Girl who had been cheating on her boyfriend with me wants to "talk about how things are"?

[Sgthaytham]

I've been forced to create a new thread about this since the post I mentioned this has been hijacked by certain users.

Anyway, I cut contact with her a few weeks ago. No texting , no nothing.

A couple nights ago, I get a message from her asking if I was really leaving the country. I've resigned from work to be with my dad who has had a pretty serious motorbike accident back in France. He doesn't speak french.

I replied with a simple "Yup. Why do you care?"

Her at 11pm: "Do you have 2 minutes?" - I was asleep

Her at 2 am: "I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to bother you, I just want to talk about how things are. My door is always open, especially for you. Come whenever".

Her at 4am: "If you don't want to talk, at least let me know"

Now she's come to mine asking if we could go to the park... I'm going to have to cancel that now because my work colleagues want to see me one last time before I leave.

What do I do?

 

[AttackFormation]

Personally, i feel angry just from reading that this venomous chameleon wants to "talk". Why the fvck would i want to "talk" with her? it's demeaning and insulting, because it implies that she thinks youre both too stupid to see that she's a chameleon, and that you have no selfrespect and will behave like some sniveling orbiter to her. And then her provocative text at 4am to turn the tables on you, acting as if you are now causing some sort of problem, showing more of her manipulative chameleon side. Fvck off, really.

I dont know the backstory you have with this woman so i could only go on what you wrote. But personally, i would tell her something casual and simple like "nah it's all right" and leave it there. Then i would keep sticking to casual sex with her, if i ever did spend time on her.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Personally, i feel angry just from reading that this chameleon wants to "talk". Why the fvck would i want to "talk" with her? it's demeaning and insulting, because it implies that she thinks youre both too stupid to see that she's a chameleon, and that you have no selfrespect and will behave like some sniveling orbiter to her. And then her provocative text at 4am to turn the tables on you, acting as if you are now causing some sort of problem, showing more of her manipulative chameleon side. Fvck off, really.

I dont know the backstory you have with this woman so i could only go on what you wrote. But personally, i would tell her something casual and simple like "nah it's all right" and leave it there. Then i would keep sticking to casual sex with her, if i ever did spend time on her.

OK, I should have included that I majorly ****ed up with her by spreading private stuff to mutual friends.

Might as well see what she has to say. If it's nothing important then that'll be it.

 

[AttackFormation]

OK, I should have included that I majorly ****ed up with her by spreading private stuff to mutual friends.

Might as well see what she has to say. If it's nothing important then that'll be it.

Dude, what would she possibly have to "say"? is she your priest youre going to confession to? your mom who will comfort you like a toddler? she is just a chameleon you are hooking up with behind the fake mask of concern she is wearing. Her wanting to "talk" is ridiculous and treating you like an idiot.

Feelings are subjective and you certainly dont feel as strongly about it as i do. I think that's good, youll be fine whatever happens. Well, now ive said mine.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Dude, what would she possibly have to "say"? is she your priest youre going to confession to? your mom who will comfort you like a toddler? she is just a chameleon you are hooking up with behind the fake mask of concern she is wearing. Her wanting to "talk" is ridiculous and treating you like an idiot.

Feelings are subjective and you certainly dont feel as strongly about it as i do. I think that's good, youll be fine whatever happens. Well, now ive said mine.

That's the thing, I have no idea what she wants to talk about. So I will let her say her piece and take it from there. I don't see why that's make me a toddler or an idiot.

 

[Barrister]

Too much drama. Just next her and find some other plates - preferably ones without boyfriends.

 

[RangerMIke]

Too much drama. Just next her and find some other plates - preferably ones without boyfriends.

True... this doesn't sound fun at all.