On the way to improve myself

[powersize]

Today I read @darksprezzatura threat about his path of self improvement and the way how he found his purpose and worked his way with girls which motivated me to have the same diary.

My background:

I am 7-8 HB, 27yo 6'0, 187 lbs and shredded. I am bald guy with beard, kinda viking style. I hit the gym 3 times a week, do no smoke, have my diet and do not drink on a regular basis. I have a white-collar work in a bank, earn above average than people in my country and in general worked my ass from the ground all the way up where I am now which took me 4 years since I moved to this country.

My current status - no plates, no options. My mind is kinda fuked up after the last chick with the constant roller coaster of being thinking about her all the time and having my mind focused on other things during a single day.

Areas to work on:

My purpose:

• Progress in my career by learning coding: VBA, Python, than Machine Learning. I have tons of courses ready but did not dedicate enough time on it in the last month.
• Start investing. I am currently have some decent amount of money stuck on my save account. I know the inflation kills it and I need to start investing at least small amount of money on ETF or stuff like that.
• Try again my small e-commerce business. I have tried to launch some small business on Amazon but after a couple of months stopped working on it.

My body:

• Continue hitting the gym on a regular basis
• Improve my endurance by running more miles
• Gain up to 10 lbs and maintain low body fat

My mind:

• Increase the level of self esteem
• Always put myself first
• Develop the ultimate abundance mentality

My social circles:

• Extend my professional network
• Have multiple groups of friends who do different stuff: party circle, chill circle, activities circle and etc

My dates:

• Approach pretty much every decent looking girl on a regular basis and have that number game until I develop the proper social circles
• Start dating multiple women

My style:

• Get a couple of new shirts
• Consider getting a badass tattoo

Wish me luck!

 

[darksprezzatura]

Thread you referenced.

Being consistent and sticking to an ever evolving plan is key.

(1.01)^365=37.78

Daily improvements compound exponentially not linearly.

Hope to read more posts from you about your growth here than problems about individual women.

I know you'll slay, king.

Good luck.

 

[Black Widow Void]

On your list of self-improvements is...
Getting a "badass tattoo"?
If you have to billboard yourself in effort to project some "badass' image, then you're actually conveying the opposite.

As I've said before... you won't find bumper stickers on a Bentley.

 

[powersize]

On your list of self-improvements is...
Getting a "badass tattoo"?
If you have to billboard yourself in effort to project some "badass' image, then you're actually conveying the opposite.

As I've said before... you won't find bumper stickers on a Bentley.

Just a thought man. I have been thinking about The Rock style tattoo on the shoulder which would not be super visible under T-shirt

 

[lost_blackbird]

Tattoos are cool! I have loads because I like them, not because I care what others think. Each of mine
has a meaning to it or a story behind it. Go for it if that's what you want to do! Just choose wisely, I've seen
a lot of people make tattoo mistakes over the years.

 

[powersize]

Week 1

Respect is all!

My purpose 8/10:

• Spent all my free time after work on studying coding. 1 hours, 2 hours, 40 min… it does not matter. The most important is to keep it consistent and take more time or repeating and understanding the concepts. I know that in a long term this knowledge can move my career on a new level.
• Started learning Spanish

My body 9/10:

• This week I spent extra 10 min running which totaled in 30 min. Does not sounds like a huge progress but it feels good to set some small goals and achieve them.
• Since the beginning of summer lost 14 lbs. Does not have that belly fat anymore. Continue to focus on my abs, shoulders and arms.
• Bought ashwagandha supplement to boost my testosterone level a bit. Curious if I will feel any results after couple of weeks.
• Was thinking to make a testosterone level test out of curiosity.

My mind 7/10:

• Every morning I write 10 good thinks about myself and repeat them during the day. Wanna boost my self esteem by doing this and learn by heart my value.
• Rereading Book of Pook, like the part that testosterone this is the think that makes us man and that we should maintain it higher level. Never be that Nice Guy, follow your instincts, be the Man, accept, learn from yours mistakes and move on as a better man.
• My mind is getting cleaner, I think less about the last girl. I am the great catch, and every women will dream to be a part of my life.
• I do not wanna chase women again. I will demand respect and will walk away every time when I do not like how they behave. It is their loss if they miss me.

My social circles 8/10:

• Started socializing at the gym. Now 3 girls always say hi to me, met a cool guy there, exchanged our contacts and maybe will meet later next week somewhere. Met another cool guy at work, also gonna meet somewhere later as well.
• It appeared to be quite easy to meet new people. You just need to come, say something funny, and bam, you have a new guy you just met.
• Respect is all works also with your friends. Last weekend wanted to meet with a friend, he flaked and played busy - yesterday he texted me and wanted to meet - I payed him with the same card.
• Visited my old friends in another city, went on party and spent a quality time together.

