When you examine relationships and interactions, typically there is an individual in these situations on either side that has an air of complacency or settling and often it is the other individual who ends up paying for that person's complacency, as if we should understand that they made a mistake and the complacent seem to have this expectation that they should enjoy a sense of freedom from commitment.
This freedom from commitment is something that is cultivated in the higher echelons of society because obviously this is where the people are who can afford to take a loss or value their peace of mind over said loss, thus this indifference it seems is becoming a valued trait among men with a perceived high status.
However, I have also observed that there is a very tangible sense of competition in the wealthy, as if losing some how lowers their own value, being highly competitive is also a desirable trait in men.
What we are left with is the modern woman walking the line between indifference and competition, she'll test your authenticity by presenting a situation where she feels a guy might feel indifferent, then a situation where a guy might feel competitive, if the indifference extends into competitive territory, seems complacent, but if the competitiveness extends into indifference territory, seems insecure.
As we all know, women are great at testing for authenticity, a great example, one night im at the club, my buddy tells this chick about me, oh this guy has his **** together, I pull up in a tie, freshly shaved, however I have always struggled to shave my neck hair, usually around the Adams apple area, very sensitive, causes cuts whenever I go there to this day, so this woman simply walks up to me without missing a beat, feels my freshly shaven cheeks with her hands, then runs her hand down to my neck and feels the stubble, dismisses me immediately, like man I couldn't believe she did that, almost on reaction like she wasnt even aware what she was doing.
It's a deep conversation, because when you start testing women in this way, most of them fail, in fact all of them do, they just cannot stand up to the level of scrutiny they often impose and this is the plight of the modern woman, the guys she makes exceptions for typically want nothing to do with her, the guys she's unwilling to make exceptions for will tolerate her.
You have tripped over this structure in your post, it's the symptom of being perceived as high value but often this value is an illusion that we want to keep up about ourselves, so the second we are saw as high value, we want to withdraw which just sends the woman into a frenzy and suddenly you two together is about her ego, not functionality, then she tries even harder to dispel your... Magic over her.
The tragedy in this, is that either way as men today, our value eventually comes into question and if you leave a woman the second your value comes into question you'll forever be alone... We have to provide real things that can be felt and poked, not illusions that crumble when touched, much like the shaving story I shared.
So how this relates to your post because I know we have some shallow members here who won't see how this connects, is that we are both doing this dance, men and women, it's rare when two people come together who are willing to excuse eachothers nonsense.
