SmoothSmooth
Master Don Juan
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There are natural laws at play.
Women chase alpha males (dominant, successful men). They identify these men by their behaviour in real life - posture, voice, confidence, aura, indifference, social proof, even scent etc and then make it VERY easy for them to mate (ie by being submissive and vulnerable). This is when the girl is giggling at your bad jokes, asking for your help, placing herself in your orbit, putting more effort into the convo, self deprecating, proving herself to you etc Escalation is a quick process (unless there are life circumstances/logistics/social barriers preventing it).
Things like street approaching, online dating, DM sliding, even chivalry etc are all attempts by non dominant men to reverse the natural law and make men the selectors. That’s why they rarely ever work. Women have their guard up, act flakey, sh1t test hard, etc these tactics will mainly work (if ever) on women who lack the confidence to chase alpha males. Men also overcompensate by TRYING to dominate her (eg bragging, insulting, negging), however, dominance is not a result of your effort - it is invited by her (attraction can’t be negotiated).
The only game is to increase your social dominance and learning how to convey it behaviourally.
Then directly asking out the girls who behave submissively around you. Women are naturally POLITE/NICE around beta males, but NOT submissive (they are emotionally indifferent). Most men get confused between a woman being submissive and polite/nice, and are therefore find women confusing (and can be manipulated for attention).
When you can identify the difference between POLITENESS versus SUBMISSION (high interest) you will no longer need to play the numbers game or ask for advice on this forum.
The quickest litmus test? How dominant/in control do you feel around her. If she’s being submissive, you will consequently feel more elated and dominant around her. You will feel you can ‘get away’ with being a little more c0cky. She’ll bring that side out of you. You can be somewhat bossy or demanding (‘buy me something from the store’ or ‘wear red’). It will also feel like you don’t need to reciprocate to keep the interaction/relationship going. You can ignore questions, not return favours, be emotionally stoic (not smiling during the convo), refusing to qualify yourself, etc she will be walking on eggshells to avoid communicating disrespect. Girls are biologically wired to only be submissive to one man at a time. Even if she is entertaining multiple men, she will only ever be truly submissive to one. Sometimes it will only be one their whole life (‘alpha widow’)
If she’s just being nice/polite - things will feel more reciprocal. Anything that’s unreciprocated by you will upset the fine balance and lower her interest. You will avoid subcommunications of higher status. Both parties are pretty much walking on eggshells and things are Tit 4 Tat. She asks a question, you answer and ask a question in return; you make a joke, she laughs and make a joke in return, you laugh and say ‘good one’, she says thanks etc….and this keeps going until you make a move and she rejects you
Also there is a huge misconception that only alphas get laid. Betas can get laid more than alphas. This is because many girls are looking for providers, especially when she’s around the age of 26. They will therefore seek the second type of interaction (and be more open to online dating, street approachers etc) But in that scenario - you will be the guy she SETTLED for, and your sense of masculinity will be lowered, and the sex will be slower and less kinky. the difference is night and day.
Alpha vs beta is not correlated to the quantity of sex, but the quality/eagerness of sex and how hot the girls are
Women chase alpha males (dominant, successful men). They identify these men by their behaviour in real life - posture, voice, confidence, aura, indifference, social proof, even scent etc and then make it VERY easy for them to mate (ie by being submissive and vulnerable). This is when the girl is giggling at your bad jokes, asking for your help, placing herself in your orbit, putting more effort into the convo, self deprecating, proving herself to you etc Escalation is a quick process (unless there are life circumstances/logistics/social barriers preventing it).
Things like street approaching, online dating, DM sliding, even chivalry etc are all attempts by non dominant men to reverse the natural law and make men the selectors. That’s why they rarely ever work. Women have their guard up, act flakey, sh1t test hard, etc these tactics will mainly work (if ever) on women who lack the confidence to chase alpha males. Men also overcompensate by TRYING to dominate her (eg bragging, insulting, negging), however, dominance is not a result of your effort - it is invited by her (attraction can’t be negotiated).
The only game is to increase your social dominance and learning how to convey it behaviourally.
Then directly asking out the girls who behave submissively around you. Women are naturally POLITE/NICE around beta males, but NOT submissive (they are emotionally indifferent). Most men get confused between a woman being submissive and polite/nice, and are therefore find women confusing (and can be manipulated for attention).
When you can identify the difference between POLITENESS versus SUBMISSION (high interest) you will no longer need to play the numbers game or ask for advice on this forum.
The quickest litmus test? How dominant/in control do you feel around her. If she’s being submissive, you will consequently feel more elated and dominant around her. You will feel you can ‘get away’ with being a little more c0cky. She’ll bring that side out of you. You can be somewhat bossy or demanding (‘buy me something from the store’ or ‘wear red’). It will also feel like you don’t need to reciprocate to keep the interaction/relationship going. You can ignore questions, not return favours, be emotionally stoic (not smiling during the convo), refusing to qualify yourself, etc she will be walking on eggshells to avoid communicating disrespect. Girls are biologically wired to only be submissive to one man at a time. Even if she is entertaining multiple men, she will only ever be truly submissive to one. Sometimes it will only be one their whole life (‘alpha widow’)
If she’s just being nice/polite - things will feel more reciprocal. Anything that’s unreciprocated by you will upset the fine balance and lower her interest. You will avoid subcommunications of higher status. Both parties are pretty much walking on eggshells and things are Tit 4 Tat. She asks a question, you answer and ask a question in return; you make a joke, she laughs and make a joke in return, you laugh and say ‘good one’, she says thanks etc….and this keeps going until you make a move and she rejects you
Also there is a huge misconception that only alphas get laid. Betas can get laid more than alphas. This is because many girls are looking for providers, especially when she’s around the age of 26. They will therefore seek the second type of interaction (and be more open to online dating, street approachers etc) But in that scenario - you will be the guy she SETTLED for, and your sense of masculinity will be lowered, and the sex will be slower and less kinky. the difference is night and day.
Alpha vs beta is not correlated to the quantity of sex, but the quality/eagerness of sex and how hot the girls are
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