold with the first approach. After that first one, be more more direct and aggressive with the second.

If you look somewhat decent you will get a number or two by the end of the day. It's a good exercise Don't attach yourself to any real results though. If it happens, great though.

If you practice you will get much better and more fluid. At the very least, these approaches will help you out a lot in your confidence with nightlife game and girls you meet online
 
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Always remember that Rejection is better than regret.
 

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I've had many of these scenarios especially when I was in my 20s and even 30s. Everyone has.

Next time, causally stroll next her and ask her a question or make a funny observation about something (gold). Women love charming, quick-witted guys. Also, if you think you'll be somewhere where you may do some cold approaching, ensure your appearance is top notch. Look sharp and try to differentiate yourself from all the vanilla hoodie and baseball cap wearing boring guys.

Practice!

Good luck.
 

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out of my league
You all guys need to stop this moronic self degrading behavour and mentality as "out of my league "
There is no such thing as "out of my league".

There is really hot babes that are in relationships with short, fat and balded men too. The difference is that those guys had the right mentality and bigger balls than you to act.

I never understood this way of thinking and pissing on yourself by devaluing your own self worth.

It is stupid.
 
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