The Master Key to Success with Women

[Atom Smasher]

There exists one Master Key that opens the door to success with women. One solitary thing you can do to turn your miserable “luck” around and start achieving tangible, measurable success.

I’ve mentioned it many times before. It goes over literally 99% of men’s heads, because it is non-intuitive and on the surface it appears counter-productive.

It has the power to turn a man from being invisible to beautiful women into a man who is compelling to them. It requires so very little of you, yet you cannot imagine yourself doing it. Hence, you struggle year after year and try all sorts of tired theories here in SS and elsewhere.

“Do looks matter?”
“How often should I text her?”
“How do I cold approach?”
“What cologne should I use?”
“Do you think this woman likes me?”
“Why are women flaking on me?”

On and on the questions roll through our minds like fast-moving clouds rolling across the sky. Year after year goes by and still we find ourselves baffled by women. We think they are incomprehensible. Trust me, guys. They are very comprehensible.

Some of you have come across the previous ramblings of one Atom Smasher. Hey, the old guy occasionally comes up with a good point or two, so he’s usually worth a read. But perhaps he’s a bit out of touch.

Your old Uncle Atom started out here clueless about women. Literally clueless. Confused and hopeless. But gradually I put the principles taught here into practice and eliminated my problems with attraction.

During that time I stumbled upon a principle that was completely non-intuitive. It wasn’t taught anywhere with any degree of seriousness. I stumbled upon it by my deciding to experiment and go completely opposite conventional wisdom. When I did, I immediately became mega-attractive to a high percentage women. QUALITY women.

If someone told a person 200 years ago (when I was but a child) that if you split unstable atoms you can start a chain reaction that can blow up a city, they would regard you as insane. This is because their learning up until that point prevented their even entertaining the possibility that this could be true. It would be “common sense” to “know” that there was no power in a tiny atom.

But early in the last century, Einstein and Oppenheimer and others discovered the Master Key to unlocking the fearsome power of the atom.

Allow me a moment to take my Geritol and get back on track here…

Now then, back to my point. I stumbled upon the Master Key to POWER with women somewhere around 2015 or so. I have mentioned it here in recent years, but it is received as too far-fetched, too “out there” to gain traction. The power of this principle is enormous, but the community is simply not ready for it. Once men adopt this principle en masse, our entire societal structure will change for the better. I’m sensing a change in the wind where some men are beginning to discover and accept this principle.

i have laid the Master Key out here before, many times, but as I mentioned, it flies right over the heads of most. It is too simple, and it appears to go against the laws of attraction. Yet in actual practice, it generates massive attraction from females, for it feeds them that which they absolutely crave, although they are completely blind to this craving. Read what I just said again. If you could have the power to give women what they unknowingly crave, would you be interested?

My goodness! All this typing has worn me out and I must go and rest. Too bad. I was going to spell it out for you here. Darn the luck!

Though I’m writing a bit tongue-in-cheek here to amuse myself, guys, if only you would put it into practice. Maybe one of you will state my principle here, or maybe this post will die a quick death. Adopt this principle and women will find you irresistible. You won’t be worried about whether looks matter anymore. What you need are balls and an all-in IDGAF attitude. Still, it’s very easy to do.

Anyone want to venture a guess as to what Master Key I’m referring to? I’m mildly curious as to whether this discovery of mine has resonated with anyone at all. I see so much suffering here on SS with so many men and it really does pain me to see it because I dealt with that pain for most of my life. I found a way out of the pain, and I have always desired to share how to get out of .

Since this key of mine had the power to turn this absolute loser around to become a winner with women, it might be worth some consideration. It’s so simple and so POWERFUL, and so do-able if only you will accept it. When more men wake up and put it into practice, not only will their personal lives turn around, but our entire very sick society will benefit as male/female relations skew closer to normalcy.

 

[The Diver]

Anyone want to venture a guess as to what Master Key I’m referring to

Hold women accountable for their bad behavior !

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

A purpose focused attitude to the point of almost being exclusively unavailable

 

[CoandaEffect]

The key to success with women is to recognize that it’s a numbers game. Try, try and try some more. Learn from your mistakes and learn to accept rejection and keep going.

“Never, never, never give up! Winston Churchill

 

[metalwater]

I always try to drum into you guys that you must be superior to women in order to attract them, but it's seemingly impossible for the majority of men to accept this. That's nothing more than residue from their feminized education and upbringing. Women crave correction and authority from a man whom they consider superior to them, but most of you will reject that idea.

