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Girl Broke Up With Her Boyfriend. How to Proceed With the Seduction?

nicksaiz65

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So I met a very cool, pretty blond girl a while back. We have mutual friends so that would put us in the same social circle. However, she had a boyfriend for a while.

I log on Facebook today, and then I find out that she's finally broken up with that sh*tty boyfriend. Her status is set back to single. I definitely need to make a move and be balls deep in this chick lol.

So due to us being in the same social circle, I've actually hung out with her and gotten drinks with her before. She's cool peoples. Haven't seen her in a while though. Even better, she literally lives right down the street from me.

I was wondering how I should play this so that she ends up in my bed one of these nights lol. I was thinking that the correct strategy would be to just hit her up and say "Hey miss seeing you around x." (Small talk) And then say that I'm going out to a local bar and she should come along. Then of course after the bar, pool, and a few drinks, pull her back.

I know for a fact that I am capable of fvcking this girl, but the only thing I'm wondering how to do is to make sure the intent and sexual vibe is there on the date so that I don't end up in a very sh*tty platonic situation. Because we've been in the same social circle, I've been on chill and friendly type vibes with her.

How do I show intent on this date so that I can seduce and sleep with her? So that it's smooth and calibrated, while getting to where I want?

(P.S. This chick definitely smokes weed. That would be a perfect excuse to pull her back because that's not something you do in public, and it makes girls want to fvck. However, I wonder if I should. I don't smoke weed that much because it gives me pretty bad anxiety and makes me paranoid. I wonder if my killer instinct would hold up with all that: it's possible that it wouldn't. It could be better to say "Hey I have some drinks at my place. Come down the road and have some more with me." Was wondering what you guys thought about that as well.)
 
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The best you can do is set up a hang out with her and see what happens. If she looks hot when she shows up, then you can make sure that you show non-verbal appreciation of her looks. It helps that you haven't seen her in a while. Maybe saying something like "quarantine has been good to you" or something of the sort. (Assuming that is in fact the case)

If you're getting a good vibe from her and having fun, invite her back to your place.

Don't smoke weed with her if you're going to get weird. The anxiety and paranoia can be controlled if you stay in the moment instead of allowing your mind to ramble, but it's up to you to be the judge of that.
 

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You really have to calibrate your approach. Her "SINGLE" on her SM is telling folks she's open to being approached. I think the specific hang out request is reasonable. Don't bring up the Ex and focus on having fun...Like DO stuff together that makes oyu both laugh and smile and add kino. If she says she "just got out of a relationship" say "and you don't have to get back into one...lets just have fun..."

She is probably craving a little attention, and being able to let her guard down. You just have to read and react.
 

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The best you can do is set up a hang out with her and see what happens. If she looks hot when she shows up, then you can make sure that you show non-verbal appreciation of her looks. It helps that you haven't seen her in a while. Maybe saying something like "quarantine has been good to you" or something of the sort. (Assuming that is in fact the case)

If you're getting a good vibe from her and having fun, invite her back to your place.

Don't smoke weed with her if you're going to get weird. The anxiety and paranoia can be controlled if you stay in the moment instead of allowing your mind to ramble, but it's up to you to be the judge of that.
Gotcha. So basically I just set up a date/hang out as usual, and make sure that I work some intent in there over time so that the date isn't completely platonic. I'll gradually put the intent in there, like dimming a light. That way, it isn't jarring but the sexual vibe is still there. Then, execute my pull sequence as I normally would.

And just make a move on her from there.

As a side note, that's interesting that you were able to pinpoint the cause of weed anxiety. Now that I think about it: my mind lives exclusively in the past or future lol. It is very difficult to stay in the "now" sometimes.
 

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You really have to calibrate your approach. Her "SINGLE" on her SM is telling folks she's open to being approached. I think the specific hang out request is reasonable. Don't bring up the Ex and focus on having fun...Like DO stuff together that makes oyu both laugh and smile and add kino. If she says she "just got out of a relationship" say "and you don't have to get back into one...lets just have fun..."

She is probably craving a little attention, and being able to let her guard down. You just have to read and react.
Alright, sounds good. I'll get on that specific hang out ASAP. (Plus I think it's good to know how to handle situations like this in general.)

Definitely. Just have fun on the date, use kino, and show intent. Then pull her as I normally would.
 

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All women are single in some capacity or another, interest is hard to miss when she's with another man
 
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