For men 35+ Your older self is more attractive to younger women (if you're still in shape)

[Snag87]

I'm definitely more attractive to women (of all ages) at 34 as opposed to my early 20s

 

[Stoic]

No he cannot.

Why is that unbelievable?

I am 38 now, in good physical shape. Excellent finances.

I am dating a 20 year old right now.

I don't think I will have an issue dating girls in their 20's in 12 years, but time will tell!

 

[darksprezzatura]

Below 30, everyone has youth and optimism on their side. It’s hard to differentiate life’s winners and losers.

By age 30 there’s a divide between the have and have nots, which widens with each year. You can really see who has let themselves go and made bad decisions by that point.

So yes; your smv does increase IF you’re in the small % who live a life dedicated to self improvement.

A good example is Corey Wayne. He is 50 and could easily date hot 20 year olds - he has a few on his new episodes

Bump.
Great share. There's definitely a compound effect thing going on.

The divide widens exponentially after a certain time and I can already see the effects of decisions I made ten years ago.

Growth has rarely been linear in my experience, and with the right kind of habits, I believe dating opportunities increase for a man as long as he's alive.

- Fitness
- Wealth/Resources
- Social Status
- Personal mission/goals

If you're diligently working on these aspects, banging hotties is a byproduct.

I'm touching 30s and 19yos wait in my dms after checking me out once.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

Bump.
Great share. There's definitely a compound effect thing going on.

The divide widens exponentially after a certain time and I can already see the effects of decisions I made ten years ago.

Growth has rarely been linear in my experience, and with the right kind of habits, I believe dating opportunities increase for a man as long as he's alive.

- Fitness
- Wealth/Resources
- Social Status
- Personal mission/goals

If you're diligently working on these aspects, banging hotties is a byproduct.

I'm touching 30s and 19yos wait in my dms after checking me out once.

Likewise. Out of interest can I see your Ig?

 

[darksprezzatura]

Likewise. Out of interest can I see your Ig?

No

 

[SmoothSmooth]

No

Yeah no worries. The girls that hit you up out the blue on IG - are they objectively attractive?

I use IG as a funnel for the women that give me choosing signals in real life. I find they are more attractive than the girls which might hit me up online

 

[darksprezzatura]

Yeah no worries. The girls that hit you up out the blue on IG - are they objectively attractive?

I use IG as a funnel for the women that give me choosing signals in real life. I find they are more attractive than the girls which might hit me up online

Thanks.
Cute girls don't randomly approach me on ig all the time.

The girl I mentioned hmu after I had met her and pulled game. It was pretty easy as I performed at the event we met at.

Usually IG is just a sort of social proof that a guy isn't some ghost or a creep and has some online/social media presence.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

Thanks.
Cute girls don't randomly approach me on ig all the time.

The girl I mentioned hmu after I had met her and pulled game. It was pretty easy as I performed at the event we met at.

Usually IG is just a sort of social proof that a guy isn't some ghost or a creep and has some online/social media presence.

Exactly.
I agree and think that’s the best way to approach IG.
Using it to actively find new girls online is pretty lame.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

lol I already did this, and the reaction is what you expected. The most sour looks on their faces.

Or. They will think it’s hot.

 

[Redwolf]

I definitely have more attention from women now in my 40s than any other time. I am fit and have my life together.

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

I was thinking about this today.

I'm 44, and I'm still as physically fit (if not better) as I was when I was 34 or 24.

Sure, I don't look as young in the face as I did 10 to 20 years ago, but that's not what women are attracted to anyhow.

Think about it:

At 35 to 50 (assuming you are not fat) you are now more mature, more confident, more financially stable than the same version of yourself 10, 15, 20 years ago.

Heck, at 24 I think I was unemployed and at 34 my career was only about three years old.

At 44, I am alot more financially stable and own property.

Look at these two different pics of actor Ben Affleck. Which one looks more manly, dominant and confident? I think you already know the answer.

So, yes.....that cute 23 to 26 year old at your gym, mall or Starbucks was indeed checking you out, it's not your imagination.

We older guys tend to think, why would a younger woman be attracted to me? I look old! We incorrectly think since we (as men) are attracted to youth and beauty that women are the same. Wrong!

We say to ourselves "If I were only 25 or 30 again I would be able to get this babe 10+ years my junior."

Hog wash!

Your age is an asset as long as physical fitness levels are still good.