You must internalize that YOU are the authority, that YOU are the disciplinarian, and leader. But a leader also serves whom he is leading and sacrifices for whom he is leading. The rewards are great for the man who learns this. Woman go crazy over such a man.

I used to be an invisible nothing to most women. Now I know what it's like for women to be pestered by admirers all day because I go through the same thing. I go out and I just don't want to engage. Why do I have this "problem"? Because I radiate kingship and authority. Why do I radiate this, when I used to be a nothing, a zero? Because I have embraced my authority and superiority.

Women are the embodiment of chaos. You can have the keys to the kingdom when you recognize this and contrast that nature against your own God-given expectation of authority. The way to start is to stop being afraid to offend women. Once you lose that fear, you start to calibrate and you start to learn how to become a King whom women flock to, because of their own need for guidance and authority.

The paradox is that as an authoritative leader, you also become a servant and protector, and you recognize that sacrifice is part of being an actualized man. You find yourself becoming friendly and well-liked, but also slightly feared and definitely respected.

All of life is paradox.

How does a zero become someone who is bothered by women vying for his attention when he just goes to the grocery store? He accepts his God-given mission of being an authority and leader to women, and he loses all fear of offending them.

In the end, it's what you PROJECT that is what makes women FEEL. Women's feminist tendencies melt away in the presence of such a man. They adopt a pseudo-feminism in life because they are trapped in a complex social web and they must survive there. A man who is outside the confining, suffocating web is her ticket to freedom.

I sure know how to go off on tangents, don't I? But perhaps there's a nugget of truth here.

 

[RangerMIke]

(1) Be the best version of yourself possible.
(2) Try to make dates.
(3) Screen out women that don't really want you.

The biggest problem I see with some men here is that they are not willing to put effort on themselves and spend to much time chasing after chicks that are not really interested in them.

 

[Barrister]

(1) Be the best version of yourself possible.
(2) Try to make dates.
(3) Screen out women that don't really want you.

The biggest problem I see with some men here is that they are not willing to put effort on themselves and spend to much time chasing after chicks that are not really interested in them.

To piggyback off your first point - they don’t spend time on making themselves into the best versions of themselves that they can and make endless excuses for why that can’t happen.

Also - some men are just flat out scared to deal with women and see an insult in every action (or inaction) that women make. You need a short term memory in dating and always have a IDGAF attitude no matter what happens.

 

[RangerMIke]

Being a man means you are busting your @ss everyday to be better. Sorry if you think you can kick back and relax. You can't. Always be learning, always be improving. Plenty or time or rest in the grave.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Being direct is the key. Not rambling like OP. Thumbs down

 

[Robert28]

The key to success with women is not playing the game. Don’t think that because you may not be successful with women that means you aren’t successful at all. Took me YEARS to realize that. Let women do what they do with someone else, let them sleep around and get knocked up and struggle in life, let them make their own bad decisions that they’ll pay for for years to come. That’s not your problem. You only can worry about you in this life. Don’t be any woman’s friend either.

 

[Barrister]

I just asked my brother about this who follows the same eastern and Buddhist philosophies I do.

His response was there is no master or "magic key" to success with women, that once you learn to "let go" and detach from believing there is and develop faith and trust in yourself, love yourself first before any woman, THAT is when you will become successful.

You may not end up with the woman of your dreams if she even exists but that does not necessarily mean you were "unsuccessful."

Success is a state of mind and if you maintain a positive successful frame, you will achieve success, whatever success means to you.

You (or your brother) basically just restated what Atom has actually said in previous posts. That is the whole point. The less you care about how women think of you and the more you lead ("faith and trust in yourself" as you put it), the more success you stand to have. Frankly, this can be extended to almost all facets of life and not just dating. Whether you want to frame that as the "key" to success with women or not is purely subjective.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Ability to walk away -- forever.

 

[Atom Smasher]

All good responses. But here is the magic key to the kingdom, the key that opens up the floodgates:

Judge them, and let them know they're being judged.

That's it. So simple yet so effective. You let them know in a self-amused, light-hearted way unless they act like brats, in which case you display disdain.

When I stopped caring about being transactionally "nice" and reversed my attitude to one of judgement, I was even shocked myself at how things turned around. Men resist this idea of jedgment like the plague, and I'mm telling you guys, this is the very thing women crave. They deperately desire to be able to look up to their man.

Men always seem to reject the idea because it's already hard enough to garner attraction, and they figure they will blow it if they start acting the way I recommend. In addition, we don't treat each other (man-to-man) so overtly judgmentally. Thirdly, we have all grown up with Hollywood and Disney shoving that self-depreciating gallantry down our throats.

