I Feel like Meetup is a waste of time

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

This thread brings it all the way back to purpose and this whole idea that women are something to live for.

No matter how you look, who you are or what you do, desperation looks and feels the exact same way to women, you can live for women all you want, but they do not owe you reciprocation!!! They owe you NOTHING.

Actually, I've had fairly good results with meetup. OF course, there's been times when the most attractive woman that RSVP'd would unRSVP herself the day of the vent or worse, do a no show. This thing is not without its flaws.

I belong to a couple of "over 40" type groups, a philosophy group and also a book club. The one benefit is that once you meet a girl in a social group environment, you can e-mail them later .. and usually more likely to continue the conversation and eventually meet up one to one in person.

So far, the book club as provided the most positive end results. I never go to a group, unless I think that I'll enjoy it., Naturally, looking at the women that have RSVP's will also add to the incentive.

Meet up works for him, because women are not his focus, he's engaging in something he enjoys and his engagement does not falter based off of who is present or not, because that is not the focus.

@Zimbabwe You are one of problems, not the women, your mindset, women are people just like anyone else, you need to be able to look past them and enjoy your life without women. Women are not a source of enjoyment, they are attracted BY enjoyment. You ever had a buddy who had a girlfriend and his girlfriend just sat there and watched him play video games? We all know that guy, some of us have been that guy, but ultimately that guy, he did nothing wrong, he is just doing him and the woman is attempting to force change.

Meet up isn't working for you because meeting up with people isn't your goal, but if getting laid is, how can meeting up with people NOT be your goal?

You need to get on your purpose, because we are all aware how desperation is perceived, if your going home alone, you need to be OK with that and if you aren't, then you need to do something else that is fulfilling, that let's you walk away, those ready to walk away do so in abundance and they know this might be the last time, the last chance, the last whatever, but they also know that it is only the beginning, not the end. The end is when you end, and if your not ended, your still in the game, you never left, you just chose to not play.

Find something you love to do, and create a meet up around it.

You guys complain about how much the term "Purpose" gets brought up and then make threads like this and nobody wants to say it anymore, but it needs to be said. PURPOSE PURPOSE PURPOSE PURPOSE PURPOSE. If you fail, at least you have that, but if you don't and you fail, you have nothing and she knows it.

 

[wifehunter]

Try a hobby that men and women share...like cooking.

 

[SW15]

1. Some of the events are good, like NYE parties.

NYE parties in ordinary bars/nightlife might be ok, though Roosh argued against them years ago.

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If you have a good social circle, a NYE private residence party might work. In many social circles, it is complete shiit due to couples.

 

[SW15]

yeah, usually the meetups will rent out a venue and throw a party. Couples wouldn't generally go to something like that.

Couples avoid most Meetup stuff. Why the fucck would you bother with Meetup if you are already in a couple? You wouldn't.

I'm sure the Meetup groups that rent out a venue and throw a party don't do well. Meetup isn't "cool", so attractive women don't go.

 

[oc16]

I live in a town with 90,000 to 100,000 people in Central Jersey. However, the problem is jobs. Most of the women in my age range (I am 44, so 30 and up) don't stay in this area unless they are perhaps a school teacher or work in the medical field.

They don't stay in this area because most of the jobs (marketing, fashion, finance, business, etc.) are not around here but are in New York City, Philadelphia or just outside those two cities.

Sure, there are a lot of younger hotties around working at Starbucks, gyms, retail, etc, but they are pretty much out of my age range.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

A lot of clubs have a presence on Meetup now so the key is to join clubs not at all affiliated with the Meetup website. You are correct about the mainly lower tier talent at Meetup group events. Part of it is because Meetup has never had a "cool" factor. Cute and hot women like to do what's cool.



If she just moved to the city, it won't take her more than 2-3 months to find something more exciting to do.

I remember guys wheeling from MySpace before tinder blew up. Times have changed and not for the better.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Couples avoid most Meetup stuff. Why the fucck would you bother with Meetup if you are already in a couple? You wouldn't.

I'm sure the Meetup groups that rent out a venue and throw a party don't do well. Meetup isn't "cool", so attractive women don't go.

Not much for couples but even if I am steady with a girl in rotation, I always had that one man soldier mentality. I don't want to do couple things in group. To me it's whack.

 

[corrector]

Find something you love to do, and create a meet up around it.

