I like this man. Really good advice. Is it inevitable that one day she will try to pull the sex power game?
I feel like after 10 yrs or so she would get tired of fuccing you? I guess dread game is the only way to keep it fresh. You might be right.
Honestly, there could be a billion of reasons. She may try it, but it's up to you to avoid. The main thing is that she will be cutting off sex to punish you for something. You didn't pay attention on her, you have been too comfortable with her, you have not been dating her, so on. It's a way for the woman to say "you don't do what I like, I won't do what you want".
My experience with that in special, I talked with the girl and we came to the conclusion that she felt I was more into sex than into her, and it hurted her feelings. So, what really happened is that she felt like she could take control of the sex, and she didn't do exactly because she didn't want to, but because she felt it was something I was taking away from her. For her, my mindset was "I'm gonna talk a bit with so later we can be having sex", if I can make it short.
The points to pay attention are:
- Never make sex a big deal. If she doesn't want to give you, don't force, nor beg or plead. Just ask her if there's something going on, she will give you the signs and will be willing to talk. Based on that, if you ask good quality questions you will be able to reach the problem and hopefully solve it.
- Never make her feel like she is the "owner" of sex in the relationship. The main mistake that will make her feel like that is if your actions communicate her that you're taking sex away from her. If you go too explicit with your goals, instead of going with the flow, she will notice, and she will reject you, no matter how much she wants you. There's naturally a difference between going for what you want and acting good or in a certain way to get what you want, and I'm talking about the second one here.
- As my mom used to say, intimacy starts at the very moment you wake up. If you don't make your girl feel well around you, safe, understood and loved, she will naturally close herself to you. Legs close first, then emotions, and then the relationship itself. To avoid that to happen is always good, once you notice a change, ask her if there's anything going on, dig deeper, there's always something.