Think about these two scenarios... The average guy (even red-piller) works to please and impress the ladies. He is greatly tempted to compliment her on her beauty. He does "cold approaches" which usually boil down to telegraphing that he's "all-in" and he is waiting for her acceptance or rejection of him. He hands her 100% of the power.

Now look at your pal Atom Smasher. He starts to talk to a lady while leaning away from her, with his skeptical arms folded. He is immediately telegraphing that he is judging her. He conveys the attitude that he is willing to extend a certain baseline of politeness and friendliness to her, but he is clearly cautiosly evaluating her and she knows it. For perhaps the first time in her life, she finds the script has been flipped and this guy isn't falling at her feet. This shakes her confidence and confuses her. It's doesn't make sense. She finds herself starting to qualify herself. And she can't help but feel at the very least intrigued, but most of the time, massively attracted.

The idea here is to be friendly and have fun, but to PROJECT that you are above her. You should be convinced of your superiority and it should be as obvious to you as the fact that the sky is blue. A total buy-in to your own magnificense relative to her.

Now I know that many of you are picturing being a flaming a-hole. This couldn't be farther from the truth. You're friendly and fun, yet firm and most definitely "unconvinced" as to her suitability. It's a nuanced thing that is difficult to articulate in writing. You question what she says in a fun way. You purposely and humorously misinterpet what she says. You give her VERY MILD put-downs like "Wow, I'm sure you make a lot of friends with that attitude"... stuff like that. Fun but with an edge. Ideally you want to mix up friendliness with some judemental projections verbally and with body language. She will regard you as mysterious, incomprehensible, edgy, confusing, and attractive.

Try that, or just let this message fade away to your detriment. Life is a game, an experiment, so have fun with it. The only thing most of yu have to lose is the girl you would have lost with your politeness and appeasing behavior anyway. If you're going to lose, lose her with the upper hand. But in reality, you will find that although you might lose a few here and there, you will gain far more than you ever did before.

Hold them accountable, hold their feet to the fire, and require respect. Your life will change; I guarantee it. If it worked for me, a completely clueless loser with women, it will work for most of you.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Thanks for sharing @Atom Smasher

 

[Barrister]

Think about these two scenarios... The average guy (even red-piller) works to please and impress the ladies. He is greatly tempted to compliment her on her beauty. He does "cold approaches" which usually boil down to telegraphing that he's "all-in" and he is waiting for her acceptance or rejection of him. He hands her 100% of the power.

Good stuff, @Atom Smasher. The above though I want to comment on. It is unavoidable that to some extent the man has to show interest in the woman at the onset. Most women, especially hot women, are not going to ever initiate the man first. Sure, it can happen but only in very rare instances. The man must show his hand to an extent to prove he is interested first. However, you can certainly cold approach a woman and let her know you are interested without doing so in an "all-in"/beta manner that you are going to do her bidding no matter the cost just so you can get in her pants. Nor do I think cold-approaching "hands 100% of the power" to the woman. The truth is if she isn't interested she will make that clear. Most women are generally impressed with a well executed (read: suave) cold approach and it will raise their interest because it shows you have balls.

 

[BadBoy89]

Judge them, and let them know they're being judged.

I was going to say “be 6’1 with a full head of hair”.

Thats good, but would that work in 2021? I think anything a man says to any young hot girl in 2021 that’s remotely annoying, offensive, not politically correct, or slightly masculine, and he will be crucified.

Went out with a decent looking 27 year old. She wanted to get a nutritionist herbal degree or something and start working at 31. I said “at your age you should start thinking about marriage and kids.” She said “that’s offensive“. Date was done about 95 seconds after.

Went out another decent looking girl. She said her mom doesn’t want get to eat a lot because she will gain weight. I said “yes mother’s aren’t like that their boys, they are sometimes like that with their girls.” DESTROYED. Date was done fast.

I’ve judged a few girls here and there and a lot of the have looked at me as “wow, wow, wow. wow.” Not the “wow” I’m turned on but the “wow” how dare you say something that judges me.

Now maybe they didn’t like my look why they lashed out but still, wasn’t pretty.

 

[2Rocky]

You know AS, every time I've had a woman approach me first, or express attraction, I was always doing something else. I was at the venue with another group, I had focus on something else. She had to COMPETE for my attention....or at least thought she did.

And those are the women who put out on the first date, accepted my frame and were overall more fun to be with..

