Gym Pickups---A good small move to start

[oc16]

I know this topic has probably been beaten to death; but I will make a comment anyway.

IMHO, gym pickups are awkward and tough (unless in a class setting) since most of the women out on the floor are all sweaty, have head phones in and/or are there to workout. Besides that, what in the heck do you talk about, comment on if you were to try a gym pickup (Please don't say her form or what she is wearing).

Anyway, today there was this girl there who I have noticed checking me out in the past (not so much today) and she came over to the free weight section when I was there. Now this could be total coincidence and she really needed to workout a body part over there. It also could of been because I was there and she was using the "proximity" move hoping I would talk to her.

She then moved a little closer to where I was to work on her abs. Unfortunately, I could of walked by her on my way to the water fountain, but the space was too narrow and it would of looked awkward. I also did not want to make eye contact with her through the mirror reflection.

I think a good thing to do is just try and establish eye contact (if you happen to walk by her or be in her area) and then shoot her a little smile. This shows her that you are friendly and find her attractive (at least that is the message you hope she gets). Again, this can be tough as well since she has to be going in your opposite direction or be in your direct proximity.

Remember, you will see this person multiple times so there is no need to jump the gun and get the number. You want to slowly built a rapport with her and make her comfortable.

I always said to myself "Why can't we run into these women outside the gym shortly thereafter at a store, etc. There you have your icebreaker which is not awkward "Hey, don't you go to my gym" or "You go to the same gym as me".

What do you guys think?

 

[sangheilios]

I'm a regular gym goer and have been very into training for years. I personally have approached several times and have countless male-female interactions in this environment, so I have a lot I can add to this.

In regards to my own personal experiences, they were all ultimately bad experiences that were heavily the fault of the female side. Without getting into details, the primary issue was simply running into more extreme cases of attention *****s that had bad social skills. The most important thing is learning how to cut these women off early on and not allow them to get too personal with you, as with this environment you are likely to see her there regularly and will want to move on with your life.

For instance, I had one that asked me out after a couple interactions and we made plans to met up later, to which she flaked and ghosted. Anyway, months later I found out this woman led on tons of men on the regular and had a new bf on a monthly basis. The issue was I allowed these red flags to become a bit ignored because she was very hot and I wanted to maintain a chance at her *****.

I had another one that I approached who always made eye contact with me, the interaction was awkward but I went for a number close and she said she had a bf.....to which I said "nice to meet you". This woman would go out of her way to approach me, flirt, smile, etc. Anyway, this went on for a couple months and I tried again, to which she rejected and had no idea why this was happening lol. This was a simple case of an attention ***** with really bad social skills. In a situation like this when she started flirting or approach a simple "why are you talking to me, didn't you say you had a bf?" and then go about your business.

You can approach and meet women at the gym, in fact I think it is relatively easy because there are so many easy means of opening. For instance, I asked this woman if she was done with this lifting platform and I made some comment about the exercise she was doing and just asked her some questions about it. I wasn't interested in going beyond this, but in this given situation it would be very easy to build the conversation from there and create some rapport with one another. Just learn to spot attention *****s and cut them off or avoid them all together.

 

[cola]

I’m against gym pickups, unless you are getting strong undeniable IOIs. Gym, work & funerals are three places where you need to focus and not worry about p*ssy. Gains at the gym, lays at the bar after the gym.

 

[rjc149]

Gym game needs to focus on making friends with girls first and building a social circle at the gym, not approaching with sexual intent. Girls are there to work out, not get picked up.

 

[Robert28]

I'm a regular gym goer and have been very into training for years. I personally have approached several times and have countless male-female interactions in this environment, so I have a lot I can add to this.

In regards to my own personal experiences, they were all ultimately bad experiences that were heavily the fault of the female side. Without getting into details, the primary issue was simply running into more extreme cases of attention *****s that had bad social skills. The most important thing is learning how to cut these women off early on and not allow them to get too personal with you, as with this environment you are likely to see her there regularly and will want to move on with your life.

For instance, I had one that asked me out after a couple interactions and we made plans to met up later, to which she flaked and ghosted. Anyway, months later I found out this woman led on tons of men on the regular and had a new bf on a monthly basis. The issue was I allowed these red flags to become a bit ignored because she was very hot and I wanted to maintain a chance at her *****.

