I thought I passed this **** test

[SargeMaximus]

So I was chatting with a girl online. I was telling her how I went to IHOP and got a breakfast and etc. Anyhow she says “wow that’s a good deal, good job” so I figured she was testing to try and put me in a submissive frame so I said “It’s not a job but ok” then she goes “Lmaooooo ok”

So I go “what’s so funny?”

And she goes “nothing” “but you aren’t a vibe” “nice chatting to you” “Bye”

So I blocked her.

Should I have been more direct and said something like “I’m not a puppy dog” or what happened here?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You really need to stop trying to find "tests" or "traps" all the time. They happen, but thinking that every situation that comes up is one will only hurt you in the long run.

Didn't read that as a sh!t test...read it as a disinterested response to a throwaway message that didn't really provide any value.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You really need to stop trying to find "tests" or "traps" all the time. They happen, but thinking that every situation that comes up is one will only hurt you in the long run.

Didn't read that as a sh!t test...read it as a disinterested response to a throwaway message that didn't really provide any value.

Ah fair, thank you

 

[Robert28]

If some girl told me “you aren’t a vibe” I wouldn’t know wtf she meant.lol

 

[SargeMaximus]

If some girl told me “you aren’t a vibe” I wouldn’t know wtf she meant.lol

Yeah I dunno I just assume it means we got no chemistry in her opinion.

And to be fair I just realized I should have gone for the meet instead of conversation route. Still making that mistake

 

[Glassguy]

This chick didn't seem like she was ever really interested. She sure will take that free attention.....aka "chatting". That's what women do and that's what they like. They will chat with anyone that will listen.

After the "lmao....ok" I would have left her on read. She is showing her lack of respect, lack of maturity or both. Neither are for me to respond to....

Most of what men think are shyte tests on sosuave are not really shyte tests. They are actions of disinterest.

Shyte tests come when a woman is on the fence about you and they want you to disqualify yourself and make it easy for them by you not handling it correctly.
The best way to respond to a shyte test text is to not respond. Leave them on read. If they never reach out, who cares. They weren't that interested. If they are interested, they will come screaming back and have more respect and attraction than before.

Women soaking up free attention with no desire to meet up turn into little b!tches and victims when you call them out on it. Best to just not call them out in it or respond back. Just leave them on read and delete.

You're non response is a response.

 

[SargeMaximus]

This chick didn't seem like she was ever really interested. She sure will take that free attention.....aka "chatting". That's what women do and that's what they like. They will chat with anyone that will listen.

After the "lmao....ok" I would have left her on read. She is showing her lack of respect, lack of maturity or both. Neither are for me to respond to....

Most of what men think are shyte tests on sosuave are not really shyte tests. They are actions of disinterest.

Shyte tests come when a woman is on the fence about you and they want you to disqualify yourself and make it easy for them by you not handling it correctly.
The best way to respond to a shyte test text is to not respond. Leave them on read. If they never reach out, who cares. They weren't that interested. If they are interested, they will come screaming back and have more respect and attraction than before.

Women soaking up free attention with no desire to meet up turn into little b!tches and victims when you call them out on it. Best to just not call them out in it or respond back. Just leave them on read and delete.

You're non response is a response.

Thank you, very practical and easy to
Do.

 

[Tilex]

That wasn't even remotely a test. Good Lord!
You'll know when someone is testing you by the way they annihilate the conversation.
In a normal conversation, you don't need to worry about who is dominant and who is submissive.
People that try to analyze every word in every conversation give off a creepy vibe. Some chicks do this too!

When it comes to conversations with people whether it's by phone, text, or in the flesh, there needs to be a flow that goes back n forth naturally like a volley.

 

[SargeMaximus]

autism

And? I hope you’re not being a discriminatory P.O.S.

 

[SargeMaximus]

It means even if we help you with this one, tomorrow there will be another misunderstanding. Copying this group isn't going to help you as much as addressing the underlying factor.

I disagree. As I said, I’ve been tested for autism and don’t actually have it. And I’ve had sex with many women over the last few years since losing my V when I was 28.

I’ve come a long way and I don’t need to address a disability I don’t have. I do need to understand things differently than most because I’m more cerebral. But I was able to do that and get laid like crazy.

It does seem that you however are either too hateful or too inexperienced to help me at the angle I understand things

 

[Stoic]

It seems like she made an innocent comment and you took it the worse possible way by becoming defensive and insecure.

My advice is to not look for slights and disrespectful behavior when it isn't even there. Work on becoming unflappable and keeping your composure. Best of luck.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Didn't read that as a sh!t test...read it as a disinterested response to a throwaway message that didn't really provide any value.

It seems like she made an innocent comment and you took it the worse possible way by becoming defensive and insecure.

My advice is to not look for slights and disrespectful behavior when it isn't even there. Work on becoming unflappable and keeping your composure. Best of luck.

Agreed , case closed

 

[rjc149]

Pretty straightforward what happened here.

You are chatting with a chick online (never a good idea, close for a meeting ASAP) but instead of flirting, you’re telling her about what you had for breakfast.

Quite understandably, this was a conversation that wasn’t remotely interesting to her, and she communicated that. You’re another stranger online trying to get into her pants. She doesn’t owe you any courtesy if you’re fvcking up.

Because you are insecure, you took offense to that, thinking it was a personal insult, and got butthurt.

Now realizing you’re an insecure guy who can’t hold an interesting conversation, she ejected.

Not to be harsh, but this is what happened.

Don’t chat online. Ask her out as soon as an opportunity presents itself.

Don’t react to her. Don’t assume she’s testing you.

I would have responded “eating pancakes is my jerrrb” or something. It doesn’t matter if it’s witty or funny. It’s silly and playful, non-reactive, and shows that you’re secure and can laugh at yourself. It shows that hanging out with you is going to be easy and could be pretty fun.

You don’t maintain dominant frame by reacting to her “tests.” You do it by not reacting.