Glassguy
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It is imperative to create a "good" anxiety when you are dating women. You can look at this as a way to push/pull if you will, and the great part is you have to do absolutely nothing to achieve it.
Let me start by saying that if you are a man with zero sexual options in his life, this is not going to benefit you at all until you start seeing women (multiple is better) as you need to have some form of communication established with a chick(s) in order to be able to do this.
Understand one very important point before we go any further: Both high value men and women seek partners who are desirable to others. Therefore, women want a man who she knows has other options behind curtain 1, 2 and 3 and that woman will work for the man's time and attention. But to be desirable to a woman, she must know that you at least have those other women in your orbit. Women want what they either cant have OR what they have to put some effort into. Competition is certainly not a bad thing.
Over the past couple of weeks I have really paid attention to doing certain things to create some "good" anxiety. Its a push/pull without opening your mouth to say anything-
* I do not initiate contact. Period. I am letting THEM initiate contact. Once they call, they dont hear from me until they reach out again (call, text, etc). Even if they know that I like them (and why would I be seeing them if I didnt) they do not know how much I like them and it keeps them guessing. Light and upbeat conversations that dont last longer than 15 minutes, set up the next date/hang out and disappear again. Its really simple and very effective. This is one of the most effective things you can do. It keeps you from over texting and over communicating. I respond back when they reach out and call, or I call them back when I get free. But I rarely initiate unless it is something that is time sensitive.
*90% of my communication (especially texting) is sub communication or sub context. Its something that I really didnt focus on as much in previous texting but no I am......and its huge.
*Increase the mystery. When a chick asks me what I am up to or doing, its "I met up with a friend"......"Having a drink with a friend"....."Met some people out".....you get the point. Do not give any details. Let her mind wonder. Build that anxiety. Let her think "What if he meets another woman while he is out?" But you have to be highly desirable to your dating pool for this to work.
*Reschedule the date. "Sorry something came up this evening and I cant make it. Ill touch base later". Then dont reach back out for a day or two. This is a ballsy move and one that you certainly dont want to do more than once with a chick. If she asks later on what came up, simply say a friend of yours really needed some help with something. Let her wonder if the friend was a chick and what she needed help with.
Doing these things creates some competition anxiety in women and you will certainly see them increase the amount of effort they put into seeing you. After all, you are a busy guy WITH OPTIONS and your time is valuable. Make them earn your time and make them miss you when you are "out with a friend".
@BeExcellent can probably add several more good techniques to use in order to build good anxiety.
Happy Hunting
Let me start by saying that if you are a man with zero sexual options in his life, this is not going to benefit you at all until you start seeing women (multiple is better) as you need to have some form of communication established with a chick(s) in order to be able to do this.
Understand one very important point before we go any further: Both high value men and women seek partners who are desirable to others. Therefore, women want a man who she knows has other options behind curtain 1, 2 and 3 and that woman will work for the man's time and attention. But to be desirable to a woman, she must know that you at least have those other women in your orbit. Women want what they either cant have OR what they have to put some effort into. Competition is certainly not a bad thing.
Over the past couple of weeks I have really paid attention to doing certain things to create some "good" anxiety. Its a push/pull without opening your mouth to say anything-
* I do not initiate contact. Period. I am letting THEM initiate contact. Once they call, they dont hear from me until they reach out again (call, text, etc). Even if they know that I like them (and why would I be seeing them if I didnt) they do not know how much I like them and it keeps them guessing. Light and upbeat conversations that dont last longer than 15 minutes, set up the next date/hang out and disappear again. Its really simple and very effective. This is one of the most effective things you can do. It keeps you from over texting and over communicating. I respond back when they reach out and call, or I call them back when I get free. But I rarely initiate unless it is something that is time sensitive.
*90% of my communication (especially texting) is sub communication or sub context. Its something that I really didnt focus on as much in previous texting but no I am......and its huge.
*Increase the mystery. When a chick asks me what I am up to or doing, its "I met up with a friend"......"Having a drink with a friend"....."Met some people out".....you get the point. Do not give any details. Let her mind wonder. Build that anxiety. Let her think "What if he meets another woman while he is out?" But you have to be highly desirable to your dating pool for this to work.
*Reschedule the date. "Sorry something came up this evening and I cant make it. Ill touch base later". Then dont reach back out for a day or two. This is a ballsy move and one that you certainly dont want to do more than once with a chick. If she asks later on what came up, simply say a friend of yours really needed some help with something. Let her wonder if the friend was a chick and what she needed help with.
Doing these things creates some competition anxiety in women and you will certainly see them increase the amount of effort they put into seeing you. After all, you are a busy guy WITH OPTIONS and your time is valuable. Make them earn your time and make them miss you when you are "out with a friend".
@BeExcellent can probably add several more good techniques to use in order to build good anxiety.
Happy Hunting