I had another one that I approached who always made eye contact with me, the interaction was awkward but I went for a number close and she said she had a bf.....to which I said "nice to meet you". This woman would go out of her way to approach me, flirt, smile, etc. Anyway, this went on for a couple months and I tried again, to which she rejected and had no idea why this was happening lol. This was a simple case of an attention ***** with really bad social skills. In a situation like this when she started flirting or approach a simple "why are you talking to me, didn't you say you had a bf?" and then go about your business.

You can approach and meet women at the gym, in fact I think it is relatively easy because there are so many easy means of opening. For instance, I asked this woman if she was done with this lifting platform and I made some comment about the exercise she was doing and just asked her some questions about it. I wasn't interested in going beyond this, but in this given situation it would be very easy to build the conversation from there and create some rapport with one another. Just learn to spot attention *****s and cut them off or avoid them all together.

The second girl always makes me wonder just how the hell the boyfriend managed to become the boyfriend. How do you even lock down an attention *****? What makes him so special I wonder? He must not workout otherwise he’d be at the gym. The first girl I bet lost a bunch of weight, became hot and now is basking in all the free attention she never got.

 

[sangheilios]

The second girl always makes me wonder just how the hell the boyfriend managed to become the boyfriend. How do you even lock down an attention *****? What makes him so special I wonder? He must not workout otherwise he’d be at the gym. The first girl I bet lost a bunch of weight, became hot and now is basking in all the free attention she never got.

I forgot to include this in my post, but she never had a boyfriend and was just an attention ***** with really really bad social skills, I confirmed this when someone showed me her instagram. When I asked her out the 2nd time she literally had no clue what was going on lol. I remember crossing paths with her and just saying hi to her and she awkwardly stared at me as a means to show she didn't want to talk anymore haha. Crazy part was this was not a kid in high school but was a woman in her mid 20s......let that sink in for a minute.

I've actually posted a couple threads about the first girl, it was roughly when I first joined this site. She was literally just bat **** crazy, literally her entire existence revolved around how much attention she could garner, particularly from men.

There is legitimately something very off with women who behave like this, albeit these are more extreme examples but they do in fact exist and are relatively common. I personally feel that some of this behavior is part of female nature, to some extent, but social media and the current social environment/culture has encouraged it to become out of control. There really isn't any reason to dig into why these women are this way, as you'll literally drive yourself insane trying to decipher the behavior literally mentally ill people. All a man needs to know is how to spot these women early on, have the capacity to be objective with the reality they are facing and from there being able to cut them off and not allow them into your life. This can be challenging because often times these women are very attractive and it becomes easy to overlook red flags and delude yourself into believing that you are special or different, when the reality is she is doing this same thing with a dozen other men in that given week. The fact that this behavior is so relatively common shows that there are tons of men who enable these women by acting as orbiters.

I will say this, it kind of blows my mind that these women aren't stalked or physically or sexually assaulted by the men they are toying with.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Gym is a good place to take her, not meet her

 

[evan12]

IMHO, gym pickups are awkward and tough (unless in a class setting) since most of the women out on the floor are all sweaty, have head phones in and/or are there to workout. Besides that, what in the heck do you talk about, comment on if you were to try a gym pickup (Please don't say her form or what she is wearing).

This is women narrative when they asked by men, in fact gym is one of the best places (after workplace) to find a partner. women will be open for the one they want , just test the water first and dont move fast. especially women who are in weights area, these are the one who are most open to new offers. and 50% of them are looking left and right for possible mate.

 

[oc16]

I saw the cute girl from the gym today. I was working on chest exercises and she was in the cardio area but she was later on the mat where you can do your own thing. I was done with my workout, but I said the heck with it and went over to where she was to do some plank work. It's the only area in the gym to do this stuff, so It didn't look weird to me.

I saw her get up, while I was still on the mat (taking a quick break) and I looked up at her and smiled and she gave me a friendly smile back. I was going to say something to her (perhaps I should have) but it's a start for sure.

I am 44 (look mid to late 30's) but I cannot tell her age. She can be anywhere from 25 to early 30's. She's a solid 7

 

[HaleyBaron]

Just don't try to pick up at the gym. Forget it. It's desperate and it looks bad on guys in general. Gym workout is one of those **** tests most women know they have when they enter a co ed place where everyone is muscled up and half dressed. You use it to work and gtfo of there. You don't pay a monthly fee to pick up girls.

