I Feel like Meetup is a waste of time

[Zimbabwe]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

 

[SW15]

When Meetups were in person, I went. This was years prior to the pandemic. They were generally bad. It's trash.

While it is easier to do approaches in Meetup groups than on the street or in grocery stores, the quality of women at Meetups is low. 1-2 semi-attractive women may go once or twice, but they are swarmed by horny, thirsty simps. A guy who is normal can do ok there but it’s still a poor time investment even for that guy.

Prior to the pandemic, Meetup events in my city in the general social groups were sausage fests. General social groups means a group titled like "X City Young Professionals", "20s/30s in X City", etc. At events for general social groups, you would have hordes of men and few women. As an example, let's say an event had 30 attendees. 20 would be men. 6 women would be subpar women. 2 women would be average and 2 would be above average. The 20 men would focus their efforts talking to the 4 women average or above average. It was definitely not a good environment for getting your dicck wet.

Hobby groups are better but still generally weak.

Meetup has a use. You can add male friends with it when you are new to a city, know absolutely no one, and need a place to start. I added 2 male friends from it in my early days in my current city and each of those guys has been a friend for 5+ years. While neither has been amongst my absolute closest friends, they have each served a good purpose. I met another friend through one of the male friends I met via Meetup. Convenience might be its key selling point. However, one's best friends are likely to come from somewhere else.

 

[jaymbrs]

I guess I lucked out a bit. I joined Meetup when I first moved to another city. It was a softball club and most of the people on the team were there for a good while and they introduced me to some people. We would grab drinks after work and I got to meet more people there. I ended up dating one of the waitresses at the bar we would go to and she eventually played softball with us. Maybe try a team sport like I did.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Actually, I've had fairly good results with meetup. OF course, there's been times when the most attractive woman that RSVP'd would unRSVP herself the day of the vent or worse, do a no show. This thing is not without its flaws.

I belong to a couple of "over 40" type groups, a philosophy group and also a book club. The one benefit is that once you meet a girl in a social group environment, you can e-mail them later .. and usually more likely to continue the conversation and eventually meet up one to one in person.

So far, the book club as provided the most positive end results. I never go to a group, unless I think that I'll enjoy it., Naturally, looking at the women that have RSVP's will also add to the incentive.

 

[corrector]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

Tried it in 2009, more or less the same type of results. Better outcome with Christian meetup groups. They tend to have better ratios at least. Tried it again in early 2014 but quit when I met my exwife (unrelated to the meetup). Not sure 2014 would have been better or worst in that regard if I stayed the course with meerup instead of getting married. In hindsight 2014 was a bad year from whatever choices I made so I cant think of a worst outcome if I continued with Christian meetup groups if there was a momentum.

 

[biggoal]

Never went to one, but I checked out the meetup groups in this region a couple years ago on the meetup page and most of them were women over 50 in the groups and activities older people would do. That was based on most of the member profiles I saw. I guess if you're a 60 year old guy it would be fine as the ladies were not fat for their ages actually but I'm not into grannies.

Someone on here said they checked out singles groups on Facebook locally. The two around here are dismal. Small group of people, mostly mid 40s on up and most were very obese and looked like trashy, poorly dressed slobs. Like you wouldn't want to be seen hanging out in public with them if a family or friend ran into you.

With the cases I posted above you would have better results getting a date from OLD.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

Why on earth would a hot woman attend those boring @ss meetups? Unless she just moved to your city and literally knows no one, she can probably find more exciting things to do.

 

[Great Husky 63]

Men and women have substntially different hobbies and spare time preferences. This is evidenced by the trillions of dollars spent by women and men, of which entire industries cater to one sex and not the other. Meetup group for male hobbies will cater to males, period.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Actually, I've had fairly good results with meetup. OF course, there's been times when the most attractive woman that RSVP'd would unRSVP herself the day of the vent or worse, do a no show. This thing is not without its flaws.

I belong to a couple of "over 40" type groups, a philosophy group and also a book club. The one benefit is that once you meet a girl in a social group environment, you can e-mail them later .. and usually more likely to continue the conversation and eventually meet up one to one in person.

