Lets be honest about hypergamy

[Pandora]

I listen to a video from Happy Hermit and it got me thinking. A males insatiable sex drive is akin to a females hypergamy. No matter how good the female you have at home you still want to smash the next hot 24 yr old. You can never smash enough hot young perky feminine women. Every man is a cheater he just didn't have the opportunity. If you had hot curvy 24 yr old women at your fingertips you would never be able to settle down. Zekko I love ya man but I dont believe that you would not cheat if you had young attractive groupies lining up for you. Sorry =).

A woman's hypergamy is the same all consuming pull as a mans sex drive. It is just as intense. That need to constantly level up status wise is the same intensity of us constantly needing to diversify sexually. How can we blame them for something that we struggle with daily? Porn addiction which most men have to some degree is the same thing as a woman's swiping left addiction. Lets not be hypocrites.

The only difference is that the modern world is letting every woman act on their addiction. Like a junkie it is destroying their lives. The vast majority of men will never have the status to act on their vagina addiction. This keeps us from destroying our lives.

 

[Velasco]

There was a comment I really liked earlier this month from oldmanofthesea on the benefit of marriage:

If I'm really attracted to a girl I'm dating, I don't find myself craving other women. I do still look at other women, and I am still attracted to them, but it's not difficult for me to not act on it. I enjoy sex better with a girl I respect/admire and am attracted to and familiar with more than a stranger, and this for me is the single biggest reason I enter LTRs and am open to them. I am very picky and specific in what I look for in women physically, but I can still find women to sleep with. What's much harder for me is to find women I really respect and admire. Basic women bore and annoy me. When I find a girl I am 100% physically attracted to, but also really admire for who they are, what they can do, and their confidence, my attraction increases and it makes sex and everything else a lot better

And guys know, the only girl you can't game is the girl who is in love with her man. I have wondered if this is some kind of cheat code. That stops her from acting on her attraction. Recently my girl of 3 years did mention one time her personal trainer who was hitting on her at the gym. By the way he sound, it sound like he knows what he's doing (game) and is way better looking than me. Of course this made me insecure because there is really no benefit in her to choose me over him (i am not rich and i do not live near her). So she should obviously monkey branch to him and ditch me. But it didn't happen. She still behaves the same way towards me. Extremely loving and feminine. Buys me anything I want. Lots of sex. So this thing (along with oldmanofthesea's comment) really seems is the thing you want if you do not want to cheat on your girl (I still cheat because I am not in love. I just happen to really like my girl) or her to cheat on you.

 

[Pandora]

(I still cheat because I am not in love. I just happen to really like my girl)

lololol i love this comment. Yes I agree brotha. Every man is this way. We can really like a girl but our sexual hypergamy still kicks in. I agree with the Oldmanofthesea comment. But........if he could never ever get caught he would still cheat.

Your gf will not monkey branch right NOW because she is still in that limerence phase. Trust me she is a little bit tempted to cheat or else she would have never told you about him. The more she hangs out with that personal trainer the more tempted she will be. I advise you end that contract with the trainer right now. If you get married to her one day that being in love feeling will run out. Then she will start to stray unless you are the absolute best she can get.

 

[EyeBRollin]

The principle is true but it’s not as simple as she will leave for a better guy. Women also value seniority; if she had invested significant time (think: youth) and resources into a man it is not of her interest to monkey branch for anything less than a sure thing. That is why they line them up well before dumping you. This is also why they stay in relationships with chumps.

 

[Pandora]

The principle is true but it’s not as simple as she will leave for a better guy. Women also value seniority; if she had invested significant time (think: youth) and resources into a man it is not of her interest to monkey branch for anything less than a sure thing. That is why they line them up well before dumping you. This is also why they stay in relationships with chumps.

Yes I agree. The priniciple is true but you are right. Practically speaking it works a little different. But best believe in her imagination she is constantly comparing you to the bigger better deal. She does not do it when she is in love but once it starts to fade.......

 

[Pandora]

" I can have me a good girl but still be addicted to those hood rats....then blame it all on you, because thats what I good at"....Kanye West
Preach Kanye, preach

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

The only difference is that the modern world is letting every woman act on their addiction.

The modern world is also letting men act on their addiction.

Men just suck at it way more than women.

The opportunities are/will be there, but few are chasing them.

 

[Pandora]

The modern world is also letting men act on their addiction.

Men just suck at it way more than women.

The opportunities are/will be there, but few are chasing them.

haha I dont think it is easy for the average guy to act on their addiction. Maybe for hot guys.

 

[bmp2cpm]

A woman's hypergamy is the same all consuming pull as a mans sex drive. It is just as intense. That need to constantly level up status wise is the same intensity of us constantly needing to diversify sexually. How can we blame them for something that we struggle with daily?

I have to disagree with this point. Women are much more complicated than this.

Women want a man with resources who they can have a huge influence in getting the man to share.

Emotional connection is a huge part of getting a man to share. When the emotional connection is over, the ability of the woman to get the man to share is in jeopardy and women seriously start looking elsewhere, ie in your term, looking to level up.

Do a large part of women’s activities such as social skills and gossiping revolve around knowing what men have the best resources and how that man’s current relationship is going for that man? Absolutely. This is biology.

Quality women can keep their man, his resources, and her influence on him sharing. These women do not need to constantly level up.

The ability for a woman to get her man to share is more important than the amount of resources the man has. What good are lots of resources to a woman if the man will not share them?

Low quality women cannot sustain an emotional connection with their man, cannot secure the man’s resources, and therefore always seem to be looking for the next best thing.