I have of course my own slew of disastrous misses of models and what not, and it’s a mourning for me, but it gets better. Not gonna add my epic fails to the 913 so far, heh.
However, what does interest me is why this happens. In my case: when I approach they’re not interested, and when they approach I’m not interested. Wtf.
Many posts here treat the fail like an intellectual mistake, “I didn’t comprehend it,” basically. I’ve rationalised so myself, but I think that at least I’m different. Somewhere, at least subconsciously, we’ve picked things up. In my case it’s more a fear of intimacy, or not being comfortable with being dominated — I haven’t initiated, I’m not in charge. Maybe some girls react the same way, and hence it’s our job to smoothly steer the process.
Another reason is that we’re blissfully ignorant. It’s some mundane situation, we’re not gaming, so we’re indifferent and not at all tuned in for that something may happen. One way to fix this is to be better at more often staying sharp. To think, “Now something might happen.” Tomassi partly touches on this in RM1, The Plan, that a beta trait is to become surprised if a girl say yes to a date or whatever. That the success wasn’t planned for. But I’d say being receptive can go too far: one becomes unnatural, needy, seeking eyes, hesitant.
For a PUA approach we’re active and alert, but if we passively attract using SMV over time (an alpha approach some would say), we can easily “accidentally” seduce a girl. But if we’re not tuned in when she does her move, it would become, well, another post in this thread.
