What are good intimate type questions to ask on a dinner date?

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I'm going on a dinner date with a woman this weekend and I was thinking how some people say it's good to discuss the topic of sex, or generally intimacy, because it kind of programs the girl to subconsciously link you to sex. To be clear, I do not mean in a crude way like what is your position but more of a general discussion on the topic. Does that really work? Are the below questions a good start or are there any other good ones that make for good discussion on the topic of sex? And btw, I tried to ask this question on this forum before but didn't ask it in the right way so ignore my previous thread.

- What are your views on sex?

- Are you a virgin?

- At what age did you lose your virginity?

- You seem like a girl who acts proper on the outside but probably has some wild secret fantasies?
 

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Jesus don’t ask any of these. Just be like “ok so random question time, what would you rate yourself 1-10 if you’re a good kisser”. If she hesitates then you can joke about it but most won’t. Best ice breaker sexual question I’ve encountered.
 

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Leave sex as unspoken on dates*. Just slowly ramp up the touch (kino).

1. Touch her forearm briefly while making a point.

2. Can touch her shoulder for a second and say, "Gonna run to the men's room. I'll be right back."

4. Go for the kiss at the end when you walk her out to her car.

*To the extent sex comes up as a discussion, it tends to be more of a late-night texting session topic that can come up. When she's lying in bed and chatting with you, sometimes the discussion can get more interesting. Not so much during dinner.
 

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No dinner dates in restaurants prior to sex. I am amazed it is nearly 2022 and we're talking about dinner dates in restaurants in the early stages. The Manosphere was saying that stuff in the 2000s.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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I'm going on a dinner date with a woman this weekend and I was thinking how some people say it's good to discuss the topic of sex, or generally intimacy, because it kind of programs the girl to subconsciously link you to sex. To be clear, I do not mean in a crude way like what is your position but more of a general discussion on the topic. Does that really work? Are the below questions a good start or are there any other good ones that make for good discussion on the topic of sex? And btw, I tried to ask this question on this forum before but didn't ask it in the right way so ignore my previous thread.

- What are your views on sex?

- Are you a virgin?

- At what age did you lose your virginity?

- You seem like a girl who acts proper on the outside but probably has some wild secret fantasies?
How did the date go?
 

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Warning: Obviously only ask these things if the date is going well and you're getting along and having fun.

Ask her if she can twerk, grind at clubs or give a lap dance.

Ask her if she's ever kissed a girl or done a threesome

Things that are relatively normal and known about even to someone who doesn't watch porn or have tons of sex. You can't ask her anything that's too hardcore or fetishy. You shouldn't ask her anything that isn't likely to lead to a fun conversation like how she lost her virginity

- What are your views on sex?

- Are you a virgin?

- At what age did you lose your virginity
Bad. Too interview/therapist/doctor
Jesus don’t ask any of these. Just be like “ok so random question time, what would you rate yourself 1-10 if you’re a good kisser”. If she hesitates then you can joke about it but most won’t. Best ice breaker sexual question I’ve encountered.
This is a good one.
 

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Good god I hope you didn't ask these questions. You'll come across like an over-thirsty 30 yr old virgin who's never even seen a p*ssy. You gotten some really bad advice somewhere.

Women are not, nor do they think, like men.

Show some class unlike 99% of the other young guys she dates.

Be interesting. Show charisma. Humor is golden but don't be a clown, make funny observations and tease her a little. Talk about your pursuits, goals, etc. Show her you care about more than drinking and partying.

Ask her questions about pop culture, travel, her outfit, friends, etc. - all the things girls like to talk about. **Keep it focused on her so you don't reveal too much.**

Take charge during the date and order a fun appetizer, shots, whatever.

Learn who gives decent advice on SS and keep learning.

Good luck.
 

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I'm going on a dinner date with a woman this weekend and I was thinking how some people say it's good to discuss the topic of sex, or generally intimacy, because it kind of programs the girl to subconsciously link you to sex. To be clear, I do not mean in a crude way like what is your position but more of a general discussion on the topic. Does that really work? Are the below questions a good start or are there any other good ones that make for good discussion on the topic of sex? And btw, I tried to ask this question on this forum before but didn't ask it in the right way so ignore my previous thread.

- What are your views on sex?

- Are you a virgin?

- At what age did you lose your virginity?

- You seem like a girl who acts proper on the outside but probably has some wild secret fantasies?
you are going to come across as socially inept.

Women arent going to tell you the truth anyway, And dont believe for one second she hasnt got a rotor of 2 men shes having sex with.

Women love a man, who knows the game, but he never confirms verbally or judges her.

they are sneaky as hell, and love a guy who is sneaky.

"oh poor you boobyscooby poor you" will get you much further than "dont you think you should self improve"
 

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You guys are denying him valuable experience, I think he should ask these questions, if not to experience complete and utter failure but no OP, this isn't going to lead into you being successful with women but that shouldn't be your aim at this point, don't focus on success, focus on mileage, with mileage you'll find your small successes and if you focus on those things, the smalls, the big will come into focus.

Focus on the small things and the big things will take care of themselves.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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- What are your views on sex?

Tf does this mean? You should assume that her views on sex are that she likes sex and has it with people she is attracted to. If you get any other vibes or she tells you she is saving herself for marriage, wants love first etc. then run.

- Are you a virgin?

If she is above the age of 19 you can assume she isn't.

- At what age did you lose your virginity?

This lands very high on the creepy scale, no comments.

- You seem like a girl who acts proper on the outside but probably has some wild secret fantasies?

This you can get away with but only if the conversation has taken a turn for the sexy/graphic and you can tell she is into it.


As others said, no dinner date as a first date and these questions wouldn't go well with the dinner vibe anyway. Also, they wouldn't be scoring you any points, you want to build sexual tension through the way you come off and with cheeky/witty comments or follow ups to what she says not by going all in and sounding desperate.
 

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If you stink of desperation... go home. She will be able to smell your obvious intent of only wanting to sleep with her if your focus in your mind is to get laid..... good luck.

Re read "kill your desperation"

Your welcome.
 
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