jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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Background: recently got out of another relationship of about 2 years. After dating a few women in the past two months, I met this girl that I really hit if off with. She is gorgeous, successful and we have EVERYTHING in common.
First date I had to try to end the date with her numerous times (always try to end it first and on a high note) but she was having such a good time she stayed until the place closed. We made out at her car. I made a semi joke about us likely taking our profiles off the web soon since we had hit it off so well. Sure enough, she called me a few days later and asked me how serious I was about that. So she and I agreed to take our profiles off and date exclusively.
Second date was the same, the place closed on us. She is very attractive and successful, so she gets a lot of guys chasing her, including high status guys (we met on an elite dating site). She mentioned that some guy she had given her number to before meeting me said he owns a private jet and he wants to fly to see her, but she told me that she told him she is seeing someone right now (me, since we are exclusive). Of course you know I rarely initiate texts or calls. That has worked out well since she actually told me about a guy who had called and texted her constantly before.
She still initiates most texts and calls, sometimes days apart since I don't text her, as if she is waiting to see if I will text her but then texts me because I didn't, tries to get me to call her but I rarely do, I only initiate some texts to balance things out and show her some interest. Third date was even more amazing, we acted basically like a couple, lot's of us holding and hugging, kissing, holding each other, holding hands, walking arm in arm, etc. She initiated the kiss good night that night. We were all over each other all night, talking and acting like a couple. When I told her if she ever asks me if she looks fat in a dress, I told her the answer will always be no. She said, well now I know how my man will answer. Those kind of little comments. Also, she's a bit traditional....she's a traditional Asian chic.
So the next day she suddenly invites me out, likely because we had such a great time the night before, to go hiking with her. She was already out hiking. I was kind of busy so I didn't say yes but I didn't say no since I didn't want to reject her taking the initiative. So she said she was already wrapping up, I made a joke about her needing the workout (she doesn't, she is super petite, lol) and she typed an all caps LOL....
Here's the thing. On our last date, I got her to agree to cook me dinner at her place. She asked me if I like X food, I said I do. But I'm wondering if I should SKIP a date with her this upcoming week so as to:
-Leave her a little uncertain as to how I feel about her. We are dating exclusively per her wish, but I think it might be good to send mixed signals here as Bobby Rio and other gurus note, that she needs to have things to analyze about you with her girlfriends (is he really not that into me?) etc. It will help keep me on her mind, which I know is happening because she has told me she keeps thinking about me all day on numerous occasions.
-Let the attraction grow more in space (this has worked well by no texting or calling her, and limiting conversations with her when she initiates, just talking long enough to flirt and set a new date, etc.)
-Give her the gift of missing me. As they say, women fall in love in space, not in person. It's when they are replaying your dates and conversations over and over again that they fall for you.
-Be unpredictable. Not be available EVERY week.
-Let my unavailability create scarcity, which builds attraction.
-Leaves her wanting more, anticipating our next date, which every guru from David D to Bobby Rio and beyond has said, the anticipation is what builds attraction.
-Conveys lack of neediness
-Takes two steps forward, one step back (David D). For example you advance with a girl, kissing, etc. then pull back. Then when you advance again you go a little further. The idea being that she wonders why you stopped, you didn't overstay your welcome, and she wants more and thus is more receptive to your next advance, etc.
So what say ye, skip a week? Or follow up on her cooking us dinner at her place this week?
Also, she's clearly very interested, and I've been doing things right with her to date, which is different for me, because most girls I date, we usually have sex the first or second date, but we have not slept together yet, which is different for me, as almost every girl I sleep with converts to a gf right away. So not having slept together yet and having only dated for, almost a month makes it weird for me, as I'm still on guard.
But her approaching me about my comments and asking how serious I was about taking our profiles down, and her wanting to date exclusively was pretty interesting to me. I don't recall a woman I had not slept with ever doing that so quickly. Thing is, we act like we're in a relationship and my friends say she clearly wants that with me but that I'm sending her mixed signals and I'm not picking up on her cues like "now I know how my man will answer when I ask", etc. I noted to her before that all the women I had dated before were the ones that broached the relationship with me, she was kind of like, what, that's the mans job. Anyways, although we are dating exclusively and not in a relationship (that I know of lol) it feels like it is one. Again, she moves slow when it comes to sex, because she wants to make sure we really like each other for each other and not just the bond that is chemically created from sex.
