Why Am I So Picky?

[Robert28]

Same exact question back to you @Robert28 . If you met a woman over 30 and she was hot, feminine, submissive, seductive and supplicating, would you auto reject her because of her 30+ age?

Don't say women like this don't exist; they most certainly do. It's unfortunate you haven't met any but 30 is still young.

I happen to know 20ish women who are quite masculine (straight women) and full of themselves (i.e think their sh!t don't stink).

It's not age that makes a woman masculine or feminine, manly or full of herself, but rather her nature, her general personality, how she was raised and other factors not related to age.

My opinion of course based on my own life and behavior I have witnessed from my peers and other women.

If I did meet such a woman that checked all those boxes but was 30+ I’d give her a shot because I know I’d found the preverbal unicorn woman.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

One of my customers has an 18 year old daughter which I have thought about banging. That thought ran wild in my head for hours.

I would not recommend that dude. Not only can you lose the customer but way more nasty repercussions which I feel is so obvious that I do not need to list them/mention them here.

 

[Plinco]

I would not recommend that dude. Not only can you lose the customer but way more nasty repercussions which I feel is so obvious that I do not need to list them/mention them here.

Oh yeah, the parents usually don't like me. Outside of business that doesn't stop me.

 

[zinc4]

I’m 37 years old.

I’m attracted to young women (18 to 21), and the occasional slvt. The only time I’m attracted to average girls is if they are in that age group. Sometimes older if they are really good looking, like 8/10 or above. Over 30, forget about it unless it’s a one nighter. I used to be attracted to any woman that had a heartbeat and a pulse under 45, but as I have gotten older that has changed. When I see women my age wanting a relationship I want to vomit; I feel disgusted. Most mid 20’s women don’t do it for me anymore either.

Personally I think it goes back to when I was at that age and not having very much success with the young ladies, so now my inner psychology is convinced that the age group and their characteristics is a value worth pursuing and thus the emotional and physiological response I get. Those convictions I have are so embedded into my psyche that even after trying to rationally contemplate I have not been able to change what I am sexually attracted to. Or maybe I’ve gotten too spoiled and average girls don’t do it for me. I don’t do porn, haven’t looked at that since mid-2017 unless I have had permanent brain damage from it. Or maybe I have low testosterone levels but I don’t have any other symptoms (I have regular morning erections, high energy, etc.). I’m getting my testosterone levels checked anyway.

I made a thread about my beauty of an f-up when I married a woman that I don’t feel sexually attracted to; What the f was I thinking… she’s a really nice lady, loves me and all. I care about her but I don’t love her. One of my customers has an 18 year old daughter which I have thought about banging. That thought ran wild in my head for hours.

It would be great if I could reverse my biological age back to 20 but that technology isn’t there yet though.

So how deep of a hole am I in?

I used to be attracted to only younger women but this new batch is extremely difficult to deal with in general. Just a bunch of woke sjw bots. I lost my attraction to younger women 5 years ago or so. 25 is the youngest i will deal with but really, 28 to 33 is the sweet spot for me.

Start being more picky based on personality as well as looks is what i would say. If you are only pick about looks and age then that isnt really being picky imo. You just want to slay the youngest ***** possible lol.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I’m 37 years old.

I’m attracted to young women (18 to 21), and the occasional slvt. The only time I’m attracted to average girls is if they are in that age group. Sometimes older if they are really good looking, like 8/10 or above. Over 30, forget about it unless it’s a one nighter. I used to be attracted to any woman that had a heartbeat and a pulse under 45, but as I have gotten older that has changed. When I see women my age wanting a relationship I want to vomit; I feel disgusted. Most mid 20’s women don’t do it for me anymore either.

Personally I think it goes back to when I was at that age and not having very much success with the young ladies, so now my inner psychology is convinced that the age group and their characteristics is a value worth pursuing and thus the emotional and physiological response I get. Those convictions I have are so embedded into my psyche that even after trying to rationally contemplate I have not been able to change what I am sexually attracted to. Or maybe I’ve gotten too spoiled and average girls don’t do it for me. I don’t do porn, haven’t looked at that since mid-2017 unless I have had permanent brain damage from it. Or maybe I have low testosterone levels but I don’t have any other symptoms (I have regular morning erections, high energy, etc.). I’m getting my testosterone levels checked anyway.

I made a thread about my beauty of an f-up when I married a woman that I don’t feel sexually attracted to; What the f was I thinking… she’s a really nice lady, loves me and all. I care about her but I don’t love her. One of my customers has an 18 year old daughter which I have thought about banging. That thought ran wild in my head for hours.

It would be great if I could reverse my biological age back to 20 but that technology isn’t there yet though.

So how deep of a hole am I in?

You are supposed to be attracted to the following. Are you pulling?

 

[Robert28]

Have you ever been to SoCal? L.A. or San Diego?

