Don't want to text or speak with gf on her bday

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My standards don't accept someone acting like a total bytch just because she has a bad day. I don't accept being a punching bag and I also don't treat women like an emotional punching bag if I have a bad day.

Seems very reasonable. I guess we all have different standards on how we let other people treat us.
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No but see...I chalked it up as a bad day for her...hence I still wished her a happy bday.
The no response from her until today is what shows that she wasn't bleeding from her eye and was not in a good mood.

And if it was a harmless joke and I'm too sensitive. I did the same thing to her and she also didn't take it as a harmless "how do you do".
Prob. go radio silent until you hear from her again. Let her mind wonder.. She'll get the picture.
 

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I am not even sure what the picture is....
What is the picture?
The picture is she disrespected you and being silent and distant will cause her hamster to spin and think about what she did.

Silence and distance is the correct way to check a woman who disrespects you.

Repeated disrespecting and you make the silence and distance permanent.
 
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I mean, this seems a little much. She could have been just joking around and you are getting insanely butthurt over it.

Be careful how much you push her, women have orbiters all over.
 

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Well....not that it's that important....
She keeps calling. Three times a day. I don't answer.
Today she finally texted....she said...why don't I answer. If I don't want to hear from her, just to tell her, but don't ignore her. Its Bad manners...
 

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This is a bunch of petty bs, all around including the girlfriend.
 

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I'm just showing an example of how NC works sometimes.
It's not a lay report or something awesome.
Just a NC Field report I guess.
So the lesser "endowed" can see that it's effective.
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Here's the thing....
I called her today...she answers with "speak..."
I'm like...are you my secretary?
How about you answer with "hello"
Or "hi, what's up"
That's not a very nice way to answer the phone....she hangs up.
Whatever...time of the month, stress, puppy got run over....who knows...
Her bday is tomorrow....I had a plan...but now I don't even want to text her happy bday.
Perhaps, she got too comfortable with you. Never let women get comfortable.

Part of setting a strong frame is indirectly letting her know her disrespect has consequences and, like her, you have a line of girls you can hit up.

Cut contact, withdraw your attention, let her deal with whatever she is dealing with, and hopefully she misses you. If she doesn't then it is someone else's turn. Move on.

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I called her today...she answers with "speak..."

To that, I'll say, " look like you're not in a good mood; call me when you calm down", and go silent until she calls back.

You portray that this kind of attitude from her is unacceptable while remaining calm and hold your frame strong.
 
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