Am i simping or what?

[LucianoM]

If you’re in the place and mindset of a man who is approaching middle age, I struggle to conceive in my mind what you would have in common with a teenager to sustain a long term cohabitation.

You’re weighing in on other threads calling 36 year old women “hags.”

Either you’re a flaming us, or you’ve got a serious Peter Pan complex.

I say this with only love and good intentions: Grow up already, silly old man.

But I get along great with teens because im fun,spontaneous and have a great sense of humor. Everytime im out with them its just laughing, dancing and doing fun things. I cant even relate to girls 25+ they are too serious and boring for me. Young girls arent even thinking about my age theyre too busy having the time of their life! Right now my two main plates are 18 and 19 and I dont plan on fvcking with girls over 23 anytime soon. Stay young my friend.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I don't bring strange women to the land I own or the places I frequent, neither should you.

You are essentially qualifying yourself for her, as opposed to qualifying for yourself, women aren't stupid, she knows why your bringing her to a hotel, any woman that let's you bring her to a hotel more than once is one that regularly goes to hotels, the fact that you are in the hotel phase with a young woman and talking about living together is just nuts, it's just nuts, this post is nuts, your nuts, any man on his 30s would understand this, you sound like an older man making rentry into the dating game.

Hi Rocky, no you are not a simp, because this woman sounds like an escort and you want to live with her, you might as well just call yourself a cuckold.

 

[joesbigship]

As others are fond of pointing out he's renting not owning. Also, leases can be pretty easy to get out of in LA as long as he's not renting in a complete sh-thole neighborhood.

The question is, what's happening with his old place? He was paying very low rent, so if this thing with this girl doesn't work out, he'll likely wind up having to rent something else far more expensive long term.

 

[LucianoM]

As others are fond of pointing out he's renting not owning. Also, leases can be pretty easy to get out of in LA as long as he's not renting in a complete sh-thole neighborhood.

The question is, what's happening with his old place? He was paying very low rent, so if this thing with this girl doesn't work out, he'll likely wind up having to rent something else far more expensive long term.

Im actually planning on keeping my current place(rent is only $800)while i see what happens with blondie. If chit doesnt pan out i can just end my lease and return to living cheaply again.

 

[LucianoM]

I don't bring strange women to the land I own or the places I frequent, neither should you.

You are essentially qualifying yourself for her, as opposed to qualifying for yourself, women aren't stupid, she knows why your bringing her to a hotel, any woman that let's you bring her to a hotel more than once is one that regularly goes to hotels, the fact that you are in the hotel phase with a young woman and talking about living together is just nuts, it's just nuts, this post is nuts, your nuts, any man on his 30s would understand this, you sound like an older man making rentry into the dating game.

Hi Rocky, no you are not a simp, because this woman sounds like an escort and you want to live with her, you might as well just call yourself a cuckold.

What the FVCK are you even talking about?

 

[rjc149]

You're right... He shouldn't go all in.

Assuming he knows it's temporary, then just have fun.

He has not indicated that he’s planning for a temporary situation with this kid. The opposite, in fact.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

What the FVCK are you even talking about?

@2Rocky Maybe he can tell you, he's pretty knowledgeable

 

[rjc149]

But I get along great with teens because im fun,spontaneous and have a great sense of humor. Everytime im out with them its just laughing, dancing and doing fun things. I cant even relate to girls 25+ they are too serious and boring for me. Young girls arent even thinking about my age theyre too busy having the time of their life! Right now my two main plates are 18 and 19 and I dont plan on fvcking with girls over 23 anytime soon. Stay young my friend.

If you’re enjoying yourself, then who the hell am I to rain on your parade. It’s ultimately not my job to confront you with the reality of a 37 year old man whose social circle is 2 decades younger than him.

Your “youthful outlook” doesn’t seem to only apply to the women you date, but pretty major financial and life decisions as well.

If you can date hot young women and have fun with them, then of course, go for it. I just think you need a much more mature level of self-awareness, more commensurate with how old you actually are, not how old you feel. If you’re not supporting a family, you should be a little further along than deciding whether having your own place is going to impress a teenager.

 

[LucianoM]

I don't think people really understand what's going on in LA. LA must be 75% hispanic by now. Factor in black and asian populations and the white population is vanishingly small.

Demographics had probably shifted drastically even by the 90's and it's been inching closer to 100% hispanic gradually over the last several decades.

There are probably small bedroom communities surrounding the LA metro area and small enclaves within the city with white populations, but they are just swamped by hispanics everywhere.

They initially took over every low income neighborhood at first, but have made significant inroads into middle class and upper middle class neighborhoods also.

This creates a huge sense of scarcity where a cute white girl is like finding a needle in a haystack. I wonder if this is the sense of scarcity luciano is encountering.

I do agree that $3K a month in rent sounds like a lot without context. But that's the going rate in LA, especially if you're in a "buy now" mindset. There are certainly ways of finding lower cost rentals in nice areas, but it doesn't sound like luciano has the sobriety of mind to act patiently this time around.

He's definitely putting himself into a precarious economic situation, by his own admission, and that isn't good.