If not have a visit, 30+ women with youthful spirit, good health, beauty, high energy, who are open-minded and feminine are not unicorns there, it's pretty much the norm!

I'm speaking generally, there are exceptions of course but those exceptions would be NOT the norm.

Other parts of the US like in the Midwest for example, yeah I've seen what you describe too - 30+ women who are overweight, low energy, married who rule the roost with an iron hand.

My opinion was based on my own life having lived in SoCal and still live part time.

In the southeast where I live all the women 30+ are divorced, most always single moms (many by multiple dads), hate men, extremely high standards, not willing to please your wants and needs only care about their own, they don’t make good partners so LTR are very hard to make work with them.

 

[2Rocky]

I’m 37 years old.

I’m attracted to young women (18 to 21), and the occasional slvt. The only time I’m attracted to average girls is if they are in that age group. Sometimes older if they are really good looking, like 8/10 or above. Over 30, forget about it unless it’s a one nighter. I used to be attracted to any woman that had a heartbeat and a pulse under 45, but as I have gotten older that has changed. When I see women my age wanting a relationship I want to vomit; I feel disgusted. Most mid 20’s women don’t do it for me anymore either.

Plinco I'm really curious about what your Life Experience has been...Married, Divorced, had kids, changed careers, moved, lost parents, etc?

I feel like those factors guide our true attractions to other people. It's not just a Boner Test.... If you've never been a parent, or married, it's easier to look at a VYW in a sexual light. But if you raised some daughters it's a totally different feeling, trust me.

I had a bad experience in high school with younger girls. Hence, I looked for older , more mature women who wouldn't be so inconsistent and immature. Even now when I look at women in their 20's social media, their lack of perspective is a boner killer.

When you find a woman that UNDERSTANDS you and where you have been in life, she goes up a few notches on the scale, even if she is a little lower on the physical beauty scale. You won't understand it ,till it happens for you.

 

[typical]

Plinco I'm really curious about what your Life Experience has been...Married, Divorced, had kids, changed careers, moved, lost parents, etc?

I feel like those factors guide our true attractions to other people. It's not just a Boner Test.... If you've never been a parent, or married, it's easier to look at a VYW in a sexual light. But if you raised some daughters it's a totally different feeling, trust me.

I had a bad experience in high school with younger girls. Hence, I looked for older , more mature women who wouldn't be so inconsistent and immature. Even now when I look at women in their 20's social media, their lack of perspective is a boner killer.

When you find a woman that UNDERSTANDS you and where you have been in life, she goes up a few notches on the scale, even if she is a little lower on the physical beauty scale. You won't understand it ,till it happens for you.

Yup agree on this here.

18-24 - They are at the peak of their SMV ..... BUT man are they boring and useless with no life experience and nothing to talk about ..... just tell them to STFU and suck you off. Awesome sex and that's it.

24-30 - Still really good sex but now there's some brains and conversational points and these women can make some very good exit strategy wifes for anyone looking to settle down - there isn't a tonne of sexual and relationship damage to deal with if the partner count is low.

30-35 - hitting the wall some are still very good looking but many are looking for a beta chump to settle down with and very argumentative. There will be a rare few that may have been an AFC earlier in life and now are blossoming (you find one of these they can become a very good friend/lover)

 

[Plinco]

You are supposed to be attracted to the following. Are you pulling?

I used to when I had my stuff together and was happier. I was knocked down in 2020, now I'm building myself back better now.

 

[Plinco]

Plinco I'm really curious about what your Life Experience has been...Married, Divorced, had kids, changed careers, moved, lost parents, etc?

I feel like those factors guide our true attractions to other people. It's not just a Boner Test.... If you've never been a parent, or married, it's easier to look at a VYW in a sexual light. But if you raised some daughters it's a totally different feeling, trust me.

I had a bad experience in high school with younger girls. Hence, I looked for older , more mature women who wouldn't be so inconsistent and immature. Even now when I look at women in their 20's social media, their lack of perspective is a boner killer.

When you find a woman that UNDERSTANDS you and where you have been in life, she goes up a few notches on the scale, even if she is a little lower on the physical beauty scale. You won't understand it ,till it happens for you.

I appreciate your input. It would take time to answer your question. Give me a few days and I'll come back to this.

 

[Plinco]

Yup agree on this here.

18-24 - They are at the peak of their SMV ..... BUT man are they boring and useless with no life experience and nothing to talk about ..... just tell them to STFU and suck you off. Awesome sex and that's it.

24-30 - Still really good sex but now there's some brains and conversational points and these women can make some very good exit strategy wifes for anyone looking to settle down - there isn't a tonne of sexual and relationship damage to deal with if the partner count is low.