So far, the book club as provided the most positive end results. I never go to a group, unless I think that I'll enjoy it., Naturally, looking at the women that have RSVP's will also add to the incentive.

A lot of the group members do tend to skew to the older side so I can see why you had a lot of success, the youngest people in the group are in their 30s. Im in my mid 20s so it's hard to even meet anyone my age in the first place unless i go to the soccer or Anime meetups.

Why on earth would a hot woman attend those boring @ss meetups? Unless she just moved to your city and literally knows no one, she can probably find more exciting things to do.

I was hoping they would have similar hobbies to me, my goal was to do the whole social circle thing.

Men and women have substntially different hobbies and spare time preferences. This is evidenced by the trillions of dollars spent by women and men, of which entire industries cater to one sex and not the other. Meetup group for male hobbies will cater to males, period.

The female centric ones like Yoga have a lot of girls but i don't imagine them being receptive to a guy going there to pickup. Few of the groups straight up have warnings about that which suggests to me that a lot of guys go to them and act creepy.

When Meetups were in person, I went. This was years prior to the pandemic. They were generally bad. It's trash.

While it is easier to do approaches in Meetup groups than on the street or in grocery stores, the quality of women at Meetups is low. 1-2 semi-attractive women may go once or twice, but they are swarmed by horny, thirsty simps. A guy who is normal can do ok there but it’s still a poor time investment even for that guy.

Prior to the pandemic, Meetup events in my city in the general social groups were sausage fests. General social groups means a group titled like "X City Young Professionals", "20s/30s in X City", etc. At events for general social groups, you would have hordes of men and few women. As an example, let's say an event had 30 attendees. 20 would be men. 6 women would be subpar women. 2 women would be average and 2 would be above average. The 20 men would focus their efforts talking to the 4 women average or above average. It was definitely not a good environment for getting your dicck wet.

Hobby groups are better but still generally weak.

Meetup has a use. You can add male friends with it when you are new to a city, know absolutely no one, and need a place to start. I added 2 male friends from it in my early days in my current city and each of those guys has been a friend for 5+ years. While neither has been amongst my absolute closest friends, they have each served a good purpose. I met another friend through one of the male friends I met via Meetup. Convenience might be its key selling point. However, one's best friends are likely to come from somewhere else.

That's right, half the groups are still online only which really defeats the whole purpose of a meetup. I was hoping to find women new to the city or backpackers but i suppose they just hang out in hostels.

You're right most of the groups are massive sausage fests.

Tried it in 2009, more or less the same type of results. Better outcome with Christian meetup groups. They tend to have better ratios at least. Tried it again in early 2014 but quit when I met my exwife (unrelated to the meetup). Not sure 2014 would have been better or worst in that regard if I stayed the course with meerup instead of getting married. In hindsight 2014 was a bad year from whatever choices I made so I cant think of a worst outcome if I continued with Christian meetup groups if there was a momentum.

The christian meetups are all older people, there was one female in her mid 40s who seemed really desperate to get married with all the comments she was making.

 

[SW15]

Men and women have substntially different hobbies and spare time preferences. This is evidenced by the trillions of dollars spent by women and men, of which entire industries cater to one sex and not the other. Meetup group for male hobbies will cater to males, period.

Tennis is a good example of this. In a supposedly female friendly sport, there are far more male players than female players. The more serious and competitive recreational adult ranks are more male than female.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

Nah man. I never have but figured it would correlate to swipe apps or pulling off MySpace. Mixed bag and likely lower tier. Join clubs. I'm looking at going abroad.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

I used to host workout meetups (focusing on legs/core) (via fb, but the point is I organized it myself) and women would join sometimes I think just to meet me (some came just once, others became regulars). Not even kidding. Not a single guy ever joined.

Organize your own stuff, women like men that lead.

 

[SW15]

I never have but figured it would correlate to swipe apps or pulling off MySpace. Mixed bag and likely lower tier. Join clubs.

A lot of clubs have a presence on Meetup now so the key is to join clubs not at all affiliated with the Meetup website. You are correct about the mainly lower tier talent at Meetup group events. Part of it is because Meetup has never had a "cool" factor. Cute and hot women like to do what's cool.

Why on earth would a hot woman attend those boring @ss meetups? Unless she just moved to your city and literally knows no one, she can probably find more exciting things to do.