 

[oc16]

Just don't try to pick up at the gym. Forget it. It's desperate and it looks bad on guys in general. Gym workout is one of those **** tests most women know they have when they enter a co ed place where everyone is muscled up and half dressed. You use it to work and gtfo of there. You don't pay a monthly fee to pick up girls.

No harm no foul my friend. I broke the ice (well sort of). I will continue to go about my business and not follow her around of course.

If she is interested, "she will find me" and put herself in my proximity.

I've seen this girl looking in my direction before.

 

[bat soup]

I know this topic has probably been beaten to death; but I will make a comment anyway.

IMHO, gym pickups are awkward and tough (unless in a class setting) since most of the women out on the floor are all sweaty, have head phones in and/or are there to workout. Besides that, what in the heck do you talk about, comment on if you were to try a gym pickup (Please don't say her form or what she is wearing).

Anyway, today there was this girl there who I have noticed checking me out in the past (not so much today) and she came over to the free weight section when I was there. Now this could be total coincidence and she really needed to workout a body part over there. It also could of been because I was there and she was using the "proximity" move hoping I would talk to her.

She then moved a little closer to where I was to work on her abs. Unfortunately, I could of walked by her on my way to the water fountain, but the space was too narrow and it would of looked awkward. I also did not want to make eye contact with her through the mirror reflection.

I think a good thing to do is just try and establish eye contact (if you happen to walk by her or be in her area) and then shoot her a little smile. This shows her that you are friendly and find her attractive (at least that is the message you hope she gets). Again, this can be tough as well since she has to be going in your opposite direction or be in your direct proximity.

Remember, you will see this person multiple times so there is no need to jump the gun and get the number. You want to slowly built a rapport with her and make her comfortable.

I always said to myself "Why can't we run into these women outside the gym shortly thereafter at a store, etc. There you have your icebreaker which is not awkward "Hey, don't you go to my gym" or "You go to the same gym as me".

What do you guys think?

If a girl looks friendly, you can ask her a question and start a conversation that way. For example, ask her "Is that machine working?" and then continue the conversation if she seems amenable. If she gives you a biatch face then you can just move on and forget about her.

 

[lando92]

I've been back in the gym about 4 months now. Working wonders and I'm almost at the stage where I'm 100% content with my physical appearance.

There's a load of hot chick's at my gym, majority are always there with guys but there's this one chick I've noticed a few times over the last month or so, she always comes in alone (we're often there at the same time weekday evenings)

It's a busy gym and we've never crossed paths properly in there, but the other day I was in one of the side rooms working abs and she came in alone, as she was setting up to do yoga (I think) she turned to me and gave me a real nice smile, I had headphones in and was mid set so I just kinda smiled back at her and that was that. Part of me wishes I'd had said hi at this point.

I wanna escalate with this chick and want to try and start a chat at some point, but as has previously been discussed here, difficult to know what to talk about. I think next time I see her I'll just give her a friendly smile in passing and see how she acts.

Any tips from anyone are very much welcomed

Thanks,
S

 

[SargeMaximus]

Fvck no. If I approach a girl and she rejects me I don’t want to ever see her again. Can’t be done if We both keep returning to the place we both met

 

[AttackFormation]

Ive cold approached IIRC three times at the gym.

#1 - Had a boyfriend. We stumbled into each other at least a year later on a train, and she showed me the instagram post she'd made that day to commemorate being approached. That's when i saw her boyfriend was included in the post so it wasnt fake.

#2 - I dont remember, but she also had a boyfriend like #1.

#3 - Giggled next to me when we were both leaving the gym, i took it as an IOI because of how blatant it seemed. I talked to her later, added her on facebook, and after a brief exchange she said she had a boyfriend. I still have her on facebook and have never seen any indication of any boyfriend. I think she just had an impulse to get validation from me and it worked, but then she had to get rid of me somehow. She suggested to my acquaintance that they could go and fvck in the restroom and apparently kept talking and flirting with him, but unlike me, he didnt want her.

In my opinion, gyms are a horrible environment to meet women in because of: their extremely bad gender ratios, the lack of natural reason to socialise, the ear phones they wear, and their stone cold expressions. BUT, it always depends more on how hot women think you are than which environment you are in. If women see a guy they think is hot enough, they will be more open and flirty with him whether it's in the gym or on Pluto.