30-35 - hitting the wall some are still very good looking but many are looking for a beta chump to settle down with and very argumentative. There will be a rare few that may have been an AFC earlier in life and now are blossoming (you find one of these they can become a very good friend/lover)

This thread goes to show that everyone has different perspectives and values.

 

[rjc149]

Girls who are 18 and 19 are more eager to please in the bedroom

I'm also 37 years old.

Personally, I think men my age pursuing girls in that age bracket 18-21 is creepy and immature. 18? Macking on girls 2 decades younger than you? Come on dude.

There's going to be the typical dipsh!t PUA/red pill outrage that college girls are fair game to middle-aged men and that "age is just a number" and that "alpha males go for what they want" blah blah blah. Men in their late 30's should not be pursuing college girls. It's not age-appropriate behavior, and there's an epidemic these days of men refusing to grow the fvck up and act like men. It's called Peter Pan Syndrome. Grown-ass men in their 30's dressing up for Halloween and going out partying with kids a decade younger. It's a problem.

If one falls in your lap, fine (highly, highly unlikely to happen). But if you're pushing 40 and you're out at college bars and parties trying to run game at teen girls, that's pathetic. And people will think you're creepy. Including the girls you're hitting on.

There's an old adage -- half your age plus 7. So at 37, your dating pool is 25 and up. For me, I don't relate to women under 30 and in the few instances where I've taken a 20-something home after 35, I had little interest in texting her again. Women in their early-mid 30's are beautiful to me. Maybe their physical appearance doesn't have the raw sexiness that women in the bloom of youth have, but neither does yours.

 

[rjc149]

In the southeast where I live all the women 30+ are divorced, most always single moms (many by multiple dads), hate men, extremely high standards, not willing to please your wants and needs only care about their own, they don’t make good partners so LTR are very hard to make work with them.

I think you need to move the fvck out of the south, Robert. No idea why anyone would want to live down there.

 

[Robert28]

I think you need to move the fvck out of the south, Robert. No idea why anyone would want to live down there.

Cheap, good weather, politics. That’s basically it to be honest. That’s why I’m limited to where I’d want to move to. I’d love to have the options of a city with women but don’t want the politics.

 

[rjc149]

Cheap, good weather, politics. That’s basically it to be honest. That’s why I’m limited to where I’d want to move to. I’d love to have the options of a city with women but don’t want the politics.

Cheap. That's about it. You get what you pay for.

Also big portions at restaurants. That's a plus.

 

[Robert28]

Cheap. That's about it. You get what you pay for.

True but I just can’t handle the politics that’s rampant up north. I won’t pay those insane taxes either.

 

[rjc149]

True but I just can’t handle the politics that’s rampant up north. I won’t pay those insane taxes either.

You'd be surprised to know that most of the north is rural redneck MAGA country, like it is down south. Drive 45 minutes west of NYC, everyone's dressed in camo and blaze orange. Only the cities are liberal.

 

[Robert28]

You'd be surprised to know that most of the north is rural redneck MAGA country, like it is down south. Drive 45 minutes west of NYC, everyone's dressed in camo and blaze orange. Only the cities are liberal.

I’d still be running into the same problems there as I am here, limited number of dateable women in a small town.

 

[zinc4]

Cheap. That's about it. You get what you pay for.

Also big portions at restaurants. That's a plus.

There are some good southern cities like Charleston, Nashville, Atlanta, Savannah ect. I grew up in the country out in rural Georgia 20 minutes driving from the nearest city/town. We lived on 50 acres of beautiful hilly countryside and had to make pur own ways to have fun.. I wouldnt trade that experience for anything honestly. It is just tough for dating though unless you are in a good social circle.

 

[Plinco]

I'm also 37 years old.

Personally, I think men my age pursuing girls in that age bracket 18-21 is creepy and immature. 18? Macking on girls 2 decades younger than you? Come on dude.

There's going to be the typical dipsh!t PUA/red pill outrage that college girls are fair game to middle-aged men and that "age is just a number" and that "alpha males go for what they want" blah blah blah. Men in their late 30's should not be pursuing college girls. It's not age-appropriate behavior, and there's an epidemic these days of men refusing to grow the fvck up and act like men. It's called Peter Pan Syndrome. Grown-ass men in their 30's dressing up for Halloween and going out partying with kids a decade younger. It's a problem.

If one falls in your lap, fine (highly, highly unlikely to happen). But if you're pushing 40 and you're out at college bars and parties trying to run game at teen girls, that's pathetic. And people will think you're creepy. Including the girls you're hitting on.

There's an old adage -- half your age plus 7. So at 37, your dating pool is 25 and up. For me, I don't relate to women under 30 and in the few instances where I've taken a 20-something home after 35, I had little interest in texting her again. Women in their early-mid 30's are beautiful to me. Maybe their physical appearance doesn't have the raw sexiness that women in the bloom of youth have, but neither does yours.

That's an interesting viewpoint. I will address that also