Dad is a coward loser

[Lordeterra]

Idk what to do. He’s the kind of guy that will backstab me in order to gain the approval of others. He has no spine and takes zero responsibility for his actions. He has no money in his bank account and got duped into marrying a forty year old woman after my mom died and got tricked into having two kids with her even when he’s 60. She only married him cause her time was running out and he’s ****ing stupid to take the bait. Everywhere he goes he’s looking for other peoples approval and self qualifies to the point of pathetic ness. He is the typical beta male: I’m worried he’ll ****ing backstab me because he’s the type of man that will to look good I’m the eyes of others. So gullible. What would you guys do in my situation?

 

[Billtx49]

What would I do ? Nothing.
He’s in his 60’s, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks…

 

[AttackFormation]

Move out if you can mate, one of the best things ive done in my life. If youre already out then just stop talking to him.

 

[Lordeterra]

Look at this ****. How the **** am I supposed to look ul
To this coward. You should see some of the **** he does and says

 

[Lordeterra]

Move out if you can mate, one of the best things ive done in my life. If youre already out then just stop talking to him.

Im moved out. Im just paranoid he’ll ****ing backstab me

 

[Lordeterra]

I’m cutting t

When another man loses his integrity, honor and class you have lost nothing.

Unless you get sucked into his world. Then you have lost it all.

I’m cutting ties with him permanently. I just know for a fact when I become wildly successful he’ll say some **** to my enemies to **** me over. Honestly I wish he was ****ing dead and I’d be so happy if he was I hate cowards and weak ass ****ers

 

[SW15]

@Lordeterra -- I would not be motivated to have any contact with him.

You mentioned that he is a beta male and that's he's 60. This is common. There were a lot of Boomer beta males that set a bad example for their Millennial generation sons. Being a beta male as a Boomer wasn't as bad for one's sex life as being a Millennial beta male.

 

[bat soup]

If I were you I'd avoid getting involved and give him advice only if he asks. Otherwise you're going to just ruin your relationship with your father and you don't know how much longer he'll be around.

 

[Serenity]

Coming from someone who has a problematic parent, your rage is completely wasted.

The angrier his existence makes you, the more it dominates your life. For every second you spend being angry at him you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to make yourself and your life positive and great.

I spent a couple of years trying to make my mother into a better person before I realized it was just slowly driving me insane. It's not my fvcking problem, it never was. I'm an adult free to live my life the way I want, what my parents do has no bearing on my life, they have about as much power as any other random person.

I have also been worried about backstabbing and other threats, but then I realized that anyone who actually sides with her are my enemy too. Nothing worth fighting for or win the approval from, they can believe what they want and hate my guts for all I care, I continue doing what gives me energy rather than takes it away.

He is insignificant to you when you decide that he is. Entertain what is of value to you and turn a blind eye to the negative. There's true power in having the ability to simply walk away and do something better with your time, not even giving a response.

Fighting it is a waste of time, what's in it for you anyways? If he's even half as bad as you say then in my opinion it's not much to warrant inflicting this amount of frustration upon yourself.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Idk what to do. He’s the kind of guy that will backstab me in order to gain the approval of others. He has no spine and takes zero responsibility for his actions. He has no money in his bank account and got duped into marrying a forty year old woman after my mom died and got tricked into having two kids with her even when he’s 60. She only married him cause her time was running out and he’s ****ing stupid to take the bait. Everywhere he goes he’s looking for other peoples approval and self qualifies to the point of pathetic ness. He is the typical beta male: I’m worried he’ll ****ing backstab me because he’s the type of man that will to look good I’m the eyes of others. So gullible. What would you guys do in my situation?

Cut off the connection with him. It is as "simple" as that. You cannot allow to have negative people impacting your life, not even the closest family. Toxic people that doesn´t support you has to go.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Coming from someone who has a problematic parent, your rage is completely wasted.

The angrier his existence makes you, the more it dominates your life. For every second you spend being angry at him you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to make yourself and your life positive and great.

I spent a couple of years trying to make my mother into a better person before I realized it was just slowly driving me insane. It's not my fvcking problem, it never was. I'm an adult free to live my life the way I want, what my parents do has no bearing on my life, they have about as much power as any other random person.

I have also been worried about backstabbing and other threats, but then I realized that anyone who actually sides with her are my enemy too. Nothing worth fighting for or win the approval from, they can believe what they want and hate my guts for all I care, I continue doing what gives me energy rather than takes it away.

He is insignificant to you when you decide that he is. Entertain what is of value to you and turn a blind eye to the negative. There's true power in having the ability to simply walk away and do something better with your time, not even giving a response.

Fighting it is a waste of time, what's in it for you anyways? If he's even half as bad as you say then in my opinion it's not much to warrant inflicting this amount of frustration upon yourself.

Ye I agree; the best is just to move on with your life and let the past be past. For your own sanity and happiness.

And never seek approval from your parents. They are nothing special, they are people just like yourself. Not gods and goddesses with special abilities.

Instead; Seek approval in yourself in that you go after what you want in your life and once you reach those goals - be fvcking proud of yourself and acknowledge that. That's all you need.

No other people´s approval e.g. "Son I'm proud of you". (which is one of the biggest mistake you can do in your life because your can spend a life time to get it.)