What? Cute white girls arent scarce haha, its mother f'in L.A. for gods sake. I also dont thirst for white girls, it just so happens this 18yr old is white but my bread and butter is and will always be latinas.

 

[joesbigship]

An extra $3K a month on top of current rent is a big hit financially.

What's the point if she's already sleeping with you? Are you taking her to super expensive luxury hotels? If not, I don't see how this makes sense financially.

Also, girls do enter into long term relationships at 18, but it's far less common in LA.

I respect you for wanting to settle down or at least try, but is there any indication that she has strong interest in doing the same?

Anyway, let us know how it turns out, I'm sure you're well aware that it's pretty much impossible for anonymous strangers on a forum to have any real sense of what's going on in your situation.

If you’re enjoying yourself, then who the hell am I to rain on your parade. It’s ultimately not my job to confront you with the reality of a 37 year old man whose social circle is 2 decades younger than him.

Your “youthful outlook” doesn’t seem to only apply to the women you date, but pretty major financial and life decisions as well.

If you can date hot young women and have fun with them, then of course, go for it. I just think you need a much more mature level of self-awareness, more commensurate with how old you actually are, not how old you feel. If you’re not supporting a family, you should be a little further along than deciding whether having your own place is going to impress a teenager.

LA encourages a 'never grow up' 'forever 21' mindset. It's very common to see a teenagers' mentality amongst not only 30 somethings, but even 40+, 50+ and seniors. It is not a city for families. It is a city for singles and people perpetually "networking" for an industry job.

Having said that it's crazy and hypocritical for guys to be encouraging buying a house and getting married when in every other thread they claim this is a sure path to divorce rape.

Haters gonna hate!

 

[LucianoM]

An extra $3K a month on top of current rent is a big hit financially.

What's the point if she's already sleeping with you? Are you taking her to super expensive luxury hotels? If not, I don't see how this makes sense financially.

Also, girls do enter into long term relationships at 18, but it's far less common in LA.

I respect you for wanting to settle down or at least try, but is there any indication that she has strong interest in doing the same?

Anyway, let us know how it turns out, I'm sure you're well aware that it's pretty much impossible for anonymous strangers on a forum to have any real sense of what's going on in your situation.

Well ive been spending $450 a weekend on hotels or $1800 per month. My new rent is $2800, so subtract the hotel expense and i end up paying 2800-1800 =$1000 extra per month to have my own place versus hotels every weekend. Thats not bad, and the extra $800 to keep my current place is temporary and ill likely end up keeping the apartment regardless of what happens with blondie.

All i want with blondie is to have a bf/gf relationship for as long as it lasts. I realize if it happens it likely wont last but ive never had a gf and i want to see what its like and ive finally found a girl that im willing to simp for.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Well ive been spending $450 a weekend on hotels or $1800 per month. My new rent is $2800, so subtract the hotel expense and i end up paying 2800-1800 =$1000 extra per month to have my own place versus hotels every weekend. Thats not bad, and the extra $800 to keep my current place is temporary and ill likely end up keeping the apartment regardless of what happens with blondie.

All i want with blondie is to have a bf/gf relationship for as long as it lasts. I realize if it happens it likely wont last but ive never had a gf and i want to see what its like and ive finally found a girl that im willing to simp for.

Being in a relationship does not mean that you have to simp. This is what everyone is trying to tell you but you can't get it through your head, apparently. You also don't necessarily have to live together.

As an aside, you must be somewhat developmentally delayed if, at 37, you mostly hang out with teens and live in a house full of roommates. Nothing wrong with dating 18 year old girls but you should have your own place regardless.

 

[joesbigship]

Being in a relationship does not mean that you have to simp. This is what everyone is trying to tell you but you can't get it through your head, apparently. You also don't necessarily have to live together.

As an aside, you must be somewhat developmentally delayed if, at 37, you mostly hang out with teens and live in a house full of roommates. Nothing wrong with dating 18 year old girls but you should have your own place regardless.

Everyone in LA is "developmentally delayed." But, this is the sosuave/blackpill mantra anyway: never get married, don't get divorce raped, yada yada yada.

You guys have no standards. You claim married life is for "simps" but then claim you need a home, mortgage, wife and kids to be successful when a guy in LA says he's renting an apartment for a fling. Talking out of both sides of your ass.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Everyone in LA is "developmentally delayed." But, this is the sosuave/blackpill mantra anyway: never get married, don't get divorce raped, yada yada yada.

You guys have no standards. You claim married life is for "simps" but then claim you need a home, mortgage, wife and kids to be successful when a guy in LA says he's renting an apartment for a fling. Talking out of both sides of your ass.

Having your own place is not just for bringing women back (although it does make things a lot easier logistically).

No one said you have to have a mortgage, wife, kids, etc. You can, if you want to. But you don't have to. However, there are certain minimum standards that apply to everyone. Like maintaining good hygiene, being neatly dressed, being in good physical shape, etc. I would put having your now place in that category, whether you own or rent (although, form a purely financial standpoint, renting is stupid if you can afford to buy).

 

[2Rocky]

If you wanna go have a committed relationship then go do it. You will learn more from that experience than by any amount of input from all of the community here. It will also make you a more valuable community member from the experience.