I need advice guys. I am not sure if women are just using me for free dates but this is the 4th time this week i was rejected after the date..
If you have been on 4 dates in the past week, you are likely using swipe apps to find dates. I know this because almost no men can have 4 dates in a week without swipe apps. With swipe apps, you can have as many first dates in 2 weeks as it would take in 3-6 months of cold approaching. While quantity can be good with swipe apps, quality is often lacking. Most swipe app dates are garbage. The vast majority of swipe app dates are "one date, no sex, no second date" outcome dates. It's not worth your time to show up to those dates.
My first recommendation to you is to delete all swipe apps. Most swipe app prospects are low value prospects.
i am tired of being used for free dates. How do you guys deal with this?
First, take a deep breath. Realize that you are normal. Many men have experienced this. Then, I want you to focus on the good things about yourself. Getting 4 dates in a week is an accomplishment, even if they were low quality, garbage dates.
The next thing you need to do is not do any meal dates for first dates.
No dates centered around meals in restaurants until after you've had sex with her. The Manosphere has been saying this since at least the 2000s. I first heard this in the early to mid 2010s and implemented it. I am astounded that this is not a standard practice for the majority of men, including betas. One of the few female friends I have (she lives in another city) tells me about all the meal date offers she gets from swipe apps.
By not using swipe apps, you'll be arranging higher quality dates with women more inclined to be serious about you. Additionally, you will have already had an in-person experience with her prior to the date, so you have assurance that she's into your vibe already. That's another higher quality prospect indicator. Then, no meal dates in restaurants.
At this point i feel she just used be as a free meal.
There are women who do this. You'll weed out most of them by only arranging your dates from in-person methods.
I live in nyc so everything is expensive especially with inflation from covid so dates are $100 even at cheap spots.
Highly recommend leaving NYC as soon as you can. It's not what it once was.
I feel its a lose/lose because you invite them over to your place, they'll call you a creep, you take them out, theres a chance you are used for a free meal. i feel like getting revenge somehow ,
The best revenge is living well. You're doing the right thing participating here. Game is some combination of looks, money, status, and persona. You probably don't have enough money to compete on money with your style of game. You'll need to focus on your persona, mainly your charisma in interactions.
Don't worry at all about extending invitations to your place. While it's not a first date thing, you can get it for a second or third date if you press enough attraction buttons strongly.