My dating 5/10:

• Approached around 10 girls on the street and at the gym, with half did not even ask for the number. Was hard for me at the beginning to escalate the topic to what is your number, let’s meet on the weekend and stuff like that. Half of them were below 6 once I came closer - no regret.
• Got 1 number on Thursday, will text tonight and will see if she is cool to meet up.
• Initiated the contact with the last chick from my work, played it funny and cool all the time, escalated topic to let’s come to my place again, she said she is gonna think about it, cause I fuked up our last time. I played it cool. Asked to send me a video cause the goes on vocation. Sent later another message as a reminder which she ignored - done with that girl. I am the great catch, you should jump to my place when I am free and ask you. Respect is all guys. I will find 5 better girls instead of her

My style 9/10:

• Bought a new shirt which suits really good on me. When I dress up I feel like a millionaire.
• Feel more mature and successful.
• Keep updating my wardrobe

I feel it is a marathon, every small step I do everyday makes me a better man. I am on my purpose, I have my plans, I am focused on myself.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

My buddy has the words "Am I Cool Now" across the upper back, fvcking legend

 

[Georgepithyou]

Its important to still have time for hobbies so you dont get burnt out while on self improvement, you can't work on your purpose all the time

 

[f(x)]

Good luck with the coding! Are you familiar with Git/GitHub? It’s kind of important, I think.

 

[powersize]

Its important to still have time for hobbies so you dont get burnt out while on self improvement, you can't work on your purpose all the time

This is the thing I need to work on. I do not have a lot of hobbies nowadays. I guess the best is just to get a list of potential interesting hobbies and try each.

 

[powersize]

Good luck with the coding! Are you familiar with Git/GitHub? It’s kind of important, I think.

Yes, one of the course i am studying is listed there. I am also frequent guest of StackOverflow

 

[derby1]

As I've said before... you won't find bumper stickers on a Bentley.

for women, not for men. women go wetter than a otters pocket for a guy with tatts

 

[Black Widow Void]

for women, not for men. women go wetter than a otters pocket for a guy with tatts

Getting 'gussied' up to attract the opposite sex was once the woman's job.

 

[derby1]

Getting 'gussied' up to attract the opposite sex was once the woman's job.

works first time everytime, instantly signals bad boy, if the guy is in shape its a wrap

 

[powersize]

A quick update:

My body:

• It is been a month since I started increasing my running intensity - so far I can run non stop 30 min with avg heart rate at 175 bps with peak at 193. Thinking about increasing the time again on 10 min in a couple of weeks.
• Started increasing lifting weights - can do 220 lbs bench press 2-3 sets 5-8 reps. I am 183 lbs now. The goal is no gain till 198 lbs so far
• Thinking about doing some boxing classes once per week - not sure if it will be enough
• The results of weight lifting and the supplement is significant - huge energy boost, my confidence increased, I feel like a fuking testosterone machine.

My purpose:

• Opened brokerage account for investing purposes
• Cleaning my old inventory on Amazon to start thinking about new business strategies
• Did not have a lot of time for my coding practice cause of busy work - need to catch up in the following days

My social circles:

• Got a new buddy at the gym - we plan to workout together. Cool guy who has the same believes as me
• Went with another dudes to club, was fun and wanna repeat again
• Keep socializing at the gym
• Also joining different meetings organized by FB groups but quite skeptical about audience there

My mind:

• The way how I feel myself the way how I behave makes me to feel that I have higher value than any of my male colleagues at work.
• I am truly believe I am the prize for any girl.
• Finished Book of Pook which gave me the idea of importance of the testosterone, finished The Unplugged Man, reading The Mystery Method.

My dating - still sucks.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

As I've said before... you won't find bumper stickers on a Bentley.

Amen to that.
These days you're more way more unique if you are a non tattooed skin.
Everyone has tattoos these days which ironically makes them just main stream and nothing special at all...
You're the cheap that follows the heard.

 

[powersize]

Been a while since no update.

My body 7/10:

For the last 2 months despite the fact that I did not gain any muscles I was able to develop more visible shoulders.

• Did 265 lbs on bench press for 2 dirty reps. After that I could press 220 lbs with 3 sets 6-10 reps.

My purpose 4/10:

Not enough time dedicated. Haven't started looking for new ideas for my Amazon business.

• Finished the major Python course. Started studying more subject specific courses.

My social circles 2/10:

Need to keep socializing and make more male friends. I am still relatively new in the city where I live - do not have a permanent group of friends to hangout with.

• Visited old friends 2 weeks ago in other city. Had good time partying.
• Met a couple of guys during that period. With one I keep contact.