In any case, I think we have enough of a rythm/bond that skipping a week shouldn't cause her to lose interest, if anything I think it will help keep things from getting stale.
First date I had to try to end the date with her numerous times (always try to end it first and on a high note) but she was having such a good time she stayed until the place closed. We made out at her car. I made a semi joke about us likely taking our profiles off the web soon since we had hit it off so well. Sure enough, she called me a few days later and asked me how serious I was about that. So she and I agreed to take our profiles off and date exclusively.
Second date was the same, the place closed on us. She is very attractive and successful, so she gets a lot of guys chasing her, including high status guys (we met on an elite dating site). She mentioned that some guy she had given her number to before meeting me said he owns a private jet and he wants to fly to see her, but she told me that she told him she is seeing someone right now (me, since we are exclusive). Of course you know I rarely initiate texts or calls. That has worked out well since she actually told me about a guy who had called and texted her constantly before.
She still initiates most texts and calls, sometimes days apart since I don't text her, as if she is waiting to see if I will text her but then texts me because I didn't, tries to get me to call her but I rarely do, I only initiate some texts to balance things out and show her some interest. Third date was even more amazing, we acted basically like a couple, lot's of us holding and hugging, kissing, holding each other, holding hands, walking arm in arm, etc. She initiated the kiss good night that night. We were all over each other all night, talking and acting like a couple. When I told her if she ever asks me if she looks fat in a dress, I told her the answer will always be no. She said, well now I know how my man will answer. Those kind of little comments. Also, she's a bit traditional....she's a traditional Asian chic.
So the next day she suddenly invites me out, likely because we had such a great time the night before, to go hiking with her. She was already out hiking. I was kind of busy so I didn't say yes but I didn't say no since I didn't want to reject her taking the initiative. So she said she was already wrapping up, I made a joke about her needing the workout (she doesn't, she is super petite, lol) and she typed an all caps LOL....
Here's the thing. On our last date, I got her to agree to cook me dinner at her place. She asked me if I like X food, I said I do. But I'm wondering if I should SKIP a date with her this upcoming week so as to:
-Leave her a little uncertain as to how I feel about her. We are dating exclusively per her wish, but I think it might be good to send mixed signals here as Bobby Rio and other gurus note, that she needs to have things to analyze about you with her girlfriends (is he really not that into me?) etc. It will help keep me on her mind, which I know is happening because she has told me she keeps thinking about me all day on numerous occasions.
-Let the attraction grow more in space (this has worked well by no texting or calling her, and limiting conversations with her when she initiates, just talking long enough to flirt and set a new date, etc.)
-Give her the gift of missing me. As they say, women fall in love in space, not in person. It's when they are replaying your dates and conversations over and over again that they fall for you.
-Be unpredictable. Not be available EVERY week.
-Let my unavailability create scarcity, which builds attraction.
-Leaves her wanting more, anticipating our next date, which every guru from David D to Bobby Rio and beyond has said, the anticipation is what builds attraction.
-Conveys lack of neediness
-Takes two steps forward, one step back (David D). For example you advance with a girl, kissing, etc. then pull back. Then when you advance again you go a little further. The idea being that she wonders why you stopped, you didn't overstay your welcome, and she wants more and thus is more receptive to your next advance, etc.
So what say ye, skip a week? Or follow up on her cooking us dinner at her place this week?
Also, she's clearly very interested, and I've been doing things right with her to date, which is different for me, because most girls I date, we usually have sex the first or second date, but we have not slept together yet, which is different for me, as almost every girl I sleep with converts to a gf right away. So not having slept together yet and having only dated for, almost a month makes it weird for me, as I'm still on guard.
But her approaching me about my comments and asking how serious I was about taking our profiles down, and her wanting to date exclusively was pretty interesting to me. I don't recall a woman I had not slept with ever doing that so quickly. Thing is, we act like we're in a relationship and my friends say she clearly wants that with me but that I'm sending her mixed signals and I'm not picking up on her cues like "now I know how my man will answer when I ask", etc. I noted to her before that all the women I had dated before were the ones that broached the relationship with me, she was kind of like, what, that's the mans job. Anyways, although we are dating exclusively and not in a relationship (that I know of lol) it feels like it is one. Again, she moves slow when it comes to sex, because she wants to make sure we really like each other for each other and not just the bond that is chemically created from sex.
In any case, I think we have enough of a rythm/bond that skipping a week shouldn't cause her to lose interest, if anything I think it will help keep things from getting stale.
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