Thank you! I agree with you 100%. I'm 41 and feel I'm getting better and better with age, both in dating/hooking up and all other areas of my life. I regularly approach and get checked out by much younger women, and I have no shame in admitting that I prefer late teens to early 20s girls.

I'm sick of guys on Sosuave and elsewhere thinking they're too old Ty o get younger women. It's nothing but a limiting belief!

 

[Jack22]

If anyone ever doubts their SMV, just look on this website.

https://igotstandardsbro.com

 

[oc16]

Thank you! I agree with you 100%. I'm 41 and feel I'm getting better and better with age, both in dating/hooking up and all other areas of my life. I regularly approach and get checked out by much younger women, and I have no shame in admitting that I prefer late teens to early 20s girls.

I'm sick of guys on Sosuave and elsewhere thinking they're too old Ty o get younger women. It's nothing but a limiting belief!

Awesome!

 

[Plinco]

Thank you! I agree with you 100%. I'm 41 and feel I'm getting better and better with age, both in dating/hooking up and all other areas of my life. I regularly approach and get checked out by much younger women, and I have no shame in admitting that I prefer late teens to early 20s girls.

I'm sick of guys on Sosuave and elsewhere thinking they're too old Ty o get younger women. It's nothing but a limiting belief!

I wish I had your optimism. Good attitude anyway.

 

[Old Balls]

I'm 47 and I have more girls in their 20's clammoring for my attention than I ever did in MY 20's. I have a slight balding spot and grey in my beard, but I keep pretty fit. Not a model by any stretch. I just have balls now, old one's, but balls nonetheless. They know I can do as I please with them. And for the most part, I do just that. Tight holes are the best holes.

 

[evan12]

I was thinking about this today.

I'm 44, and I'm still as physically fit (if not better) as I was when I was 34 or 24.

Sure, I don't look as young in the face as I did 10 to 20 years ago, but that's not what women are attracted to anyhow.

Think about it:

At 35 to 50 (assuming you are not fat) you are now more mature, more confident, more financially stable than the same version of yourself 10, 15, 20 years ago.

Heck, at 24 I think I was unemployed and at 34 my career was only about three years old.

At 44, I am alot more financially stable and own property.

Look at these two different pics of actor Ben Affleck. Which one looks more manly, dominant and confident? I think you already know the answer.

So, yes.....that cute 23 to 26 year old at your gym, mall or Starbucks was indeed checking you out, it's not your imagination.

We older guys tend to think, why would a younger woman be attracted to me? I look old! We incorrectly think since we (as men) are attracted to youth and beauty that women are the same. Wrong!

We say to ourselves "If I were only 25 or 30 again I would be able to get this babe 10+ years my junior."

Hog wash!

Your age is an asset as long as physical fitness levels are still good.

I think it is all come down to you being handsome (from the photo you attached ) . Do you really think a confidant non handsome man will get the same attention you are getting on your age ? I dont think.

 

[kavi]

I think its much much more than that. With attraction its about Nature. In Nature I think females will always **** the adult males (in humans 35+), this is because the men are competing and need to be evaluated. At 20 two guys are still similar but at 35 they have had more time to differentiate themselves and this is where the real difference shows up. Guys with bad genes can look good and have positive energy at 20 but at 35 they will look old and tired and no longer have that advantage. Guys who looked young at 20 will look better at 35 than those who looked older at 20.

There is an idea, because in Patriarchy and Traditional Marriage system, women and men got married young, so all the men got a woman at a young age. I think over time this will change and more and more women will simply reject young men in favour of mature men.

Its just not 'natural' for a 23yr old male to be able to compete with an average 35-40 yr old let alone his self at that older age.

I animals I believe you really need to be mature like a silverback to get any. In humans just look at how certain guys have an advantage at 18 to get girls, but that shifts to other types of guys at 35+. Fact, at 18 a guy HAS to look and act OLDER to get girls because in reality women, of all ages, just want MEN not boys.

What is messed up though is that these men who could really do well into their 35+ age range are getting married at 25-30 and missing out so the girls are having to deal with lower quality (simp) guys and that is messing up the game for everyone. There really needs to be a bigger supply of high quality older men to shift the power balance in favour of men and especially to improve the situation out there, cos the biggest problem affecting relationships is the huge amount of low quality men and especially boys that are messing up expectations and ruining the game.