My mind 5/10:

• Read Unplugged Man, Mystery Method, and Anti Dump Machine. I do not like the things Mystery was doing in his book - going and talking to every girl which shows neediness to me, but he had some interesting points on how to behave with a really hot women which I will use. Anti Dump was one of the best fields books I ever read. In fact I started ignoring chicks who flaked or rescheduled my dates.

My dating 2/10:

• I was retarded enough to try to resurrect things with that latina girl who originally fuked my mind up in early August. Things did not work and I still got the same result as before. But as a byproduct I got some sh1t that I tried to forget back again. Need to finally move on and ignore any of her possible future validation attempts.
• From the other side over the past 2 months I probably cold approached 10 - 20 people. Most of them flaked on my invite, some I did not close with number. But anyway I approached and learned stuff from it.

I was chasing my tail for the last 1 month instead of levelling up.

 

[powersize]

Update on my date life:
For the last 2 weeks I have been using OLD and some cold approach.

2 girls from cold approach:

1st black girl which I opened on the street with the weirdest opener ever (Some BS about her hair), had a date with her on Saturday night. progress.
2nd girl I met her at a coffee shop. She was sitting in front of me, we started to talk, got her contacts, was supposed to have a date with her yesterday but she texted last minute that she can’t with no counteroffer - no reply from my side. Dropped.

From OLD I have 5 girls I set date with:
with 1st one went on date last weekend - not bad, but when I reached her out next time she responded that she is not interested any more. Dropped.
2nd girl scheduled a date on Saturday - she replied that she was tired and no counteroffer. No reply from my side. Dropped.
3rd girl went on a date last Tuesday. Not bad. Yesterday texted her with the attend to set another date - lest me on read. Dropped.
4th girl - set a date on Friday night, last minute she texted that she has some problem with her friend and she needs to go to her immediately. She apologized and even sent me her picture with her having makeup. I said Text me when you wanna meet next time. I consider it as dropped as well.
5th girl have a potential date this Thursday. Not sure if she will not flake as other.

So in summary it were 2 flake weeks. Now I have 1 girl I had 1st date with and will try to set 2nd one this week and 1 potential date on Thursday.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I think you are trying to do too much at once , some of the stuff you have on your list isn't stuff that can be done half assed

Personally I would take some if not all of the focus off dating , women can be ruthless and they wont think twice about cancelling plans last minute

can definitely be demoralising and de motivating and if your not careful it will stunt the other areas of your development ( suspect it probably already is )

i have been giving women far too much attention and time the last few weeks nearly every other area of my life is now directly suffering as a result

it sounds great to say " oh yea im dating loads of women" but unless your Bruce Wayne the reality is it can consume your entire lifestyle , its expensive both financially and mentally

The swipe apps are also bad habits much like facebook and instagram .... i am finding myself spending valuable time swiping and trying to make interesting conversation most which leads to absolutely nothing

I estimate maybe 1 in 50 matches will transpire into anything if you are lucky

Would like to hear more about your online store ? ive built one myself got some traffic to it but converting to actual sales seems to be far more difficult than the YouTube gurus would want you to believe

 

[powersize]

I think you are trying to do too much at once , some of the stuff you have on your list isn't stuff that can be done half assed

Personally I would take some if not all of the focus off dating , women can be ruthless and they wont think twice about cancelling plans last minute

can definitely be demoralising and de motivating and if your not careful it will stunt the other areas of your development ( suspect it probably already is )

i have been giving women far too much attention and time the last few weeks nearly every other area of my life is now directly suffering as a result

it sounds great to say " oh yea im dating loads of women" but unless your Bruce Wayne the reality is it can consume your entire lifestyle , its expensive both financially and mentally

The swipe apps are also bad habits much like facebook and instagram .... i am finding myself spending valuable time swiping and trying to make interesting conversation most which leads to absolutely nothing

I estimate maybe 1 in 50 matches will transpire into anything if you are lucky

Would like to hear more about your online store ? ive built one myself got some traffic to it but converting to actual sales seems to be far more difficult than the YouTube gurus would want you to believe

Yeah man. It is a bit demoralizing. I have the same opinion for OLD and generally consider it a trash, but decided to give it a shot as a tool to build some rotation. Like you know - on the war all methods are good. But sometimes I just can’t understand the girls I am dealing with.

I am 27 good looking dude 184, 85 kg, hit the gym regularly, good work in a bank, study heavily and work my way into coding, have some decent money on my bank account, have long term goals and plans with my life. The girls who rejected, flaked or ghosted me are not dimes, I would rather put them on the same or below my level. The guys I see them with are not better than me, sometimes a complete opposite beta chumps with no muscles.

I have a feeling that I am too nice guy with them. All the rejections drive me towards being an arrogant mf who treat all girls like sh1t.