Set the Stage...I'd just finished a hot sweaty run that started and finished at a local pub. My endorphins were high and I think I had a T-spike from the exertion. I had a basketball game to get to so I changed quickly in the bathroom back into street clothes. No shower, wiping off sweat with a clean dry t-shirt. Slapped on some pit stick deodorant but still residually sweaty. Make it to the game after it had started and brought my basketball player home after. Called ahead to the Restaurant and order a couple of Burgers to go as we get on the road. So to be clear I was not particularly clean and showered....

Arrive at the restaurant (where I had done the same thing the week before). Hit the restroom then go sit at the bar portion. One of the 2 waitresses I recognized from the week prior. Her colleague Was WAAAAY hotter though.
They both greeted me as I sat down and I told them I had a To-Go order. They asked my name and I told them, and the Hot colleague brought over the order, apologizing that the to go containers might tip over in the bag. I joked that "I had very high expectations and I might need to...." ( I was going to say "get your number" but I halted myself)

She quickly said "but if there are any problems, just call and tell them it was Emily" ( I was pretty sure Emily was the girl from last week. So I smirked and raised an eyebrow)
I replied with :
"Hey, Emily is my A-Team. She always takes care of me....nothing against the B-Team, if you want to try out for the A-Team"
I was in full DILLIGAF ( Do I look Like I give a ****) mode. Hot Colleague laughed and went on about her work commenting that she had never heard the reference to "B-Team". I think she wasn't used to guys not kissing her ass. I wasn't discounting her so much as shining a light on Emily, her workmate. She had to prove herself.

I settled my tab with Emily as Hot Colleague worked her way around towards my path of exit. As I grabbed my bag to go she made eye contact as she walked my way and said " If you do need anything my name is Candice." I took a step or two her direction and threw out my left arm in the universal "Hug-it-out" gesture and she put an ample breast into my chest and hugged me. I thanked her by name and left while keeping eye contact. My only intent was to keep a flirty intrigue. I'm not going to go back there to ask her out. But I maintained a base line of physical greeting in a more or less platonic situation. I kept the mood light, and friendly. It was encouraging to have a woman at work return the banter and I think it helped her set a good mood that would result in better tips for her down the road. Total time of interaction? 5-10 minutes..

I've noticed at places where I flirt with the female help, without overtly trying to pick up, I get better service and Huge social proof. Women notice, when other women notice you...

 

[Barrister]

I was going to say “be 6’1 with a full head of hair”.

Thats good, but would that work in 2021? I think anything a man says to any young hot girl in 2021 that’s remotely annoying, offensive, not politically correct, or slightly masculine, and he will be crucified.

Went out with a decent looking 27 year old. She wanted to get a nutritionist herbal degree or something and start working at 31. I said “at your age you should start thinking about marriage and kids.” She said “that’s offensive“. Date was done about 95 seconds after.

Went out another decent looking girl. She said her mom doesn’t want get to eat a lot because she will gain weight. I said “yes mother’s aren’t like that their boys, they are sometimes like that with their girls.” DESTROYED. Date was done fast.

I’ve judged a few girls here and there and a lot of the have looked at me as “wow, wow, wow. wow.” Not the “wow” I’m turned on but the “wow” how dare you say something that judges me.

Now maybe they didn’t like my look why they lashed out but still, wasn’t pretty.

Sounds like you delivered these lines with all of the grace of a sledge hammer or battle axe. You can be aloof and playful while still showing you are the leader without being an a$$. Nor do I think that what you did is at all what Atom was suggesting to do.

 

[Fruitbat]

It’s something to do with magnets I think

 

[Atom Smasher]

Sorry about my spelling in that last one, guys. I’m on my phone and I’m used to being able to go back in and fix errors at will when I was moderating.

I can’t stress strongly enough that you guys should have fun with it and try it. Some of you will be pretty much immediately calibrated while others may need to find the correct level. As long as you’re being fun and polite while maintaining that “people don’t f with me” edge, you should be in the ballpark. NEVER be all-in with her at first. You are currently assessing her suitability to be in your life or not.

I thought of another example. If she fishes for a compliment, instead of getting all sing-songy in your voice and reassuring her, shrug your shoulders, continue what you’re doing, and give a little verbal “hmm”. Let her know that you’re not really impressed with her yet, though you’re giving her a chance to impress you. You don’t verbalize this. It’s the attitude. The attitude to convey is a non-committal “Meh”. Then a bit later mention something nice about her (never about her looks though). This is push- pull brought to the nuclear level.