I got caught cheating..

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Been in a relationship for a year and got caught cheating. My girl is a fantastic girlfriend. Super affectionate, sex was amazing, supported me and everything I did always wanted to be around me. Her family told her i was a POS and she chose to not believe them and picked me over them.

long story short she found a condom wrapper and everything basically went down hill.

the reason I went off and had secks with another chick was cause stuff was getting kinda dry in bed for us.. we weren’t having secks as often and she would always get late off work cause she works long shift. We weren’t as intimate and afectionate anymore…

But I feel like I really lost a legit girl… is their any hope she’ll come back? She found out yesterday.

i know most of you alphbots will say NEXT..
 

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The short answer is that she won't come back.

The upside on this is that the relationship was likely falling apart anyway. Almost all relationships are transient and this one was about to run its course. When sex frequency, intimacy, and affection drop, that's a bad sign.

The whole thing can hurt emotionally and it would be normal to feel things.
 

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Some drop off in sex is expected in any LTR over the course of time. But if it was bad enough that you had to look elsewhere to get sex then your relationship wasn’t all that you were acting like it was. So change was on the horizon one way or another. You just expedited the change by cheating.

At this point I would just own it and move on for good. You have sex coming from another source that will help with the transition. Just do not segue that into another LTR because that will fail very quickly. Get other chicks in the picture.
 

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Been in a relationship for a year and got caught cheating. My girl is a fantastic girlfriend. Super affectionate, sex was amazing, supported me and everything I did always wanted to be around me. Her family told her i was a POS and she chose to not believe them and picked me over them.

long story short she found a condom wrapper and everything basically went down hill.

the reason I went off and had secks with another chick was cause stuff was getting kinda dry in bed for us.. we weren’t having secks as often and she would always get late off work cause she works long shift. We weren’t as intimate and afectionate anymore…

But I feel like I really lost a legit girl… is their any hope she’ll come back? She found out yesterday.

i know most of you alphbots will say NEXT..
"alphbots" thats funny.

The veil is pulled back now. Neither of you can think or know you are in dreamland. If she really wants you she will try harder to guard the leash. If not really, the drama will grow and you or her will next.

It is different for you if it was a one-time release or an ongoing relationship. One time, no big deal for you, on going is a bigger part of your focus and your chances of a return to the old way are much less.

As a side note, unless working on a business together haveing an LTR that works hard and into the evenings sets her mind up to be independent and the romance will usually fall away and after that the relationship unless the man wakes up. 90% of the time she will develop a close friend at work that starts to replace you. Whatever man she talks to the most usually will get the most attention from her, it is called conversation game. Sure absence makes the heart grow fonder unless another dude is chatting her up. Also is her mind like; I can't wait to get home to my man, or is it; I need to work harder at work to improve my life.

BTW; your not supposed to get caught and if you don't admit it, find any reason to deny it and stick to it. Did you loan your car to someone else... if that is where the evidence was..
 

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According to KS men don't cheat. They exercise options.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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Don't ever sh1t where you eat l, if your cheating, you do it at her place or not at all, banging in the ride you drive your girl in or the bed you sleep with her... See this is the problem with SoSuave today are all these purple pilled pansies who wanna say cheating is bad, sure it is, but there are varying degrees of it, cheating in the same ride, same bed, that your girl use, bro this is amateurish at best, extremely disrespectful to her on a level higher than if you had just cheated at some broads house, there is levels to it, don't sh1t where u eat
 

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Don't ever sh1t where you eat l, if your cheating, you do it at her place or not at all, banging in the ride you drive your girl in or the bed you sleep with her... See this is the problem with SoSuave today are all these purple pilled pansies who wanna say cheating is bad, sure it is, but there are varying degrees of it, cheating in the same ride, same bed, that your girl use, bro this is amateurish at best, extremely disrespectful to her on a level higher than if you had just cheated at some broads house, there is levels to it, don't sh1t where u eat
A woman travels, she don't bang the dude right in front of you, sure she cheated but she didn't cuckold you
 

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the reason I went off and had secks with another chick was cause stuff was getting kinda dry in bed for us.. we weren’t having secks as often and she would always get late off work cause she works long shift. We weren’t as intimate and afectionate anymore…

But I feel like I really lost a legit girl… is their any hope she’ll come back? She found out yesterday.
Why did you cheat on her if you didn't want to lose her? What did you think was going to happen?
 

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Been in a relationship for a year and got caught cheating. My girl is a fantastic girlfriend. Super affectionate, sex was amazing, supported me and everything I did always wanted to be around me. Her family told her i was a POS and she chose to not believe them and picked me over them.

long story short she found a condom wrapper and everything basically went down hill.

the reason I went off and had secks with another chick was cause stuff was getting kinda dry in bed for us.. we weren’t having secks as often and she would always get late off work cause she works long shift. We weren’t as intimate and afectionate anymore…

But I feel like I really lost a legit girl… is their any hope she’ll come back? She found out yesterday.

i know most of you alphbots will say NEXT..
Tell her the truth. Tell her you find it boring to always be having sex with the same girl. You might find this surprising, but a lot of girls accept it.
 

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Been in a relationship for a year and got caught cheating.
Shame on you.

the reason I went off and had secks with another chick was cause stuff was getting kinda dry in bed for us.
Explains but doesn't justify.

But I feel like I really lost a legit girl… is their any hope she’ll come back?
If she has any self love, no. But chances are that if she really likes you and is with an open heart, she might give you another chance.
 

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Shame on you.


Explains but doesn't justify.


If she has any self love, no. But chances are that if she really likes you and is with an open heart, she might give you another chance.
Most men want to have sex with multiple women. Why should a man be ashamed of doing what it is natural for a man to do?
 

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Even if she "forgives" you things will never be the same because she would not trust you, she would be suspicious of every move you make and would make drama of everything so I say it's not worth it because the damage has already been done.

Man up and own your mistakes and do yourself a favor to move on.

Next time don't be so stupid with leaving traces behind, that's amateur work.
 

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You were on your way out anyway.... the truth is she is likely glad you cheated, now she can break things off and you'll be the bad guy. If she still loved you, she wouldn't have taken this public, and would have tried to get past this.

Women put on weight, become b1tcher, cut off sex... when they are losing interest in you. A chick that is in love with you, will keep fit, be sweet and submissive, and will do what you want in bed.

Just move on, you are done with this one.
 

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Nothing to worry about now..... carry on and bang the other lady... the "good one" is done.... can't have your cake and eat it too....
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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