 

[oc16]

I've been back in the gym about 4 months now. Working wonders and I'm almost at the stage where I'm 100% content with my physical appearance.

There's a load of hot chick's at my gym, majority are always there with guys but there's this one chick I've noticed a few times over the last month or so, she always comes in alone (we're often there at the same time weekday evenings)

It's a busy gym and we've never crossed paths properly in there, but the other day I was in one of the side rooms working abs and she came in alone, as she was setting up to do yoga (I think) she turned to me and gave me a real nice smile, I had headphones in and was mid set so I just kinda smiled back at her and that was that. Part of me wishes I'd had said hi at this point.

I wanna escalate with this chick and want to try and start a chat at some point, but as has previously been discussed here, difficult to know what to talk about. I think next time I see her I'll just give her a friendly smile in passing and see how she acts.

Any tips from anyone are very much welcomed

Thanks,
S

Take it from an older guy (44), if a woman smiles at you like that and she's not in some sort of customer service role, you are in!

She smiled at you because she likes what she sees. I don't know how old you are but when I was in my early 20s, I had low self esteem. If a cute chick smiled at me I would just say to myself "Oh, she's just being nice". Of course I was wrong.

Whatever you do, don't stare at her through the mirror or talk about her technique. Next time you see her, make eye contact smile and say hello. No need to rush things with a convo because you will see her again.

 

[AttackFormation]

Take it from an older guy (44), if a woman smiles at you like that and she's not in some sort of customer service role, you are in!

She smiled at you because she likes what she sees. I don't know how old you are but when I was in my early 20s, I had low self esteem. If a cute chick smiled at me I would just say to myself "Oh, she's just being nice". Of course I was wrong.

Whatever you do, don't stare at her through the mirror or talk about her technique. Next time you see her, make eye contact smile and say hello. No need to rush things with a convo because you will see her again.

She could just be after his validation and/or have some sort of personality disorder, but he wont know until he tries.

 

[lando92]

Take it from an older guy (44), if a woman smiles at you like that and she's not in some sort of customer service role, you are in!

She smiled at you because she likes what she sees. I don't know how old you are but when I was in my early 20s, I had low self esteem. If a cute chick smiled at me I would just say to myself "Oh, she's just being nice". Of course I was wrong.

Whatever you do, don't stare at her through the mirror or talk about her technique. Next time you see her, make eye contact smile and say hello. No need to rush things with a convo because you will see her again.

Appreciate the response!
I'm 28, similar to yourself in your younger years, I don't have great self esteem at the moment either but we're getting back on track.

That was my exact initial reaction, shes probably just being nice as I was the only other person in that bit of the gym at the time. After all, I know nothing about her, not sure how old she is but considering she's in the gym alone multiple evenings each week leads me to believe she's likely single.

I'm sure I'll see her in there again one evening next week so if the opportunity is to present itself, I'll give her a smile and some eye contact. Will keep you posted.

 

[oc16]

Appreciate the response!
I'm 28, similar to yourself in your younger years, I don't have great self esteem at the moment either but we're getting back on track.

That was my exact initial reaction, shes probably just being nice as I was the only other person in that bit of the gym at the time. After all, I know nothing about her, not sure how old she is but considering she's in the gym alone multiple evenings each week leads me to believe she's likely single.

I'm sure I'll see her in there again one evening next week so if the opportunity is to present itself, I'll give her a smile and some eye contact. Will keep you posted.

I guess sometimes women will smile just to be friendly and it has nothing to do with how attractive she sees you. However, if you were fat or some guy in his 50's, she probably wouldn't have smiled.

 

[oc16]

If she smiles at you, it's on. If you don't approach you seriously need to grow a pair. A smile means "come talk to me"
But even if she smiles, you do the approach, it doesn't mean it's gonna work. Gotta try.
Personally I'm not into gym pickup but if she sends IOIs I will approach, without IOIs I'm not gonna do anything.

In this situation I agree with you, but the other day I was in a Parking garage paying at the machine. A woman comes through the door (Pretty hot, dressed for work..high heels and all) I look up, We make eye contact and she gives me a smile. I said "Good Morning" and she said Good Morning back and she was on her way out the other door. In that case, it could just of been a friendly smile.