That would make sense since you would be in charge of the group. But that is what people say. Unless you are in a position of authority you are just an anybody. But I'm not sure if even this advice is outdated and belongs in the 00s because of the metoo movement and all that. If you come across as too fresh then some karen could complain and end up shutting the group or causing all sorts of trouble. Its better to already have a girlfriend or close female friend so that you have more credibility and are less likely to get accused of something.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

That would make sense since you would be in charge of the group. But that is what people say. Unless you are in a position of authority you are just an anybody. But I'm not sure if even this advice is outdated and belongs in the 00s because of the metoo movement and all that. If you come across as too fresh then some karen could complain and end up shutting the group or causing all sorts of trouble. Its better to already have a girlfriend or close female friend so that you have more credibility and are less likely to get accused of something.

Speaking from experience? Mine is the opposite.

Don't let the problems in your head keep you from acting bro.

 

[corrector]

Speaking from experience? Mine is the opposite.

Don't let the problems in your head keep you from acting bro.

What type of meetup group did you have?

 

[biggoal]

I live in a town with 90,000 to 100,000 people in Central Jersey. However, the problem is jobs. Most of the women in my age range (I am 44, so 30 and up) don't stay in this area unless they are perhaps a school teacher or work in the medical field.

They don't stay in this area because most of the jobs (marketing, fashion, finance, business, etc.) are not around here but are in New York City, Philadelphia or just outside those two cities.

Sure, there are a lot of younger hotties around working at Starbucks, gyms, retail, etc, but they are pretty much out of my age range.

Good points. Basically the same problem I have. When picking a spot to live in you really need to pay attention to what the median age is on the census. What good would it do moving to a city with 100k people if the median age is 50 and up unless you want to date old ladies?

I finally saw a hot chick in OLD close to me today. Sent her a message. Hot looking 47 year old! #postwall So I end up going on dates with women older than me including a 50 year old despite being late 30s.

 

[bat soup]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

I once went to a couchsurfing meeting in Istanbul and it was the biggest kokfest I've ever seen in my life.

The two mediocre women there were each surrounded by about 10 men and they were clearly loving it.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

What type of meetup group did you have?

Working out. Mostly legs/core on some big staircase. Not a single guy ever joined. It was always just women.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Going to be trying another meetup, its supposed to be 25-45 year olds. I would not be surprised if I'm the youngest guy again.

 

[biggoal]

Going to be trying another meetup, its supposed to be 25-45 year olds. I would not be surprised if I'm the youngest guy again.

Why not try a 45 yr old if they're hot and in shape?

 

[MatureDJ]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

It's OVER It had NEVER BEGUN for MeetUpCels.

 

[MatureDJ]

Actually, I've had fairly good results with meetup.

Yes, but you look like a young Robert Mitchum.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I tried Meetup when single before Covid. I didn’t attend that many actual events. Though the few I did were fun. I got a couple of dates out of it. However, what worked A bit better, date wise, was having a decent pic up on my profile. I got contacted directly by a few girls and had some fun times. Ultimately, when I got on Tinder, that wound up being a superior site for meeting women and I let Meetup fade away.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Update

Massive sausage fest with most girls cancelling, the few girls that did show up left early because all the guys kept talking to them. Most of the guys were awkward af.

I feel this was a massive waste of time

 

[SW15]

Actually, I've had fairly good results with meetup. OF course, there's been times when the most attractive woman that RSVP'd would unRSVP herself the day of the vent or worse, do a no show. This thing is not without its flaws.

I belong to a couple of "over 40" type groups, a philosophy group and also a book club. The one benefit is that once you meet a girl in a social group environment, you can e-mail them later .. and usually more likely to continue the conversation and eventually meet up one to one in person.

So far, the book club as provided the most positive end results. I never go to a group, unless I think that I'll enjoy it., Naturally, looking at the women that have RSVP's will also add to the incentive.

This makes sense. When Meetup works for dating/relationship purposes, it tends to work for older men dating older women. I wouldn't recommend it in 2022 for anyone younger than 45. When I was going to Meetups roughly 10 years ago in my late 20s, I found it to be a waste in my age cohort.

Going to be trying another meetup, its supposed to be 25-45 year olds. I would not be surprised if I'm the youngest guy again.

That was a bad choice in age ranges. If you go to an age range specific group, try to be near the oldest of that age range. When I was in my late 20s a decade ago, I went to a generic social group that was "20s/30s in my city". I remember thinking at 28-29 that this group would be most productive if I was at the upper end of this age range (36-39). Even if you are at the upper end of an age range, you can probably find better things to do. Most 36-39 year old men can do better than going to a "20s/30s Meetup Group in my city" group.

Massive sausage fest with most girls cancelling, the few girls that did show up left early because all the guys kept talking to them. Most of the guys were awkward af.

I feel this was a massive waste of time

This sounds like a typical Meetup I experienced ~10 years ago.