If she just moved to the city, it won't take her more than 2-3 months to find something more exciting to do.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Why do meetups suck for meeting hot women?

Think about it:

If you're a hot, single woman who is interested in dating, why would you join a meetup group and get hit on by mainly desperate beta men when you can set up an app or two and have your inbox flooded with messages and have your pick of the litter?

That's why.

 

[oc16]

Anyone else try meetup? I've been using it for a couple of months now and I have noticed that it is a terrible way to meet women. Very few women even attend the hobby groups, the only ones that do have women at all are stuff like hiking or yoga groups. I attended a beachside walk group which was decent but everyone just did the walk and went home straight after there was very little socialisation.

Most of these groups are sausage fests, the few women that do attend or not exactly Victoria secret models. I also have noticed that each session has a different group of people, i was expecting there to be regulars who go to each session

I've tried sport,social,language exchange and even general hobby groups but so far it seems like a colossal waste of time with how insular everybody is.

Has anyone here had any luck with meetup.com?

Yes, I belong to about 12 of them, but most of them are in Philly or New York which are both 1.5 hours commute by car.

There is one I went to a couple of times recently (.5 hour away) that has meetups for 20 to 40 year olds. The last one was at a bar for drinks and only about 12 out of the 36 people signed up showed up. Only three of the 12 were women and only one was attractive.

Years ago I belonged to one called "Culture.....something" and it was based in Manhattan. They would be do alot of movie screenings. There were some hotties there, but once they find out you don't live in the city they lose interest.

 

[SW15]

Yes, I belong to about 12 of them, but most of them are in Philly or New York which are both 1.5 hours commute by car.

You have bad geography, like @biggoal. You needed to move to some major city many years ago. You can't be 25+ and in a metro area of less than 100,000, especially with big areas like Philadelphia and New York City so close. New York City has gone downhill big time in recent years.

There is one I went to a couple of times recently (.5 hour away) that has meetups for 20 to 40 year olds. The last one was at a bar for drinks and only about 12 out of the 36 people signed up showed up. Only three of the 12 were women and only one was attractive.

That's a typical Meetup event in a big city.

Years ago I belonged to one called "Culture.....something" and it was based in Manhattan. They would be do alot of movie screenings. There were some hotties there, but once they find out you don't live in the city they lose interest.

Yes, this sounds like New York City women. Why would they leave The City? It's a royal pain. Plus, there are so many men in Manhattan.

 

[biggoal]

You have bad geography, like @biggoal. You needed to move to some major city many years ago. You can't be 25+ and in a metro area of less than 100,000, especially with big areas like Philadelphia and New York City so close. New York City has gone downhill big time in recent years.



That's a typical Meetup event in a big city.



Yes, this sounds like New York City women. Why would they leave The City? It's a royal pain. Plus, there are so many men in Manhattan.

20-40 yr olds is a great demographic. The ones I saw in this region mostly over 50 in the meetup groups.

NYC is stll better than most places though. My county has 188,000 residents though, over 100k! The median age is 57 years old though and 67.1 median age for my city and county to my north is larger and a median age of 55.9. Those are both over 100k. But on OLD I see hardly anyone in my county on it except for occasional land whale of grannies.

 

[Willie Naylor]

Anti-Bump

 

[SW15]

My county has 188,000 residents though, over 100k! The median age is 57 years old though and 67.1 median age for my city and county to my north is larger and a median age of 55.9. Those are both over 100k. But on OLD I see hardly anyone in my county on it except for occasional land whale of grannies.

188,000 population is a large enough metro area/county to have a feasible quantity of women to date. Dating gets really tough sub-100k area population once you turn 25.

There's something specific to your county that makes it undesirable for dating. Everyone is fuccking old in your county. Which is why you need to leave that county tomorrow and probably should have left it a long time ago.

 

[biggoal]

188,000 population is a large enough metro area/county to have a feasible quantity of women to date. Dating gets really tough sub-100k area population once you turn 25.

There's something specific to your county that makes it undesirable for dating. Everyone is fuccking old in your county. Which is why you need to leave that county tomorrow and probably should have left it a long time ago.

What is the desirable median age for a location to look for?