Reattracting ex?

buddhafukko

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I know the motto of "one chance per person per lifetime", but I've had several rekindled LTRs with ex-GFs from my highschool years, a decade later. In all those cases, I ended up ending the relationships after recognizing they weren't the quality of females I wanted. I think a large part of that is I allowed them to do the pursuing, instead of being a man and choosing and pursuing the women I want.

I still think fondly of a certain girl I dated a few years ago when I was down on my game . Compared to 99% of the females I meet she was pretty close to unicorn. She initiated with me for years but I really was non-committal and preoccupied, and eventually it faded and I made little attempt to keep her. SInce then I've improved myself enormously, financially, physically, all around. I wonder if it's worth trying to rekindle something with her or it's a waste of time. It's one of those situations were is she "could see me now" she would be really impressed. Truth is, she was really into me when I was going through a pretty bad patch.
 

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Good advice, I need to forget her. It's a odd case because we never broke up it just fizzled out. I guess in the end it's the same as rejection.
 

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If you dumped, then you've got nothing to lose. Shoot a text message and see if she wants to meet up. If she dumped you then she has to reach out.
 

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In their absence, we tend to allow the positives to outweigh the negatives (I've recycled several women from the past). If it fizzled and there was no drama, then there's no crime in shooting a casual text and seeing how she responds.

buddhafukko
Thought you might get a kick out of this posting.
 
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mrskinnypantz

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Going back to an ex puts you in a weak position unless she initiates it.
she’s probably gonna think you’re desperate and couldn’t find anyone else and she’s the hottest girl you had .
this is not the ideal mindframe you want her in
Maybe you can try an indirect way, hanging out with friends and other girls and post it on your social media if she follows you.
 

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In my experience, the only way to get your ex back is by not doing anything at all. You need her to come back on her own which gives you the power. If you contact her, she has the power and is calling the shots. Also, if you contact her, your chances of getting her back are slim.

Just move on with your life and try to forget her.
 

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Advanced game. Just text her out of the blue “checking in on her.” Shoot the ****. Then ghost. See if she hits you up. Rinse and repeat in a few months.
 

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In my experience, the only way to get your ex back is by not doing anything at all. You need her to come back on her own which gives you the power. If you contact her, she has the power and is calling the shots. Also, if you contact her, your chances of getting her back are slim.

Just move on with your life and try to forget her.
Real sh1t bro , 100% .
The only way you get an ex back is if she feel like she fvcked up ,she gotta come back and suck some d1ck bro, all night.
Hunnid per cent .
 

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I know the motto of "one chance per person per lifetime", but I've had several rekindled LTRs with ex-GFs from my highschool years, a decade later. In all those cases, I ended up ending the relationships after recognizing they weren't the quality of females I wanted. I think a large part of that is I allowed them to do the pursuing, instead of being a man and choosing and pursuing the women I want.

I still think fondly of a certain girl I dated a few years ago when I was down on my game . Compared to 99% of the females I meet she was pretty close to unicorn. She initiated with me for years but I really was non-committal and preoccupied, and eventually it faded and I made little attempt to keep her. SInce then I've improved myself enormously, financially, physically, all around. I wonder if it's worth trying to rekindle something with her or it's a waste of time. It's one of those situations were is she "could see me now" she would be really impressed. Truth is, she was really into me when I was going through a pretty bad patch.
Never attempt to bring the garbage back into the house once you've placed it outside to be picked up. Did it twice in my life, after the sex, it was a mistake and we went out separate ways. Believe it or not, both reached out again, I ghosted. It just didn't feel right and I felt I was being used just for sex.
 

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You are only considering this because you have no other options. You need to spin more plates.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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