No contact strategy

Shantaram

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So I went out with a girl and her friend and the trip ended up killing all her attraction. She's going away for a month, then coming back. Of course I'm dating other girls and improving my game. Just let me know what do you think about this as a tryout : I'll stop contact for the month (including watching IG stories and also posting myself) and near the date of her return post some high value posts like gym, guitar tricks, subtle cues with other women, etc
If she reaches out great, if not text her the same way as a dead number (open with something funny non related to previous history) any experience with this?
 

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Why bother with all that stuff? Cut your losses and move on.

Been in your shoes before and it doesn't work. You'll feel worse when it doesn't work out like you expect it too.
Hate to reinforce bad news, but mjb3617 is right. You'll end up feeling worse.

You'll probably try for it anyway (most of us do and don't listen the first go round on advice).
Here's how it will likely play out: The time that she's gone will feel like an eternity. During her absence, you'll fine-tune your game-plan toward her. When she's not receptive (I hope she will be, but it's highly unlikely) you'll not only feel similar defeat, but all the time you invested thinking about her will compound the frustration and pain.

At some point in life, most of us have already been there. I write in hopes that you don't make my mistakes, but I realize that you'll probably have to experience this on your own,
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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So I went out with a girl and her friend and the trip ended up killing all her attraction. She's going away for a month, then coming back. Of course I'm dating other girls and improving my game. Just let me know what do you think about this as a tryout : I'll stop contact for the month (including watching IG stories and also posting myself) and near the date of her return post some high value posts like gym, guitar tricks, subtle cues with other women, etc
If she reaches out great, if not text her the same way as a dead number (open with something funny non related to previous history) any experience with this?
why would you spend even one second of your precious time on such a low interest broad ?
 

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No contact is just as it states. No contact. Meaning you don’t contact her for a period of at least 60 days (preferably longer). There’s no strategy to it other than simply not initiating any conversation and not responding to her attempts to reach out to you in any form.
 

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So I went out with a girl and her friend and the trip ended up killing all her attraction. She's going away for a month, then coming back. Of course I'm dating other girls and improving my game. Just let me know what do you think about this as a tryout : I'll stop contact for the month (including watching IG stories and also posting myself) and near the date of her return post some high value posts like gym, guitar tricks, subtle cues with other women, etc
If she reaches out great, if not text her the same way as a dead number (open with something funny non related to previous history) any experience with this?
I wouldn't be trying to use social media to impress her. If you are going to post those type of things you would be better off posting things where she has to fill in the blank...ie, post a picture of you out somewhere with a picture of a beer and a martini and say something "What a great way to start a memorable night..." rather than you posting a picture of you with another woman...
 

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So I went out with a girl and her friend and the trip ended up killing all her attraction. She's going away for a month, then coming back. Of course I'm dating other girls and improving my game. Just let me know what do you think about this as a tryout : I'll stop contact for the month (including watching IG stories and also posting myself) and near the date of her return post some high value posts like gym, guitar tricks, subtle cues with other women, etc
If she reaches out great, if not text her the same way as a dead number (open with something funny non related to previous history) any experience with this?
I don't date nor do I do group hangs. It's just unnecessary rubbish I found that complicates logistics.
 
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